My doctor said I'm in danger and i'm only 15 and....?

Question

It's 1am in the morning here but i don't care. I can't sleep. I got myself into this mess and now it seems there is no way out...I was shaking for the past couple of days and I went to the doctor yesterday afternoon and he said I'm losing a lot of weight and on top of that I'm really stressed and then he said my twins are in danger and so am I. I have to go back everyday for the next month or so so he can keep a good eye on me. I had anorexia a few years back, and now i'm 15 and pregnant with two babies, and everything is just falling apart already, and on top of that my doctor said i'm going to die! I know he didn't say that exactly but he said i'm 'in danger', what else is that meant to mean! I'm not bulimic or anything, but i don't eat alot because if i do then i throw up and i dont want that because thats worse. I can't start eating more. I explained this to my doctor and for once he DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO SAY.Look I know this isn't a question but i can't sleep and I don't know wt 2 do

Arggh....the doctor said alot of stuff i cant remember...something about a mixture...does it make sense if he said it is a mixture of normal throwing up and morning sickness...i think that might be what he said...but i'm not sure...

If it is just morning sickness then I've only just started having it and its ALOT.

um...5 weeks? No wait its about 6 now...

er...you can tell if the twins are fraternal, because they aren't growing together.

Answer 1

You will have to start eating a bit more everyday
like just a little bit every few days and then your body will slowly get used to eating more
which will be better for you and your twins in the long run

Answer 2

Katie - First off, I want to take you seriously, but how can you be diagnosed with twins when you are only 5-6 weeks along? And there is generally no way to know whether the twins are fraternal or identical until they are born. If you are telling the truth, you are a little confused. Well, more than a little.

Second, if your doctor is saying these things to try to scare you, you may want to find another doctor. One who is more supportive. At least try to take someone with you, like your mother or a friend, to your appointments so that you have someone to help you understand what is going on. Why are you having doctor visits this early in the pregnancy anyway? Is he an OB?

I've had severe nausea & vomiting in pregnancy three times - it is really awful. I can't keep food down without serious medication -the kind they give to people on chemo. Here is a website for more information:

http://helpher.org/

What you need to remember is that in the early stages of pregnancy, the baby/babies are tiny and don't need much to eat. If you can eat just a little bit and most importantly are keeping hydrated, they will be ok. When you are farther along in your pregnancy it will be important to eat lots, especially protein, but not right now. Just eat whatever you can manage to keep down. I have had 3 perfectly healthy babies - 7.5, 8, and 8.10 pounds. Try not to worry! And get some support.

Answer 3

Dear girl,

You are NOT going to die. But if you really want to have your babies, you have to take proper care of them. It is hard to carry even one, even when you are older and you are only 15, still growing yourself and carrying not one but 2 tiny beings inside of you. There is no way the 3 of you can live normally on little food. Have you read the recommendations about twin pregnancies? Every additional baby needs additional calories. There is just no way around it. Those babies do not feed on air - they feed on you - and if you don't put some food in that stomach, then you are in danger. You might get hospitalized and on IV and under supervision by the end of your pregnancy - do you really want that? Shaking might be a sign of low blood pressure and low blood sugar and anemia and they all have to do with the right nutrition. So do something. If you can't eat more, don't eat more - eat more often. And don't worry that you will become overweight - it will all go for your children. Please, don't give up. Do you have your mom around or anyone with whom you can talk? If you don't, just write to me at [e-mail]

Answer 4

I'm so sorry. How far along are you? It could also be your hormones that are making you over stressed. Try to take it easy. You need to eat though. Even if it isn't a lot, you should try to eat as much as you can throughout the day. I think that might be what the doctor is talking about. Slowly but surely you will get better.

Edited to add:

I just wanted to let you know that I had twins when I was 16 so I know what you are going through. If you need to talk feel free to email me. Also, the morning sickness is horrible. I had so much problems trying to keep things down, but I just ate small amounts as often as I could. Trust me, it will help. My morning sickness with the twins was way worse than morning sickness with my others. How far along are you, btw?

Answer 5

Your doctor was trying to make you realize that this was serious, but all he succeeded in doing was scaring the bejesus out of you. You and your twins *could* be in danger, if you keep going on the path you're on. If you follow the doctor's instructions, the danger will fade. You need to start eating more, even if you don't think you can. Being pregnant with twins, I'm sure you'll be getting an appetite soon!

Answer 6

follow the doctors advice to the last letter. You may end up having to be hospitalised. If you are continually throwing up then you will be dehydrated and malnurished. Do what is best for your babies as they will be having a hard enough start having a 15 year old mother without having to cope with illnesses. Twins are A LOT of work (I have them) I hope you have plenty of support. You need to talk to the doctor about your sleeping problems too as you need plenty of rest. Go and try to rest. Put everything out of your mind and try some meditation. Good luck with it all

Answer 7

Firstly, Unless your planning on having an abortion you really must focus on the well being of your children. That means eating a balanced and healthy diet, getting all the nutrients you need, even if you throw it up you just have to try. I don't know what it's like to be in your situation so I cant pretend I know what your going through. I know it is hard but just do your best.

You are probably in school and you really need to think about your future. If you can't finish school because of your pregnancy you need to consider other options like Tafe. But you cant expect to work with no qualifications or depend on welfare, so your going to need to get a qualification either from school or from an alternative.

Answer 8

Take a deep breath.

Take another, deeper breath.


In the morning try and a little bit more than you did yesterday for breakfast. At lunch same thing. Just a little bit more. You have a goal set (I assume, you giving birth to healthy kids), and you're spending too much time looking at the potential outcomes both good and bad, and not enough at the smaller immediate thing that needs to get done thats a step in the right direction.

You can do this.

Answer 9

hi. im 15 & im pregnant too. im pretty sure not w. twins but im still pregnant. i dont really know you but im still worried about you.
if your keeping the babies im sure your really nervous about it and thats prolly why your throwing up more then you should be.
please try to relax alittle. they should be keeping you at the doctors over night because if your not eating then they need to start putting like formula stuff in you to give you the nutrition that you and your babies rally need right now.
im 5 weeks preg too. but im not throwing up i just feel sick alot & hungry but like not hungry at the same time.
try to eat tiny little portions of food. if i were you i wouldnt even try to eat meals. id prolly just grab a banana and nibble at it slowly.
your doctor is right that you are in danger. you were in danger when you started having anorexia.
please please try to not think about everything going on so much so that your body will calm down and so that you can take in some food.
hope you get better. you can email me if you'd like.

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Answer 10

You are in danger because you are not eating enough to keep you alive. You have an eating disorder and people with eating disorders can be helped.

Eating disorders affect how the mind works so that you can't trust your own thinking. If you aren't seeing a psychiatrist for this, you need to start going to see one and do what he/she tells you to do.

A big problem for doctors in treating people with eating disorders is that there is a strong element of "denial" that goes along with the disorder. The person can't believe that they have the disorder.

You won't die if you start eating and do what the doctor tells you to do.

Answer 11

Sweetie, the first thing you need to do is take a deep breath and force yourself to calm down. Getting upset isn't good for you or your babies, so work on that, ok?

Second, what your doctor is probably saying to you is that because of your former eating disorder and your current nausea, your stomach is in bad shape. That does NOT mean that you're going to die, but having a messed up stomach isn't very nice. When damage is done to your stomach, it takes a very long time to heal because of all the acid and activity your stomach endures on a daily basis. Getting upset only adds to the stomach acid, so work on calming down, even though it's really hard. You can do it if you put your mind to it.

Third, sometimes it isn't how much you eat, but what you eat that is important. If your stomach is in bad shape, give it a few days to heal and eat only soothing foods. Chicken broth is good for a start. Cammomile tea is good too. Even though milk is good for your babies, wait for a day or two before drinking that again because milk can upset your stomach too. Suck on peppermint candies or mint leaves because they are great for upset tummies, and ginger in your food helps calm it down too.

The biggest thing you need to do for yourself physically is to do all you can to stop yourself from getting nauseous. Crackers help with that, as well as the other things I mentioned. You DO NOT want to eat greasy food at this time. Greasy things like french fries and hamburgers and such will make your nausea worse. Ice cream is ok sometimes if you think your stomach can handle it, but make sure to eat enough to get your nutrition, ok? Potatoes are good, cheese, etc, after your stomach has had a few days to calm down.

The good thing is, pregnancy nausea doesn't usally last very long. Three months for most....some get lucky and it ends quicker. Keep peppermint candies with you at all times and suck on them when you feel bad, and that should help you keep it down to a minimum.

As for eating a lot, don't eat a lot. Eat a lot of little tiny meals. About 10 times a day. Sometimes you might eat a few crackers. Another you might have a bowl of broth. Later have an apple (once your tummy feels better), then still later have a small sandwich, etc, etc. You don't have to fill up every time, just eat a little something to keep you and the babies going. Carry a bag of snacks with you if you have to. Take a prenatal vitamin to keep your nutrients coming in, and most of all, find a way to relax so the stress doesn't add to your problem and if you can, talk to a parent, guardian, best friend, pastor or whoever you trust about what you're feeling....face to face if you can. Getting all of your fears and feelings out to someone who will listen will help a lot and they may offer you better advice on how to cope.

And for the record, congrats on beating the eating disorder. To do so took a lot of strength and courage, which shows me you have the strength and courage to beat this thing too and show the doctor how wrong he was to talk doom and gloom to you.

Good luck and best wishes to you and your little ones.