brothers and relationships adults preferably.?

Question

I have a 16 yr old and he has a girl friend. This is a new thing we are experiencing. We also have a 7 year old who looks up to his brother alot. My 7 year old feels neglected by his brother now because all of his time is spent with his girlfriend or on the phone with his girlfriend. When his girlfriend comes over my 16 year old pushes my other son away and it makes my 7 year old feel bad. I understand why my 16 yr old does it and I understand how my 7 yr old feels. I don't know what to say to either of them and make them understand each others feelings. I think family is more important than some girl who might last a month. How do I get my 16 yr to understand his brothers feelings and care about how he feels.

Answer 1

Family always comes first. You have to make that very clear. If he can't treat the younger bro with respect when his girl friend is there, then hey, maybe should not come over. With that being sad, the younger bro has to respect the older one also.

Answer 2

I think you should talk to the 7 yr old and tell him when he gets a girlfriend he would want to be alone too. Tell the 16 yr old to be nice to brother and pay him some attention. The girl may only last a month but that really doesn't change the fact that the older boy should be able to have a friend around and not be attached to his brother at the hip. If you don't feed him some reality now what will he do when his brother moves out in a few years? All you can do is tell them to love each other and let them know they might not think so now but they will need each other for something when they are older. Try to be fair to both of them. Maybe you can play with the younger one or find him a play friend for when his brother is with his friends.

Answer 3

Maybe Telling Him In A Serious Way Repeatedly, And You Can Always Use Psychology..A Brothers Sister Always Knows How To Get Under His Skin..If That Doesn't Work A Lil Black -Mail May Be The Order Of The Day...A Sister Always Got Some Lil Dirt On Her Brother That He May Not Want G/F To Know About...A Slight Threat May Convince Big Brother To Spend Some Quality Time With The Lil Brother On A Regular Basis..Maybe Scheduled Intervals For Payment Of Sister Keeping Mouth Shut : ) Its One Way...lololololol

Answer 4

U might want to discuss with your 7yr old about spending time apart from his brother, otherwise whats he going to do when the older one moves out. Time together is good, but time apart can also be beneficial.