I'm 8 months pregnant and my mom and my sister want to be present for the birth, but I am not ok with being exposed to them like that. Anyone else felt that way or am I being ridiculous?
2007-07-19 17:57:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you can have them in the delivery room without having them down there for you to be exposing yourself. they can be there holding your hand and giving you moral support.
2007-07-19 18:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty1981 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to remember is that a laboring woman needs to feel secure and protected. If having your mom and sister in the room are going to make that not a possibility then you need to tell them. If you are not too sure you want to be the one to upset them in that way, let the nursing staff do it for you. They will be happy to do what ever makes you comfortable during your labor and delivery. It's your baby, your delivery and your choice who is or who is NOT present. Dr.s and nursing staff are part of the package at the hospital. I'm sure you understand that well and expect them to be there. But you want to feel secure to birth your way without having others staring at you and watching your most intimate of moments. I understand this very well. I have birthed with many different mothers and I know how important it is for you to feel safe and secure in your time of delivery. So go right ahead and tell them no. The worst thing that will happen is they get a little upset. If they do, that's not your problem, it's theirs. I know that sounds mean, but it is SO important for you to be in the right frame of mind while birthing that nothing and no one should stand in the way of the work you need to do.
Lots of luck!
2007-07-20 03:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by themomof7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only people who should be there are the ones you want to be there. Don't let anyone intimidate or manipulate or push their way in. It's up to you!
If you don't want them in the room, you can tell them that you don't mind if they are in the waiting room until it's time to come in and see the baby.
The first time, I just had my husband with me, but my dad was in the lobby because we didn't expect to have the baby yet and he brought my suitcase up to the hospital. I was glad he was there to see the baby so soon after birth. The second time, I had my husband, daughter, and mother-in-law (to help with my daughter). And my dad was in the lobby again. Then with my third, I had my husband, two daughters, mother-in-law, and a friend from church (one adult for each daughter). My dad wasn't there because this time it was in the middle of the day and we had no idea we were going to have a baby when we did. I wasn't sure how I'd feel about my mother-in-law or friend being there, but I knew I wanted my daughters there so I convinced myself that it was OK and that I didn't need to care what they saw. This was about me having a baby. Everything was fine. But I was OK with it. If you aren't then they don't have to be there.
2007-07-20 01:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by WrinkleFree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice, but honestly when you are in the middle of labor, you will not care who sees you down there... I think that you should leave the option open just in case you change your mind.. It is really nice to have somebody there who has been through what you are going through... It may seem embarrassing now, but for real, you wont care about it then.. Plus you are going to have nurses and doctors in and out of your room anyway, so why not your mom and sis... When I had my son, I didn't care who saw what, I was butt naked lmao... and I am usually pretty shy about things like that... But in the end it is your decision. Good Luck with what ever you choose! :)
2007-07-20 01:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't being ridiculous. But as other moms have stated, you aren't even going to care. I was grateful to have my mom, sister, mother-in-law and of course hubby in the room. Their support actually helped a lot. If it bothers you that much though, just let them and your doctor know ahead of time that you aren't comfortable with them in the room.
2007-07-20 01:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have whoever you want in your room and whoever you don't want won't be allowed. You can make a list for the nurse and she will keep the people who you don't want in there out. If your mom and sis don't agree, too bad. It's your day, you are the one who is in pain and with everything hanging out for people to see. If you don't want people in there, it's YOUR CHOICE. Not your husband/boyfriend, mother, or sister. YOURS. Tell them they can come in after the baby's born.
2007-07-20 01:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by dizzymisslizzy4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not being ridiculous. My mom wants to be in the room but I don't want her there at all. Half b/c her and I have never gotten along and I hate her and b/c I don't want her all in my stuff. (Haha) It is really weird but I don't think that they'll be thinking of it in a weird way, but just as the miracle of life being born.
Good luck to you!
2007-07-20 01:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by brnzdbeauty 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i didn't want anyone but my husband with me but after i started having REALLY bad contractions, i was glad my sister showed up because she (having already had 4 children) knew great ways to get me through them.
but i'd have to say i wouldn't have minded if my mom showed up because she gave birth to me.
now, if my dad or brothers wanted to be there, or in-laws, then i'd be embarassed but since it's women... it's not like you have anything they haven't seen before.
but no, you're not being ridiculous. ^_^ congratulations and good luck. if you don't want them to be present, i'm sure they'll understand. just have a talk with them.
2007-07-20 01:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by ~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if you think about it theres going to be alot of people in the room that you dont know, you might want the ones you love to be there for support not only for the delivery but for the embarassment you might feel being exposed to the doctors and nurses!!! think about it!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-20 01:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by jessica_the_rabbit2006 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I didnt want anyone in the room with me while I was doing the pushing except my husband but while I was in labor I had my mom stay in the room with me along with my husband. It was nice for her to be there while I was in labor. I didnt even care when the doc came in to check on me. She probably got an eye-full but it doesnt matter when you are in that much pain. Good Luck!!
2007-07-20 01:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by Lee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋