Im 16 and thinking of becoming pregnant what do you think?

Question

I have a supporting family and a boyfriend that has a really good job and if i was 2 become pregnant i do have a place 2 live and everything.

Answer 1

I would think some more...Use the next few years to gain some qualifications, work on your education, secure a good job and get to know your boyfriend a little better. Develop some skills that will benefit your future children. Having children is one of the best things that we can do as women; however make sure you have done all you can in order to live a successful life and become a role model to them as well.

Answer 2

The fact you're asking this question already shows that you are aware of this not being a smart idea. On the other hand you clearly are not fully aware of what it takes to raise a child, what your responsibilities are and what it means to be a mother. Besides, what's the rush?

Pregnancy is one thing, but raising a real person, having the 24 hour a day responsibility to your child for the first few years is a completely different story.

At 16 you may think you have learned everything about being an "adult", but unfortunately you are not and you still do not have enough life experience to be a responsible teacher, guide and parent to a whole new dependent being. Having a child is not about having a house, a boyfriend with money and supportive people around you. This is not just an exciting job you're taking on. It's a lifetime commitment and responsibility. Maybe you should look into the real essence of parenthood first...

A responsible parent sacrifices a part of their own life for their baby . It's permanent. Aside from all the excitement, think about how you will handle problems when your baby gets sick, when you suddenly get the chance to follow your dream (job?) or other major complications you may encounter.

At 16 you are just about to start a new level in your own life. I don't know what your parents think about this, but get advice and the cold hard reality from them. But if they're suppportive, then sorry, they're not a good example for you and there's even more for you to learn in life that you're not getting from your parents.

Answer 3

Why are you thinking of becoming pregnant?

Think seriously about this choice, and don't paint everything with a rosy picture. Being a mom to a baby is hard, and you never get time off. You have to be up multiple times during the night. You never have enough rest. You're always tired. You won't be able to go to a movie or out to dinner or just hang out with your friends once you have a baby.
If you have a baby that baby will become your first responsibility--at least it should. All your spare money will go to diapers and formula.

This is a huge, life-changing responsibility. Most people have trouble adjusting when they are fully grown, and have had the opportunity to be young and carefree.
If you choose this now, you won't have that chance to be young, to spend your money on clothes and music, to go to the movies with your boyfriend or your friends, to go to school if you like. All that will go away.

Im not saying parenthood isn't great, but its really not easy. You deserve time to be young. Take it. You'll be glad you did, and when you do become a parent, you'll be a better parent for waiting.
Good luck.

Answer 4

ok I was 16 when I had my son. If you have a supporting family and boyfriend you need to really know the risks. You have to research what problems are higher risk during teen pregnancies. You also need to realize that a baby will put major stress on your relationship with your boyfriend as well as your family. I am not goign to discourage you because you have every right to want that. Just know what you are going into and how your life will change. And I kid you not IT WILL CHANGE! Friends will no longer be friends because you have nothing in common. you rlife will become all about your kid. But there are groups that you can join to meet other moms and get support. You will hav eot find a babysitter and you'll want to find out how your family feels about watching your child before you go asking all the time. I just really encourage you to think about it for a couple months and talk abotu it a lot with your family to get any concerns and questions out of the way. Find a doctor you can trust so that when it does happen you will feel comfortablt. Make sure your relaitonship can stay strong. I marrie dmy sons father but after 7 years of a lot of growing up which some of the time we were seperated. You need to make sure you both can handle seeing eachother for the baby if for any reason somthing was to seperate you both. I hope you can work out what is best for you. And don't drop out of school I didn't I found a school for pregnant teens to attend. You CAN reach your education and life goals with being a yougn parent you just have to stay committed. Good luch girl and stay safe. :)

Answer 5

Why would you want to do that. Your 16 you have a lot of growing up to do still. And you need to be focused on finishing high school. Having a baby isnt all it's cracked up to be especially if your still a kids living with your parents. You need to start thinkin about your futture and what you wana do with it before you start thinking about having a baby. Regardless if your boyfriend does have a good job. He's young who's to say he not gonna get scared and leave you by your self. And having a boyfriend with a good job and aplace to stay isnt means to have a baby. You need to have a job and money to support your self and your baby. You need to have your own place to live so that if worst come to worst no on wont be able to tell you to leave for some reason or another.There's so much out there that you could be doin with your life. Stop thinkin about having a baby and stop having sex and focus on your future so when you are mature,have your own job, and financially ready for a baby it wont be a problem having one.

Answer 6

I think that you need to think about what you want from life. You have a place to live...yes, but it's not yours. You have money...yes, but it's not yours either. Don't you want to go out and do all the things everyone else is doing before you get tied down with a baby? Like college? Like finding out what you want? Like vacations?

If you were really ready...you wouldn't be asking us what we think. You're 16 and you have barely even known what life really is. My sister had her first child at 16 and I know she missed a lot. When I was off in the Army seeing the world she was at home with a crying baby. When I went to university she was at home cleaning the house and correcting homework. When I was off visiting Korea and Japan she was going to the principal's office because her son got into trouble.

She missed a lot of her life...the things she found out she wanted she couldn't get. She also found out that her boyfriend wasn't the man she wanted to spend the rest of her life with...he didn't want to be tied down with a baby. He wanted the life his friends had. After that she had to work 2 jobs and moved a lot. She found out that it was really hard getting another boyfriend since most boys didn't want a girl with a baby too.

What you should do is sit down and try to imagine everything you might want out of life. Maybe you want to go to Mexico for Spring Break, or to University...but consider all of those thing the reasons why having a baby now is not the right time. Now write down all the reasons you want to have a baby. Which list looks better? And always remember that you don't have to have a baby RIGHT NOW...you won't miss it, you can have one in just 4 years. But in 4 years you will have some more experience in the world and be better prepared.

The choice is your but do what you think is right for you...and for your baby.

Answer 7

Supportive family and a well of bf are not valid reason for u to get pregnant. Having a baby is not for fun that will last in a few hours but it is a committment till you are alive. So, think of it before you do any moves for regrets are always at the end and never in the beginning.Good luck!

Answer 8

Well 16 is young but so is 17 and this is my story. Me and my bf both want a baby. I'm 17 and he's 19. He has a good job and im almost done w/ high school. Having a baby is a big responsible and we're both ready for that. We want to be young parents so we spend as much time as possible with our children. A lot of things will be gave up for this but we want this and are more than happy to do that. I think we will both be great parents. I'll be finding out if im pregnant this week =D Maturity (sp.) has nothing to do w/ it...i know teenage parents who are much more responsible than adults.

Answer 9

Have you talk with your family about this? If they agree and let you go on your wild ways, go ahead. But in later life when people look like at you as a young mother, they will get the wrong impression of you and think that you are no good. You know... once you have a kid, no fun for you anymore. Game over. I knew this one lady that had a kid at a young age. And what does she do? Every single day she goes out and party cause she never got the chance to that at her young age. And what happens to the kid? She just leaves em at grandma's house EVERYDAY. If you know that you can take care of your self and others, go ahead, but you're gonna probably be in on a rocky road.

Answer 10

Its okay if u want to throw your life away. Y would u want to get pregnant at 16?! U;v got SOOOO much time till u can get pregnant! Besides, getting pregnant just means problems. U wont be able to have anymore you time and ull have to spend all your money on your kid not u and u dont even know if your boyfriend is gonna stay with you the whole time. Everyone says things and doesnt mean it.