We went shopping last night and I picked out a couple of baby-doll tops. I made the mistake of not trying them on in the store - I didn't realize how deep the 'V' went in front but Hubby was estatic when he saw me wearing them! He said that I'm a hot babe and need to start dressing more like one! I'm sitting here at work with cleavage showing - it's just not me! Any suggestions for a compromise?
2007-07-20 02:34:37 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A female co-worker just told me that it only looks low to me, because I'm looking DOWN at them. (I'm a D cup) We shall see what the males think when they start to come in to get their pay checks. (where's my sweater?)
2007-07-20 02:50:24 · update #1
Do it for him in private to start and then in some situations where he is with you. Do it in small steps. And classy, but revealing, or slightly, or illusions is better than cheap. Do it where you don't know people, such as a restaurant. Don't do it at work.
2007-07-20 02:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course your husband is going to want to see your body. But there is a difference in showing ur goods to your husband, and putting yourself on display at work. There are dress codes, and also you dont want to be too revealing, as that can soil your reputation. Women have to be very careful, anyway, at work with what we wear, because that can play into how our male co-workers, and bosses look at us... it also can stir up the jealousy in older, less attractive female workers. You dont need it.
You should just tell him, honey when we are going out to dinner, or whatever I'll dress a little bit sexier... but when going to work, or the grocery store, ITS A NO GO.
You can also try wearing like shorts and litttle tops around the house as you do chores, or laundry. That way he's getting his fill, and you're in a comfortable setting and able to be you.
It just comes down to you knowing your own limits, and using common sense. You know its not appropriate to be sitting at work with your cleavage hanging out... come on. lol There are plenty ways to WOW your husband, without WOWing your co-workers. :) hehehe
2007-07-20 02:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband picked out a shirt like that for me once too. He wanted me to wear it in public, so I wore it to the store one time. All I could think about the whole time I was there was the fact that I was on display to the whole world! I kept wondering why he was using me to show off and why he would want other men looking at me lustfully. I still don't have an answer for it. I tried to tell him I was uncomfortable wearing the clothes in public but he just didn't understand.
I would try talking to your husband, and hopefully he will understand your point of view. But when it comes down to it, you gotta do what you think is right and what you are comfortable with.
2007-07-20 02:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by lookoutthewindow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes your husband happy! Here is the happy medium but only wear the clothes around him. If you do not make him happy he may find someone else who will. A little cleavage is all he is asking for and there is ntohing wrong with but tell him that you would feel better only doing this in front of him. If he is not fine with that then you guys should really sit down and talk.
2007-07-20 02:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by Dorothy L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have the opposite problem. I have recently started feeling more comfortable with my body and have begun dressing in more revealing clothes, but they are by no means slutty or inappropriate. Now my husband complains that I look "too hot". I would wear what you feel comfortable with. If you don't want to go out in public in these clothes, then don't, and if there is any question about them being inappropriate for work, then err on the side of caution, and don't wear them to work.
2007-07-20 03:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! As i can see it.. there might be no problem on that. You might just been feeling unusual of the sudden change of wardrobe. But then, come to think of it. You're hubby might just be right. You're beautiful and that's what he want the whole world to know.
He might sound demanding telling you to start dressing like those but its one way of telling you that he does adore and admire you a lot. You should really be happy on that than worrying.
Its not actually that he tells you to change the way you dress immediately. Have some time. Think of it carefully. There are a lot of fashion styles that may best fit your preferences without thinking that its not anymore you. Why not try them on. You might just enjoy experimenting with new stuffs.
Trust me.. and good luck! :D
2007-07-20 02:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by XD 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the last 2 posters. Let him know that you don't feel comfortable wearing that at the office, but that you wouldn't mind wearing that in the privacy of your own home, or when you go out on a date. Communication if very important. Talk to him calmly, and try to compromise.
2007-07-20 02:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your revealing clothes are not meant for work, my dear. They are to spice up your sex life not look like a hoochy mama at the work place. Save the "hot" wear for places outside of work, it doesn't send the right message to the people you work with or those you work for. You should know that anyway, you are an adult. It's not a compromise, it's common sense.
2007-07-20 02:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by foodieNY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A compromise would typically be that you go back to the store and see if there are some other tops with cleavage that you feel are you, but still makes you feel sexy and perhaps a bit sexier than you normally feel.
2007-07-20 02:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Compromise. Wear them for him. Don't wear them to work or when you are hanging out with people where it would make you uncomfortable. It is not like you have to wear those particular clothes every day! But when you're just hanging out with the hubby, then why not?
2007-07-20 02:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋