what can you do if you wanna display to the world a'' screw you if your offended, im gonna be me, & do what i

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want, when i want, how i want, im not gonna pander to no one, and stick to my principles, & its tough if your offended'' attitude.....
but say if you cant carry this off in public & your afraid, because you have high anxiety & panic problems with low self esteem, so you can never carry this attitude off or dont have the confidence to display this attitude outside? & you always have a panic attack and anxiety, and your low self esteem always lets you down?....i get so angry & enraged with myself, because i aspire to be this way, have this mentality ,but because of these problems that ive had long term, i can never carry it off outside & i let myself down & get enraged with myself..because i dont have the confidence & belief to display this mentality
im a 30 year old bpd sufferer whos had a very traumatic life, whos been victimized and bullied heavily, now i wait for therapy..but i get extremely enraged about this, because i wanna be able to carry this mentality off......what can i do?

Answer 1

I think the best thing to do is nothing at all.

You will act on your own defenses.
But dont be defensive all of the time.
Let people know where you stand when a situation comes up, and if they dont like it too bad.

You have to think too, the rest of us have problems too. Maybe not as bad, maybe none at all. But it will help you when you look at other people
Some people are too involved with themselves to notice others, so that's when it's time to find new friends who are interested in you.
Create yourself and be who you are without worry from other people.
Try baby steps at a time. Make a goal. This week I will go to the busiest grocery store and walk around 10 minutes and buy something with my head high, and my chest out.
Be nice to someone, be loud. Say thank you as loud as you can.
Someone once told me, if you approach some one dont you think they would be flattered that you approached them?
Just the same with you, if someone approached you to be friendly you would flattered. Make yourself that person

Answer 2

Hi, sorry to hear you are feeling so bad. There is stuff you can do while you are on the waiting list. The following steps should eliminate (or at least significantly reduce) your panic attacks and anxiety:

1.Breathe properly - if you control your breathing, you control panic. As soon as you notice the signs of anxiety, check your breathing: breathe in slowly through your nose pushing your tummy out (to the count of 5 or so). Breathe out slowly and for a bit longer (to the count of 7 or so) through your mouth. Do not breathe rapidly or shallowly (in the chest area). This will soon restore the balance of oxygen and you will feel a lot better.

2. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy! CBT is proven to be the most effective thing for panic attacks, anger and anxiety etc. It takes a bit of work, but it is super effective. (After 15 years of panic attacks, mine stopped completely). You can speak to your doctor about taking a course or you can take a course for free online at: www.livinglifetothefull.com It is funded by NHS Scotland.

3. Try relaxation exercise tapes (progressive muscular relaxation). They really help if you practise often enough. You can get free downloads if you put "progressive muscle relaxation" into Google (e.g. lots of universities have them as free downloads)

With each step practise makes perfect. (i.e. practise the steps every day, not just when you are feeling bad). I hope you feel better soon. Best of luck!

Answer 3

well start with your esteem and do something to make yourself feel better, like get some you time and pamper yourself, get a new haircut and style it a little differently, then well tell you what send me a pic of you and i will help you with a new style that will make you feel like a million bucks then we will go from there, i would like to help you out if i can, and as far as the victimizing and bullying that we will tackle next we have to do things 1 step at a time, get in front of your mirror and look at yourself and tell yourself, I am me and I am a great person and what happend to me I will NEVER do to anyone else because it was hurtfull, look in the mirror and say I am a great person and I , not some thereapist will make me better because I can do it. and I am starting today, wash your face or take a shower and prepare to go get a new do for starters, but send me a pic so that I can better guide you, good luck and take care, if you cant send a pic describe yourself and we will go from there, bye and good luck

Answer 4

I think we are all entitled to be individuals and to live and express our individuality. However a truly civilized person does not go out of his or her way to offend other people.

Bipolar disorder is treatable, and every one of us--including the so-called "normal" people--has suffered abuse and injustice.

If it is truly principles you are "sticking to" then go for it, but if you are being selfish then I would say you are entitled to whatever further pain that attitude will bring you, and I will guarantee it will bring you some.

Seek treatment and learn to trust other people, even if it is one or two other people. You can't face life alone. You especially need someone to love and support you.

Good luck. I will pray for your life to get better, but it won't happen if you don't try to make it better.

Answer 5

I hope you are in therapy right now. Sounds like group therapy would suit you well. You just need practice. The more practice the less those pangs of fear will show up. Remember that no one else knows how nervous or fearful you are but you. They are thinking about their own feelings. It's true, so forge ahead and practice. Exposure is the way to beat fear and worry. Never pamper either one of them.

Answer 6

I don't think this is a good attitude to have to start with. Most people who hold this attitude are using it as a mask behind deeper feelings.

Answer 7

Sorry to hear about your problem. I have heard from many people with similar stories. Sadly, the health system is such that unless you are wealthy........