my up bringing was not good and know i keep on thinking about my past and it makes angry and very emotional that i trie to harm my self,what can i do to iver come these problems?
2007-07-20 01:45:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Listen to me, and listen to me very carefully please, okay? You MUST do something about the way you feel... (asking this question was a good start btw- and you will find a lot of good posts)
I don't know how old you are or how long you have been suffering, but please believe and understand that these problems and feelings will not simply go away by themselves... do not allow these feelings the power to control or direct your life. They can- and will- if you don't do something about it.
(Btw, feeling resentments and anger to such a degree can often be symptoms of depression. Depression is much different than simply feeling "down" or angry. Depression needs to be taken taken very seriously.)
If you cannot or will not get help from a qualified -and caring- professional, then at least do as much research on what you are feeling as you can. The internet and the question bank here are good places to look. As soon as possible, connect with someone in your community, someone "real" that you can talk to face-to-face.. It may feel awkward at first- but you WILL feel better and you WILL get better.
You must also know that in so many ways, you DO have the power and ability to control the way you are feeling. Thru "self-help" or thru medication or any other method or suggestion you may find... It is your decision that takes these steps to overcome your anger and emotional problems. Help comes from "outside", but the power to really change comes from you.
Sometimes it helps if you can think of your mind and feelings as "unruly children" , whom YOU, as a kind and loving parent, have the right and responsibility to guide and instruct... (regardless of how your own parents may have been)
One last thing- and this could be the hardest thing to accept: Forgiveness -if possible- of those who hurt you or made you suffer is also an important part of freeing yourself from your past... (and freedom to think, feel, choose and BE who you are -without suffering from or tied to your past- is one of the things I am sure that you want).
Do what you have to do, do as much as you can do -but do something , and believe and know that things will get better for you...
Best of luck , take care
2007-07-21 02:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by 2bornot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive an ignorant outsider I never self-harmed but had recurrent thoughts of wrongness were triggered off much later by encountering other unfeeling cruelty I met in others that sometimes mean simply being unable to leave where Iam without punching but it passes at this distance without the need for more...
remember you are both sides of this and are putting up with what you are doing to yourself... share and be open to finding a balance
Some say you can use drugs, therapy, replacement actions, calling friends to give yourself a break from it, but find a way to balance. Learning of it may help you pull away sucess in other things or helping others may buy some time .. I met a social worker who had self-harmed for years and believe me, I don't think even he had the answer "to make it go away". He just knew ultimately he was more than the tunnel he had gone down each time he had done it to himself.
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2007-07-20 09:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by Teal R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I suggest EMDR with a therapist. Getting to the root of the issues takes hard personal work, and using a therapist as an appointment to "work" is like using a trainer at the gym. Most people just can't get into good shape from bad shape without some training, accountability and support.
2007-07-20 09:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by jodimode 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By admitting that you have anger and emotional problems you are starting to overcome them. See your GP and ask them to recommend a course of action to help you, counselling, psychotherapy etc. I wish you the very best of luck. You sound like you have a problem I used to have and thats being a prisoner of your past!
2007-07-20 20:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by stuartie74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try Going to a website that helps people and join a forum there are many people in the same situation who you can talk with listen to relaxing music and remember it's all over now
2007-07-20 08:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some self help books and that may help. Be able to have a good friend to talk to about it. You have to help your self. I had anger issues but I read alot of self help books about how to have a positive lifestyle and I am happy as ever! Good Luck my friend!
2007-07-20 08:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by ♥M♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try positive thinking like to tell yourself that I'm good, I can do it, I'm happy or something else that positive and do some interesting hobby, read a good book, and looking forward. It hopeless to thinking about the past, if it's bad remember don't do it again,if it' good try your best now. Something to forget, something to remember.
2007-07-20 09:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by iahtu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was going through the same thing i sought proffesional help but if you cant afford it like i was unable to just try to have someone to listen to you. get this out of your system. once its out its a big relief. as far as harming yourself do something physical like somekind of martial arts or something that requires you to exhaust yourself keeps your mind off of things as you try to get this out of your system. it will take a while. it wont happen overnight but you must have someone to talk to about it.
2007-07-20 09:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by rcx56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get therapy - take prozac, or serzone, or effexor -
the past is past - take the best of your past to be who u want to be.. sitting around whining 'OH WOE IS ME' tough crap - take control - realize that GOD loves you, you have a purpose - & get over yourself!
2007-07-20 08:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by eaw 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋