Well last year with my church I went to a youth conference in ATL and on the way there the trip went pretty well but then most of the girls were getting attitudes.And I treat everyone nice.And now they still talk mad junk.One of the girls was talking junk about me right there on the van.I dont wanna fight because its church.But i dont understand why I get along more with my peers outside the church than inside the church?what shoud i do in this situation?
2007-07-19 18:41:34 · 13 answers · asked by ☺♥Justus♥☺ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
shirleykins,I am lifting up Jesus because I didnt get in the flesh and started fighting them like I used to before I got saved.I am trying to find a better way of dealing with this situation than getting so mad.
2007-07-20 02:47:53 · update #1
I Understand!
People who congregate in groups - weather in or out of church or at church sponsored events - and are social to no one outside there group? Are usually the ones who talk “gossip” or worse. They are not there for the right reasons. Church and outside events that are planed. These events as “Youth Programs” are to teach or help the youth in that community and elsewhere - they are not social gatherings. These should be gatherings for persons “youth or whoever” to learn more of the church and its true reason to help bring others closer to God. You’ve heard it said “You are judged by the company you keep”? “And by the fruit you bare”?
I personally – Go for you and don’t allow others to rob you of listening and receiving Gods word and blessings and having fun meeting others. You just might see a change in those that would not allow you in – but – want to then be “in” with you.
2007-07-19 19:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by Old Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly do not want to get involved with the girls' attitude/behavior, then I guess the best thing to do is to ignore them. I understand that this decision would be difficult knowing that the girls may talk more about you. If you want to take the risk, stand up for yourself. Confront the girl(s) and tell them what they're doing is wrong and remind them that they are at Church. From every corner there's always annoying people like these so the best way is to be able to deal with it cooly without letting it get to you. The more you stress over the fact that you don't "fit in" at church may make you a better target for the girls. The best way is to relax, and have the most fun you can get from being there. This way, the girls will see that you're not so uptight about people talking about you. Next time you hear these girls talk mean about something, just laugh it off. :)
2007-07-20 01:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually a very common occurrence from junior high to high school age.
Trashing others is a way of bonding with friends and making the trasher feel a bit better about their own insecurities... if someone seems worse off than them, they feel better.
Eventually the behavior, especially when done too much, will start to alienate the trasher, and when they realize the cost they cut it out.
As to what to do about it, I'd say everyone goes through this. The best thing to do is understand why they do it, and that it's not even really about you. If you place no value on what they say, then it'll be easier to deal with.
It usually doesn't help to confront them on it so much as it does to develop a thick skin. The sad truth is that throughout out lives, people are going to trash talk and we need to learn to let it roll off our backs.
2007-07-20 01:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by MadDog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by not fighting. Who knows, maybe the girls are jealous of you. Or maybe they just have some serious attitude problem. Either way, just dont worry about it. If you really want to, then talk with the girls and find out why they pick on you.
2007-07-20 01:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by unreal_punk_rocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were the devil, where would you send your people in to stir up trouble? ... One thing I notice about your sad speech is the total absence of mention about Jesus. A lot of people try to use church for everything under the sun except honoring God. When that is the case, of course the people outside the church are more honest and direct!
2007-07-20 01:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u don't necessarily hav to fight to stand up for urself and the reason ur so comfortable with people out of church is cuz ur comfortable around them and not afraid of them judging u and the grls at ur church obviously hav attitudes so i suggest bringing one of ur friends from school so u hav someone to hang with i hope tht help good luck
2007-07-20 01:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by lovelylady7950 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go to church right? base your actions on what jesus would do.
don't curse them or get mad. just pray for them. i totally understand. church is totally going to have so many cliques, but just because those girls are at church does not make it okay for them to be talking crap. just don't worry about them---focus your eyes upon what god wants for your life.
good luck!
2007-07-20 01:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing just ignore them n obviously its hard but i put up with this everytime. but obviously they are jealous b cuz you are a better church girl then them.
OOOOO, say its a sin to judge and gossip of others!
remember this:
judge and you shall be judged
2007-07-20 01:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by dojo boys* A /\/\ecH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a cousin named Justus!! How funny :) Girls are just mean, it's a competition thing. Just ignore them and be the bigger person!!
2007-07-20 01:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by ~fUnKyCoLdMeDiNa~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are people and your just learning some think their holier than thow...nor don't understand that God wants us to Love one another...they are forgetting why they are on the mission in the first place.
2007-07-20 01:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋