Am I depressed? Should I be on meds?

Question

I have no motivation
I feel tired and listless
I would rather sleep or lay in bed for 12 hours than get up
I feel bored all the time
I don't have any close friends, someone who I could talk to or look to for support.
About once a month, I get very upset about something, to the point of extreme crying, anger, and feeling suicidal
I have no hobbies
I have a boyfriend, we've been together for 7 years, but I feel very unimportant and forgotten by him.
I'm always "nagging" him to spend some time with me, but I never know what we should do. Is it unreasonable to expect someone to just talk, or hang out and be bored together? He's got his hobbies, and everything I suggest for us to do is never fun or entertaining enough for him. But I'm just tired of being alone all day. We live in the same house, yet I still feel very alone.
I cannot keep up with my housework or basic responsibilities at home, even though I don't have a job.
I'm here all day and feel no sense of accomplishment at
the end of the day.
I have 2 children who I love very much, but I feel so guilty for not playing with them enough or interacting much.
I just feel totally useless and like a bad parent and a lame girlfriend who isn't worthy...
What can I do?
I don't have much if any of a sex drive....
No motivation to do anything constructive and nothing to look forward to.

Answer 1

If this was still 2006 I would have thought I wrote this. I can completely understand what you are going through. This is definitely depression. I suffered through it for two heavy years before I realized what was happening to me (a total of six years before I did anything). It can feel like you are just being lazy or a little sad. Don't let the fact that it feels like "a little depression" fool you. Seek help if not it could get worse.

I quit my job thinking it was my job. I moved three (or four) times in less than two years thinking I was just unhappy with my living situation. It wasn't until I couldn't leave the house for days then a week and a half at a time did I realize I had a problem. I tried to be cheerful for my child but when even she couldn't wake me from my depression I knew I had to get some help. But of course being jobless and broke didn't help. Finally I got on Paxil, which didn't lift the depression but made me feel nothing. But I tried Zoloft and something else and finally I began feeling myself again.

I knew I was better when I laughed and something really silly and stupid on a sitcom. I hadn't laughed at a sitcom joke since before my daughter was born. It's been nine months now and I feel so good. I smile for no reason now. I can take my daughter to the park and to playdates and have fun. I can leave the house! Hang out with my friends. Enjoy time alone instead of moping in bed.

I know it seems like a lot of blah blah but I wanted you to see that you are not alone and it can be helped. There is no shame with being medicated. Talk to your doctor. Find a therapist and talk honestly to them. I went to a therapist when I first started feeling depressed but I was ashamed (and thought they would take away my child) soI lied to him and said my depression passed. I only saw him twice. I wish now I had gone through with it. I wouldn't have wasted so many years in such a dark hole.

Just remember you are not doing anything wrong, this is not your fault. You just need a little help getting through this. Talk to your boyfriend about how you are feeling. Don't go through it alone. Talk to your friends, I'm sure at least one or two have gone through it or is going through it. You might even what to try and online support community. But most importantly you must take care of you so that you can be there for them.

If you need to talk to someone who has been there or just need a ear to complain/*****/whine/cry/yell or anything else at just email me from my profile page.

Answer 2

Medication has its ups and downs. You get a interesting high, (different mood). However its not cheap, Hobbies only delay these thoughts, to the point of intervals. That would be the sign of loneliness, and depression, I can't really answer this becuase I haven't walked in your shoes. I don't know detail by detail to come a conclusion. Does it bother you and your boyfriend don't spend time together, or do feel much more comfortable by yourself. Does he take you for granted. Like you take your life for granted. Why do you feel useless. Your needed in task to care for the children? They need you, even though they won't admit it. Where do you pull that sense of accomplishment from? Through someone else? or something physical on this world? What do you do physically and mentally? Does your boyfriend know how you feel, if he does he shrug it off? I would recommend to asking questions to yourself until the answer comes to you, or you can share it, if you haven't already within your family.

Answer 3

No doubt you have to talk these things to someone who can listen and find out the reason of your demotivation. Only a doctor can tell if depressed or not and guide you . You ll feel a lot better when you feel supported by a doctor .
Sometimes we are not living the life we want. Doing things we don t like. It seems there is no father of the kids present.....
There is nothing worst than living loneliness in company.
Look deep inside your real feelings even if bad. Write all what you think and feel.
Sometimes is necessary to make changes as having a job part time or something out of home. Time for yourself ... to do things you like. The simplest things.
If you want to, write to me i will listen... [e-mail]
But first see the doc!

Answer 4

Please, do yourself a favor and seek professional help. Find someone you feel like you can work with and get going. I might take a few different doctors before you find one you feel comfortable with, but it is your life and you deserve to start making a difference in your own life.

The first step will always be the hardest, but just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and before you know it...you will have walked a mile.

Answer 5

yes this is depression and bad. get to a doctor and try and get some help. i know its hard as i have had to do it myself. i am now changing meds and keep trying them have been for 5 years its all in the working of them for what you need.

Answer 6

I think it could be depression. try different a diet and exercise you might see a difference after a while.
it will boost self esteem and give you something to aim for.
Exercise helps me when i feel down maybe it might work for you.

Answer 7

go to your doctor and get some blood work done first (Have them check for ) (TSH levels) that has a lot to do with all the problems your having.

Answer 8

ummm...maybe you should see a doctor about anti depressansts. to be honest, i don't think people on the internet are the best people to go to for medicinal advice

Answer 9

go to see a doctor, i dont think you should be talking to people on the internet about something like this. i suggest go see a doctor and explain to he/she what you just explained to us.

Answer 10

You definitely need a doctors opinion.