2007-07-20 02:34:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Emotionally straying? Well, if your spouse was the one that you were supposed to laugh with, talk with about anything and everything in the world, your rock, your soft place to fall, then why would you have that kind of connection outside of the marriage with another person? This kind of closeness and intimacy you once shared with your spouse, is now being given to another, that is infidelity and its totally unacceptable because it destroys the foundation you had built for only the 2 of you.
It takes away from the marriage and if you found out that your spouse had this kind of connection with another, that's something like physical infidelity, it can't be taken back.
2007-07-20 02:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a large can of grey spray paint and let it loose all over your query; because your question is loaded with shades of grey.
Life and relationships are fluid entities, with no easily definable cubicles. How we connect with our spouses, is not easily measured. We can describe it- but like weather patterns there are some days that are sunnier than others.
Now certainly there are extremes of "emotional straying" that are outside the shades of grey and if the emotional straying compromises the core integrity of a marriage-well that is crossing a line.
By my description, my wife & I have a good marriage (21) years, however, there have been times when work issues, extended family catastrophes and medical illnesses have brought us up against considerable adversity.
All in all we have navigated those challenges together pretty well, yet there have been times where one of us was not as emotionally connected to each other while we were in crisis action mode.
That's the nature of the grey beast.
It needs discussed and defined (to the extent that it can be) by the couple.
2007-07-20 10:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by Raintrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion emotionally straying can destroy a relationship before the actual sexual straying because where the emotions are involved matters way more than just a romp in the sack. Either way straying usually is a sign that there are deep problems that need immediate attention or the relationship is doomed.
2007-07-28 09:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by jdydewing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
emotionally straying is when you have such a close relationship with someone of the opposite sex, that they are the one you confide in about your hopes, dreams, fears and insecurites. Communication is the key to a good marriage and when you're getting your moral support from outside the marriage then where is the marriage and to whom
2007-07-28 01:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotional straying is when you start to develop feelings for someone else. It could also mean that you are losing feelings for someone. In either case, it's something you should discuss with your spouse to see if there is away to rekindle the sparks. It is possible.
Is it acceptable? Ask yourself how you'd feel if the one you love stopped loving you or started loving someone else.
2007-07-20 09:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Emotionally Straying" is talking and being intimate without sex with someone other than the person you are committed too. It is very unacceptable because it really hurts the person you are with.
2007-07-20 09:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by Cathy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eww, good question...I think there is nothing wrong with strying emotionaly.. My husband wasn't there in a time of great need for me.(when my Mom and Dad not even 3 months apart. and we were living with them at the time) So I had to look to another for comfort. Emotionaly at that period in my life I was Emotionaly attached to another.. But as time went on it dissapeared....With out knowing spasifics of your situation this is all the help I can give you....Also I believe that as long as you are not in any way physical with another its not cheating...Flirting with others is sometimes good for your relationship..With both parties understanding...It builds trust and kills the green eyed monster..
2007-07-20 09:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional straying, as defined by me, is nothing more than pure selfishness.
2007-07-27 20:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
emotional infidelity is just as bad as cheating and having sex. yes it is very unacceptible. you should talk to you spouse if you're missing something in you relationship.
2007-07-20 09:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by Shrimpboat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is just as bad as a physical affair, In fact the one could lead to the other
2007-07-27 14:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋