WHAT SHOULD I DO!! it was a mistakee
2007-07-19 18:45:02 · 19 answers · asked by kfjohns203 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hey kiddo. Like someone else said BE SURE! Alot of little girls say or think they're pregnant when they're not. Also even though I don't agree with it you do have the choices of abortion and adoption. You and she may also choose to keep the baby(my personal preference.) Some people have said some really mean things to you and granted not all of them were wrong, But I speak from experience. I got pregnant at 13 but my baby died. All of the adults in my life wanted me to have an abortion and then they all cried when it died on it's on. Stupid, huh? As far as abortion that's a decision for both of you to make. If she doesn't mind, then whatever. But if she does, don't pressure her into one. I don't know what state you live in , but in most of them her parents CANNOT force her to have an abortion. No matter what they say she has to sign a consent form to let the doctors do it. Next time rap it up(double up if u have 2). Better yet, just leave sex alone for a couple of years. Focus more on school. If it matters I'm 23yrs old
2007-07-19 19:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by kanicci 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
1) Breathe and calm down. Reason will help.
2) Double check. A missed period is normal. happens to all of us.
3) Say I'm sorry and talk it through. it was both of your faults and you guys know it. Dont blame each other. just reconcile.
4) Tell both of the parents or guardians or someone who you
trust. an adult figure can usually help. Years of experience help during these situations.
5) Go to an agency for this sort of thing like Planning Parenthood. They can help you through the pregnancy process.
6) Decide if you want to keep the baby after its born. You can put it up for adoption and then adopt it again in a few years if you want to.
there are little steps in between like doctor check ups, school days, and such.
Remember, no matter what happens in life it will go on.
Just remember to stay with her like you are doing now.
It is admirable how you are sticking with her.
FYI, it is a little dangerous for a 13 year old to be giving birth. Her body might be at risk. Again, the doctor.
2007-07-20 01:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Angie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get some counceling from a good source. Dont make rash decisions, dont flip out, and........well, best of luck. Dont let this ruin your life or think it will. Find some other people who have had the same experience. I have a freind who had a child at 13 and he is 35 now. He is one of the nicest guys you ever met, nut he does have some sporadic anger issues....Just get some help from the doctor, they can keep alot confidential if you approach them the right way, at least until you ARE "ready" to tell your parents. And I dont mean abortion unless the pregnancy could be harmful to your lady friend. Get to a professional right about.......now!
2007-07-20 02:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dirty Mutt 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ur are 13 years old..You weren't grown up enough to be having sex in the first place..But, you also aren't mature enough to be a parent, and raise a child..I am 20 years old, and i was not prepared to raise a child..It is the hardest thing you will ever do in your ENTIRE life.....You need to sit down with her parents and your parents...Because if you plan on keeping this baby, your parents and hers will be taking care of this baby..You need to get a job, and become an adult, since you did decide to do grown up things, taking care of a child is a big responsibility's..Can you handle it??Maybe when you talk to both of yalls parents, think about adaption, its a wonderful way to give your baby the best in life, because at the age of 13 you will not be able to give that baby everything it needs..Good luck!!
2007-07-20 02:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope some advice from someone your age will help. I'm 14 and a few of my friends have been in the same situation. It's sad, and shouldn't happen, but it does. We're too young to have kids of our own...
I hate to say this, but you are going to seriously have to grow up in the next few months. First thing I have to say, ABORTION IS NOT THE WAY TO GO. Find any means necessary, adoption, keeping the baby, whatever. Just make sure it's legal.
Secondly, you need to tell your parents. They will be mad, and they will be upset, and they might not talk to you for a few days, but that just comes with the territory.
Third thing you need to do is talk with your girlfriend. She is just as scared, if not more, than you are. You are in this together, and right now the thing she is probably the most scared of is having to face this alone. You need to be there and support her. You two need to consider what you want the future to be for the baby immediately. Make a list of the pro's and con's of adoption and keeping the baby.
My personal advice: You are too young to keep the baby. The best chance the baby is going to have is if you give him/her up for adoption. It will probably be the hardest thing you do, but it will be worth it. You can do an open adoption and still get to visit the baby, or a private adoption. You should finish school and continue on with your plans for your life.
Also, I would seriously consider the risks of having sex again. I have personally decided to wait until I'm married, to avoid tough situations like this, but do whatever you want.
I hope that you decide to be a man and support your girlfriend. Good luck and God bless, Kayla
2007-07-20 02:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by confusilated 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Grow up in a hurry. not trying to be mean, but now is not the time to go OMG IT WAS A MISTAKE. Well, now it's a person. Maybe you should put the baby up for adoption...you're both too young to get jobs, and it would be best if the baby could be supported and raised by parents who could work and were adults. This is why they tell you not to have sex until you're old enough to handle a baby. Because sex makes babies.
2007-07-20 01:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by grayhare 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
ok- having sex was the mistake- not the baby. You should be thinking about that child, and at 13 you both are children yourself, so you should place for adoption. I am adopted and have 2 adopted children myself- besides the abortion taking the life of the baby- it can also be dangerous for your girlfriend. Can cause infections, pain, later when she gets older and is "ready" for children, she may not be able to get pregnant or have miscarriages.
You are both young, but you can make a wise decision about this- tell your parents, and place for adoption- it is better for you and the baby.
2007-07-20 02:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You must be joking.Nobody would be so shameless to come here after being outright mean.stupid,selfish and arrogant,and declare that he has put two lives on a worst stake.And what do you expect from the members of this forum except some solid kicks on your butts.I am not talking of 'sins ,religion or morality but the sheer recklessness and inhumanity.For some mistakes,there is no forgiveness but only suffering.Be a man and brave through it.
2007-07-20 02:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all talk to your parents. You should definetly think about adoption if your not ready for the baby. And well 13 is very young your still a child yourself. But whatever you do don't consider abortion please.
2007-07-20 01:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by I_love_him 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go with the first guy who answered your question. He knows what he's talking about. I would talk to the mother about adoption, and tell her your feelings on abortion. But that is pretty much out you hands now.
2007-07-20 01:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋