Especialy when you thought the person thought highly of you. But you find that year after year you are more standby person rather than what you thought you were.
2007-07-19 18:39:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
^a, between more and standby.... sorry!!
2007-07-19 18:40:14 · update #1
Writer #1 is correct. That is not self absorption that is putting all your self esteem in the hands of someone else. You should like or dislike things about your own personality ...but do it for you not for someone else. If you like yourself ...so will others. Never let your self -esteem be dictated by someone else's opinion as no one can live your life for you but yourself so your opinion of yourself is all that really counts.
2007-07-19 18:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you mean about "standby" person, but I don't think it is self absorbed to feel sick when something someone says hurts you. When I fight with people I care about, or stress about things I feel sick. I think it's probably not the most healthy reaction, and I mean this in the sense of mental health, but I don't think it is self absorbed. But if you mean someone said you aren't a goddess, and you were so shocked by that it made you sick, then yes, that is probably along the lines of what you are saying.
2007-07-20 01:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by ihti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes people (a large %) will gossip and backbite when they're away from a person (repeat gossip even when they don't know if it is correct.Many people will "move-on" if they feel they no longer need a certain friend.Even christians can be like a light switch (friendship on/off).Today anyone who is kind and caring is perceived to be weak.
I'm 50 years old and I have seen how people can be.
I pray Jesus gives you peace.
Christians can disagree but are never suppose to be clickish, or avoid other believers they look down on.
I hope you find some friends to spend time with and that will encourage you.
2007-07-20 04:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by robert p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not self absorbed. self absorbed would be not listening or considering what people tell you. I'm a bit, too considerate. I think about every little thing someone says, regardless if I want to or not. I dissect every word, every pause, every expression, and the way they say it. like I'm looking for some hidden meaning. I can't help but think about it when someone says something even if they were only kidding.
in any case, it doesn't affect them as long as I don't bring it up, so it's better for them than not listening at all, right?
2007-07-20 04:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by Juan Sanchez Villa-Lobos Ramirez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not at all especially if that person is close to you, or someone who knows you well enough that they should know better then saying crap like that, who ever it was should really sit down and re-think the friendship they have with you, if they don't then you might want to let them know. And if you don't want to, I know a guy who knows some guys who can help ya out.
okay minus the last part ( it was a cheap joke even for me) if they keep treating you like this ma'am you would be far better off with out them at all
2007-07-20 03:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lazrus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can relate completely. a friend of mine said some harsh things to me last week (coincidentally, one of them happened to be that i was "self-focused") and it ate my lunch...but if you think about it, isn't thinking bad thoughts about yourself all the time, even if it's on how to improve, still focusing on yourself? so by that definition both of us are self absorbed...but so is everyone else, i think. there's no way not to be. you certainly don't sound like a bad person, though. you sound very big hearted and sensitive. sorry your friend hurt you :)
2007-07-20 01:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by txpsychchick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so...it really hurts. That happened to me at a place I used to work and then. This other guy I worked with was like, "yeah, he used to talk about how he couldn't stand you all the time." And I thought that was someone that liked me.
2007-07-20 01:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by Norht 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its kinda cowardly not self absorbed.
Sorry but if someone said something about me that had that type of impact you can bet I would confront that person.
2007-07-20 01:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No,because they weren't more than a standby for me but for a short time.The lowdown stuff they're saying isn't hurting me,because they mean little to me...it's just making me want to kick their ***.
2007-07-20 01:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that it is very hard to ignore what this person said but try to remember that people say hurtful things just because they know how to hurt you, and most of the time they are jealous of the closeness of you and your brother.
2007-07-20 13:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by Granny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋