Have you HONESTLY considered the fact that......?

Question

if heterosexual men and women had been practicing responsible sexual activety there would be considerably less children needing adoption into good homes?

I don't understand why heterosexual people are up in arms over homosexual people adopting children......

Aren't we in fact simply trying to clean up the mess that heterosexuals have made of parenting?? I mean you all can't get the job done - why complain when we want to do the job for you??

DId you all read Tashas statement evidentially ONLY couples who procreate are married!!!

Answer 1

Tab...you are SO true....people need to take responsibility for their actions....they have sex...don't want the kid...won't abort...insist on having the kid...then give it away....THEN want the right to complain about who raises the kid.....vicious cycle...

Answer 2

Tasha needs to get her head out of the sand and go visit a few orphanages and runaway shelters. Gay couples aren't taking children out of stable, heterosexual families, but adopting children who are already available for adoption, often older children, many abused and abandoned, who heterosexual couples won't consider adopting.

In fairness, though, I don't consider adopting available children as "cleaning up a mess that heterosexuals have made of parenting." There's no need to get on a high horse here, generalizing about how these children came to be available. I'm sure heterosexual adoptive parents don't have that attitude. Why should gays? Let's not cast aspersions on a noble gesture.

Answer 3

While I'm not so sure about your philosophy on the world's adoptee children being simply a result of "heterosexual's not practicing safe sex habits", I do believe that same sex couples should be able to adopt, given they are good candidates. They should be put through the same screening as heterosexual couples wanting to adopt. I do think that you are generalizing heterosexuals though. Most homosexuals would be offended if someone made statements like what you are saying about them. The truth is, people make mistakes. All people regardless of race, religion, or sexual orientation. And they should not be condemmed for them. But you especially cannot blame all of the heteorsexual society for a problem. I do not agree with the person who said you are not generalizing just because you didn't add the word "all" do your statements. You should choose your words more carefully. You can't expect to get any results from people if you can't speak democratically.

Answer 4

Tasha-

Unless you yourself has grown up with two parents of the same sex or at least known someone who has then you know nothing. I've had friends with gay parents, and the only difference that I saw from them and kids with straight parents was that they were open minded and more mature. And you say that many straight people adopt? WRONG. They usually either want their own kids or they accedently had their own kids before they even considered adoption. Gay couples are FAR more likely to adopt.

And, to those saying 'oh your generalising blah blah blah..' You're not contributing ANYTHING. If this person said 'ALL heteros do this etc etc' then yes that would be a generalisation.. But right now it's not different than people like Tasha saying that all children with gay parents are confused.

..Btw, since OH SO MANY straight couples adopt, why don't you adopt a few children yourself?

..I thought so.

Answer 5

I definatly agree!
I'm bi but getting married to a guy anyway; so I can't agree based on firsthand personal experience or anything....but I do agree on principal itself. I also know some same sex couples that are amazing with kids, they're incredibly patient and good examples.
the point is though that a person's sexuality has nothing to do with their morals...or supposed lack thereof. Children need love and support and guidance- when they can receive that from 2 men or 2 women who love each other and the child very much- what gives anyone else a right (or even grounds) to complain?

not to mention *alot* of the same people who oppose homosexuals getting married and adopting kids are the same people who oppose abortion- so they're essentially saying people *have* to bring kids into this world, and if they can't/won't take care of them, those kids "should" stay in foster care or orphanages as opposed to a loving home with 2 male influences or 2 female ones?? it just doesn't make any sense to me :( it's inhuman....

good question tho, like I said, I totally agree.

Answer 6

Most parents give up their children for adoption realizing that THEY are not fit or capable of providing for that child's needs.
If those parents were able to "choose" the adoptive parents for that child based on any and all criteria but NOT include the adoptive family's sexual orientation, would it even matter?
I think if I were putting a child up for adoption, I would look at all the things that I would want to provide for that child if I were capable: stable housing, financial stability, education, compassion, kindness, mental stability...not who the parent decides to sleep with in bed.
I didn't get to choose my heterosexual parents, but if I could, I would choose parents that fit those qualifications, regardless if they were gay or straight..what matters is that the child is loved and cared for.

For those who say it will "mess up" the child's life...what's more "stressful"..living with 2 loving parents who happen to be of the same sex, or being bounced in and out of foster care and ophanages and/or schools for the child's entire life, and then when they turn 18, the government drops them on their a** and essentially says "fend for yourself, our contract is up" talk about abusive parents.

Answer 7

Tab, it is not that all children who need to be adopted were a result of someone's neglect. Yes, there are children who were victims of neglect by their parents, but then there are countless children all around the world, who were orphaned, and it was not neglect of their parents.

The argument is not so much as we taking it upon us to clear someone else's mess, but about how we can provide a loving home to any child that needs a home. It is about LGBT people being capable of good parenting, and that we can raise a child in as perfect a manner a heterosexual couple will.

People will complain, it is their habit. As long as you can be a good parent to a child, you should not worry about what they say. And it is best to lead by example. One day, I am sure there will be enough LGBT families with well turned out children to shut everybody's mouth forever.

Answer 8

Many are against "gay adoption" because of insufferable ignorance and their continued belief that " lesbians and gay men are more likely to molest children."

The American Psychological Association, in a recent report reviewing the research, observed that "not a single study has found children of gay or lesbian parents to be disadvantaged in any significant respect relative to children of heterosexual parents," and concluded that "home environments provided by gay and lesbian parents are as likely as those provided by heterosexual parents to support and enable children's psychosocial growth."

That is why the Child Welfare League of America, the nation's oldest children's advocacy organization, and the North American Council on Adoptable Children say that gays and lesbians seeking to adopt should be evaluated just like other adoptive applicants.

Answer 9

This is a great point; I see personally all of the "single" parents on public assistance, shooting more and more children out all by different fathers. Yet a professional gay couple that can provide a good home, education and lots of love and care gets slack for it. These "baby" mama's are only using their children for a paycheck. They are neglected, under educated and generally end up on the same track of teen pregnancy and drugs.

Answer 10

Well Tab, I really like the way you put that!!! I am married with four kids that I love dearly ! They are #1 in my life! But I always see what you are talking about!!! People making babies & not taking care of them or abusing them! My two best friends are lesbiens and delivered two of my kids with me! They are my childrens( earth parents) I prefer that to "god parents" If any person is willing to provide a safe loving home to a child, why would anyone want to stop them?
I support any adoption that would provide a child with a good home & up bringing! People need to get over it!!! This is not the dark ages, or is it!?! Peace to you & yours & good luck!!!

Answer 11

Good point. Also add that a well funded study found that gay parents are 10 TIMES more likely to adopt children who are physically and mentally handicap, were born with diseases, etc.

Not to mention it could lower adoption needs in this country by more then half!