why might someone want to plan when to have children rather than just letting it happen?

Question

give examples if needed. thanks =) this is for my health ed. class

Answer 1

We planned when we wanted to conceive because we only want two kids, and want them close together. Our daughter will be 18 months when our son is born in about 2 weeks. Then we'll be done having kids, we think. Had we just 'let it happen', who knows how far apart they'd be...

Answer 2

Having a child is the biggest responsibility on earth and since we seem to want to plan all of our important situations in life this is one that requires are best efforts. Why would or should anyone want to bring a child into this world without a thought as to rather or not we we able to care for the child's necessaties physically, mentally, and spiritually? I for one know the true meaning of raising children, because I am now bringing up a set of five year old developmentally delayed twins, which I brought home from the hospital as soon as they had gained enough weight and had recovered from several life threating illnesses. A seven year old girl I've raised from three months, and she had a brain hemorage at birth, and two troubled teens that one has adhd and the other serious emotional problems.

I am informing you of these things in order for you to gain a perspective of your question. My daughter was never ready to care for her children due to the fact of her heavy drug addiction which led to the babies health problems. They required and still do speech, developmental, physical, and occupational therapy from birth up until now. They are all doing a 100 % better than they were when they were babies, but look at what they had to and still do go through. Asthma,
corrective eye surgery, hernia repair, penis reconstruction. speech impediments, brain disorders and general develpmental delay and retardation, which my little girl shall have the rest of her life!!

It is extremely important that a mother to be refrains from alcohol, cigaretts, and drugs, or the child will suffer the consequences all their life. Both parents must take this into consideration before even thinking about bringing a child into this world. This is even more important the the economic factors such as the ability to care for the child's needs including education and EVERYTHING ELSE for at least 18 years. Now don't you think that needs at least a GREAT DEAL of planning?

Answer 3

Planning parenthood ensures that you're financially, physically, and emotionally stable enough to bring a child into the world.
Making sure you can afford all the expenses of having a child is important. If you're in a time of financial struggle, adding a baby into the mix would only make matters worse.
Being physically fit for having a baby not only makes it safer for the baby- it also helps the mother during the pregnancy and during labor. Having crack babies just isn't a good idea.
Not everyone is emotionally ready to become a parent, and not everyone becomes emotionally ready once they ARE parents. If that were the case, there'd be no need for Child Protective Services, and there'd be no need for abortion.

Unplanned pregnancies sometimes end in abortion or adoption, so clearly there are benefits to planning a pregnancy.

I HAD to plan my pregnancy in order to make sure I had additional insurance coverage. If I hadn't and I would have gotten pregnant before I was covered, my husband and I would be struggling during the 6 weeks maternity leave since I wouldn't receive pay.

Answer 4

To be sure they are financially and physically prepared. You may not want to have a first child before you have a savings account built up, and then you may not want to have a second until the first child was a certain age, because it's better for the mother's body to go a year between pregnancies, and some people don't want to have 2 or 3 kids in diapers at once. Plus you also have to think about long-term expenses...they'll both want cars around the same time, both go to college around the same time. If the average married couple just "let it happen" they'd have a baby about every 9 months to a year.

Answer 5

Not planning: I'm 12 years old. I am pregnant. I have a baby. I drop out of school. I live with my mother until I'm 18. I then get kicked out. I go on the dole. I become a prostitute and sell drugs. I later am raped and killed at the age of 38. My child has been a prostitute since they were 7.

Planning: I'm 34 years old. I went to college, and then to law school. I was top in my class, and I made partner within several years of joining my firm. I made $128K last year. When I was 31, I married a medical doctor. Our combined income is $345K a year. I have toured Europe, Asia and Africa. I had a child at the age of 33. I will be able to provide for all of my child's needs, raise them in a cultured and civilized environment, and be able to provide them with the best schooling money can buy. I later die at the age of 112, surrounded by loving children, great-grand children, and great-great grand children, in my country estate.

Answer 6

You want to be in a financial and emotional position to take care of children. So you'd rather not be moving across the country or starting a new job while you're enormously pregnant or getting used to a new baby. And you want to have the financial resources and stability to provide for your child, be that day care or a parent at home, plus all the medical care and other supplies you have to buy.

Lots of people care about the spacing of their children. You want to be able to devote appropriate attention to the children you have, yet you probably don't want to be so far removed from changing diapers and sleepless nights that you have to learn it all over again.

And, more superficially, climate and personal preference play a part. I live in Minnesota, and I wouldn't want to be enormously pregnant in the middle of, say, January, when I would have to be dealing with boots! Lots of other people prefer not to be hugely pregnant and hot and uncomfortable in, say, August.

Timing is everything!

Answer 7

I don’t know anyone that ever planned to have children. They just had sex, and then surprise, they were pregnant. So they got married, then divorced. The same men usually get another one pregnant. They usually get married again. Pretty much all the guys I know did that. After the second time, they usually come around to the fact that brith-control is a good idea.

Answer 8

Speaking as a just married man i can tell you that you definitely need some kind of planning involved. Me and my wife have decided to wait on that so that we can have more time together as a couple before we have to deal with taking care of kids. Its something that everyone would want is some time together without any other responsibilities.

Answer 9

Planning is not always good thing . A woman at 35 plans to become a mom . After 6 months she goes to the doctor. She tries clomid nothing, she tries ifv nothing happens . She never has a baby because she decided to plan late.

Answer 10

one reason we have talked about trying to plan is because we both work, but i am a grade school teacher. if i can conceive by the end of july, i can take my maternity leave at the end of april. in my school district, a woman gets 6 weeks of maternity leave. this would put me at the end of the school year when that time is up. therefore, i would have 6 weeks of maternity leave PLUS the summer to be with my newborn, and give my husband and i extra time to plan for daycare, etc.