And now its decided that we are getting married, now she
said few days back to me,,,,, that she would like to hand around with her best friend which is a BOY of my age.
She never said any thing like this before we decided to get married.
Now what do I do?
Should I get married to her?
Should I talk to her and tell her no way you cannot hand around like this.
OR I dont say any thing, just keep quite
Or some times I think, she will be too busy with me and my family and her family and new world of marriage that she will hardly get time to think of moving around with that boy.
What do you say?
Any new advise?
If you all were at my place, what whould you have done?
Please request. No fun. Serious reply only
2007-07-20 00:31:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hand around? What the hell does that mean?
If it has anything to do with cheating, do not marry her!!!!
2007-07-20 00:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be fine if she wanted to hang around with her best friend...even if it is a guy. A lot of women have best friends that are guys...it's really no big deal.
If you love her, marry her...don't let her best friend stand in your way. She will be YOUR wife and that is all that matters!
Once she is married, she will be a lot busier than she thinks. Marriage is a lot of work.
If you are concerned about this guy, why not talk with her about it or see if you guys can set some ground rules about how much/how long she will be able to hang out with him, so as not to neglect you, her work, your home, etc.
I really think it's harmless, but I do see why you would be concerned.
2007-07-20 00:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's look at this logically, you love her enough to marry her therefore you should be able to trust her. If you can't trust her why would you marry her.
Just because her friend is a make does not mean that they cannot have a perfectly innocent friendship. I happen to have a lot of male friends that I would never think about in a sexual way--they are like my brothers!
Get a grip and trust the woman whom you are going to marry. And under no circumstances is it right foor you to tell her who she is allowed to be friends with. The only thing that is okay for you to express is that it makes you feel uncomfortable but because of your love her you can accept it.
2007-07-20 00:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
we always hope that our partner in life will get along with our family and friends. that would be ideal wouldnt it? but, some friends that cause a problem in the relationship should be dealt with. find out why you suddenly dont like her friend and why you feel he/she is a threat to you if she is spending time with him. didnt you/she hang around with her friend prior to you meeting her?
If my fiance had a best friend girl....I would want her to also be my friend. If I thought there was more to the 'friendship' than just being friends...I would know this before I got engaged!
2007-07-20 00:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why she hangs around with other boy? You two are going to marry. So you two should hang around. No other can be with you two. So you should ask her abut it politely. Discuss and solve. If she wants to be with that boy then let her go. You leave her. But before that, give her a chance.
2007-07-20 00:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by dibesic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it mean u thinking of dun wanna marry her coz of she wanna 2 hang around with a friend?????
if u worry, y not go with her?
if after married, she go out with other guy, u divorce her?!
u trust her, but u dun trust this guy, let her know wat in ur mind. the guy might b not like how she think he is.
n, hey, where my mum work is so quiet, my father said if my mum got raped, dun go home !! is this wat luv mean ?! she working coz of he cant afford the home all by himself !! dun u think sometimes man r so ridiculous ?! raped = not wat she want !!
if really anything happened, sure she wont find u anymore, because u mad at her coz of this. try another way, talk nicely 2 her.
u care dun mean u can scold her or blame her
u dun trust her. after marriage also u'll worry. u think ur marriage will b happy?
2007-07-20 01:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we were at your place we'd probably be having a big party.
Get her to hand around you for a while.
2007-07-20 00:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋