does half of the housework and sits down watching tv waiting for hubby to come home from work to do the other half of the housework ?
Is it considered a fair division of work because if he thinks it isnt she can drag him to the divorce court and take his money anyway ?
Do women consider the time he spends at work as his "fun time" ?
2007-07-19 23:50:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
angelsilverstar are you saying a man should do some ironing when he gets back from his shift instead of spending time with the children or did you file spending time with the children under housework ?
2007-07-20 00:04:10 · update #1
How can a housewife be overworked ? Its like stuff you have to do anyway when you are singel only that you have to throw in an extra slab of steak in the pan and the stuff you put in the washing machine is a little bit more without the hassle of having to earn money.
2007-07-20 00:06:05 · update #2
Jamesmom2 Ms1950 If you would take off your Klu Klux can hood so you can read. The 2 gay couples I know keep an spotless house and cook up delightfull food, unlike many of the women of straight couples I frequent. So much for your gay bashing. Actually coming to think of it seen as they seem to be superior in that area as well marrying a man adopting a child and paying female hookers for sex seems to become a very inviting option.
2007-07-20 00:33:20 · update #3
DebraD so a real man is a sucker who does everything so she has a comfy carefree workfree life ? I whish you would be a man and me in a room alone with you so I can beat the stupid out of you.
2007-07-20 01:16:11 · update #4
Juniper you are mental. So if I eat too it becomes suddendly MY dinner ? What is the life of a singel woman like, is she surrounded by elfes which do all the cooking and cleaning but leave as soon as she is married ? HOw is less work (you cleaned and cooked when you were singel AND worked for money) suddendly more work when you have to worry about house and kids but unlike before, you dont have to worry about a job.
2007-07-20 04:36:14 · update #5
Wooooh... i think that is a sweeping statement for housewives. Don't you know that they are the most overworked persons in the world and they don't even get to be paid for it?
2007-07-19 23:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by attyjudz 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Are you married? Let me guess - NO. What is a fair division of work? Well, neither hubby nor wife should be exhausted all the time if the other is not. Unless you're out there being a farmer for 12 hours straight, I think you can manage the stress of loading the dishwasher after you eat the dinner I made for you. MY husband is a good person, so that's what he does. Generally, we're BOTH tired at the end of a long day. I handle things for about an hour or two after he comes home, so he can unwind, and after dinner I have MY relaxing time for an hour or so before we put the kids to bed. That's called "fairness". If you think any woman around is going to serve you 24/7 after your shift as a cashier at Walmart, (or whatever it is you do), to the point of utter exhaustion, might as well get to know a divorce lawyer now.
2007-07-20 03:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Junie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't consider it fair. If a woman decides that she wants to cook and clean the house for a living, she should cook and clean the house. The husband is already working his butt off to support her.
Now if the woman had a paying job, the idea of splitting housework would be justified. I would also like to see the kids taking charge of their own responsibilities around the house.
2007-07-20 04:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess, it's in the "eye of the beholder" is what is considered half the housework and such... I know that even though I'm ONLY a SAHM and my husband works full-time, that when he comes home he helps me with things around the house or to entertain the children so I can finish dinner and what not.. It's because we "share" responsibilities that make our relationship work.. Looks to me that SOMEONE doesn't know how to share and is now the only one in the park... Balancing a marriage and family is work- you can't just clock out and forget about being married/family..
2007-07-20 01:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, usually if the wife is a stay at home mom. Then both parents agreed to it. Although being a stay at home mom myself..I know my job is a lil tough with a one year old and a three year old, but I know his job is more stressful than mine. It doesn't come down to fair division of work..because thats not what its about, its about doing whats best for the family..there are some selfish women out there who would take hubby's work time as fun time, divorce him and take all that money. lol
People have their ways I guess.
2007-07-19 23:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria. 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it is just a married couple with no kids, I think that the stay at home spouse should keep the house clean. Whether it is the wife, or the husband. The other is working, and has the right to relax. It doesn't take much to keep a house clean.
How ever, with kids involved the job become doubly difficult and I do think that the working spouse should help with a few things when they get home. Do the dishes, tuck the kids in, maybe put a little bit of laundry away. Taking care of kids is ALOT of work, and both parents need to help.
2007-07-20 00:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ayana 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I'm assuming there are children involved for this situation to be viable. I am speaking from my own experience as I consider myself to be a stay at home mum, although I do work 3 days a week. I do 90 percent of the house work and at times I feel a little resentful because although my husband is a very hard worker who rarely knocks back an overtime shift, he seems to have much more leisure time than myself being watching TV, playing computer, or going to pub, whichever. Every time I get ready for work it involves organising lunches, clothes, and time to drop kids off at day care. I don't think your lady would be divorcing you simply because you aren't doing half of the house work, it just sounds like she is unhappy in your relationship and has been letting this issue build up for some time, p.s don't let her watch Dr. Phil.....
2007-07-20 00:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by misstth 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The situation's reversed in my case: I work fulltime while my man stays at home. Yes, I have to get up at 6 in the morning and commute, not getting home until late at night, while in contrast he gets up when he wants and pretty much does what he wants. But when I get home the house is always warmly lit, there is dinner cooking, there is music playing and the house is clean. He is always happy and good-natured and a joy to come home to, even when I'm snappy and irritable from something that happened at work. He picks up drycleaning, does grocery-shopping, organises tradesmen, makes sure the kitchen is well stocked, repairs furniture and household maintenance, ferries the kids around and does all the garden stuff. In short, he makes my life easier.
If we ever split, I would really have no problem in him taking half of what's mine. I think without him in my life for the past 7 years, I'd be a stressed out and unbalanced career woman living in a filthy house and eating cereal every night for dinner. Stay-at-home spouses might be seen to be "having it easy", but in fact they just make the working partner's life a hell of a lot more easier, comfortable and stress-free. Unfortunately many men - and women - never realise how much their partner did for them until they're gone.
2007-07-20 00:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by suigeneris 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
This probably isn't fair unless they have kids, as then the wife would be at home all day looking after the kids.
I'm not saying he should housework instead of looking after kids, when he is home and the wife is also at home, it should be divided if needed. This man has done his eight hours (or whatever) of work, she has done the equivelent amount of time at home. Then they should share responsibilty after hours to keep this equality up.
2007-07-19 23:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by ginzuisho 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You truly are a disgusting pig and the prime example of why some women grow to hate men. If I were a man I'd love to be left alone in a room with you for a few minuets and teach you how to respect women!
2007-07-20 01:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by Debra d 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
ok this is it for most housewifes here is the deal....their one job is equivalent to two of ur jobs....they cook for u...clean the house...take care of the kids...grocery shop...most housewives are busybees..esp in thrid world countries housewives are responsible for a majority of the foo intake...i think if they were given that motivation to work outside the home then it would give their lives greater worth but i dont think its an equal division of labor bc the woman actually ends up dong more...now suppose she was to work outside the home...would u come home and help ur wife cook? no probably not she would come home do the dishes take care of the kids and clean after u....believe it or not this is wut most women do so its never an equal division of labor unless both of u work and divide the housework as well....
2007-07-20 02:28:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋