I don't want kids, I'm better putting a saddle on a horse than I am changing diapers. Mothering just isn't for me. Why do people seem to think that every woman should want kids, and if she doesn't something must be wrong with her?
Aren't there plenty of kids that need adopting too, first?
2007-07-19 21:47:31 · 9 answers · asked by mathaowny 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Loquanda--Lol bare feet :) Yeah, bare feet, ready to shoot out a kid at 18, and working 24/7 in the kitchen...
2007-07-19 21:55:50 · update #1
Undir-- I get that "hormones" speech too...I'm convinced that the mothering hormone skipped a generation in my family if that's the case!
2007-07-20 20:21:22 · update #2
No reason you should. Follow your heart, not others dictates.
2007-07-19 21:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by whatotherway 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is traditional and even biblical in a sense. Many things in the world is characterized by Christian beliefs. I am a Christian, but I think a lot of people twist the Word to benefit themself. If you look at biblical teachings, you will often see if a woman is barren then she is an object of scorn. You will hear some say, be fruitful and multiply. If a third of the women in the world did not have children, the human race definately would not die out.
People are very quick to push their own views on people, but they do not clean up their own backyards.
If you do not want children, do not have children. Foster homes are full of unwanted children right now. I would much rather see people not have children than children feeling unwanted all of thier lives.
Your choice is a mature on, because many people give in to the pressures of society and children are being raised unhappy and abused mentally and physically. So I commend your choice, only you can decide what is the best for you.
2007-07-20 00:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by 2fine4u 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The read the other answer before writing this, and was so happy to see that most DO agree that you should do as you please. The problems start when people think they can tell you to have kids, but offer no suggestions on how or why you are supposed to do that and remain a happy person yourself.
A lady I knew well raised horses (for polo) in Burma after WWII, and then did the same in California until her death a few years ago. She loved her life, had many friends, and I never heard her mention missing children. I wish the same happiness on you.
You hit that barefoot and working in the kitchen thing just right, too.
2007-07-19 23:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm married, and I have 2 sons.
I met a nice young lady in the street last weekend, she was walking a King Charles puppy on a lead.I'm a dog owner, and I've had a pet dog most of my life.
The puppy was so pretty, so I went up to say hello.
The young lady told me about the dog.I asked it's name etc.She said she had the dog as a baby substitute as she didn't want children.
I said "Good on you, don't let others dictate that you should have kids.Spoil your pup and enjoy the companionship she gives you".
We both walked off with smiles on our faces.
There are too many people out there having babies and not putting any thought into how they can care for them.
I think you are a caring and responsible person.
You are correct about lots of kids needing adopting.Nobody could argue about that.
Enjoy your life, and do what makes YOU happy.
Have a star.;o)
2007-07-19 22:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by CMH 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That sounds so familiar! I don't want kids either, but people keep asking me WHEN I'm going to have children and when I say I don't want any they almost always respond "oh, just wait, you'll want some eventually, your hormones will wake up one day". Huh? As if we are all the same and want the same from life. I'm getting pretty tired of that attitude. I don't know why people always assume that every woman wants kids.
2007-07-20 00:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by undir 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to be a mother either and I don't want to be a wife. I don't want to take care of somone for 18 years and then some. I like to do what I want, when I want, and how I want and men and children just hinder that process
2007-07-20 13:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because small minds are more comfortable with stereotypes.
It makes things simpler for them to than to deal with a more complex reality where people are individuals, each different, and requiring individual consideration.
2007-07-19 21:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Irv S 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
i dont want every woman to be a mother
2007-07-20 00:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What no children? I suppose you don't have barefeet, either?
2007-07-19 21:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋