Sex and morals?

Question

Okay, so I've noticed that many people on here have strong beliefs about sex before marriage and tend to put others down when they admit to having sex in their teens or before marriage. I want to know why the majority of people here feel that they are the "right" ones [morals/religious beliefs/etc.] and that the people who have engaged in sex before marriage are "wrong". My question: why do you feel the need to lable people as "bad/wrong/dirty" if they have had sex before marriage.

Before you dismiss this question can you please for one day think outside of yourself and see from another point of view. That's all I really ask. Just one day.

Hey, Wind M, I admit we are all sinners but who made you and everyone else judge, jury and executioner?

No one has the right to judge, but two can play. Unfortunately I keep my "confirmations" for in-person contact. Putting someone down over the internet is "so two years ago".

Answer 1

You know what? I was talking to my husband about this not 30 minutes ago. I've gotten many hateful e-mails from people because I refuse to feel guilty about or regret losing my virginity when I did. (Prior to marriage and of legal age.)

My husband (who was a virgin when we married) has NO problem with my past. If the man I'm married to has no qualms with my past...then why the holy hell should anyone else?!

He says they are hateful because I am just proof that their way isn't the only right way. Proof that someone who does not prescribe to their ideals can lead a happy and fulfilling life.

Answer 2

I, personally don't see anything wrong with sex before marriage as long as you use protection...and if you don't, be prepared for the consequences.

I'm 19, and I'm still a virgin, and damn proud. It's mainly because I haven't found the "right guy" and someone that I trust enough...not waiting for marriage...

I am strongly against teen pregnancy though. I truly am. Unless rape was a factor...that's a different story. I find that a lot more teenagers are having children, and today there aren't enough parents who are knowledgeable enough to provide for their children and that really bothers me. And that half of today's children are growing up without "parents"...just a mom and a weekend daddy...and that grandparents are doing most of the work. It's just happening way too much.

If you're going to have sex as a teen, use protection...it's a thing that's repeated a lot, but it's true...if you can't live with the consequence.

I'll get off of my soap box now.

Answer 3

I've always viewed sex as a special thing between 2 lovers, i have not had it without someone that i've viewed as my signifigant other. I do not believe in 1 night stands or anything like that. I have been told that in my situations that i make a great lover and view sex as an act that is special between those 2 people. I do not like to think of it as having sex and more like making love, it is way more intimate, fun and worthwhile. Sex should be between married people according the the social morals and higher powers but sometimes that gets overlooked. If people would listen to their own values and hearts and minds they would see it in a totally different light, the problem lies in the US view on sex as a taboo thing. Other parts of the world view it totally different and hence they don't have the situational standards we do here. If people would think before acting we would have a better society to live in as a whole!!!

Answer 4

I don't think a person should label a decision that another person makes about private things like that. No one should feel the need to put down other people because of what they choose to do, it's their decision and theirs only, just let the person do what they want.

Saving your virginity for marriage is a noble thing but I don't really know if its a factor that allows other people to say, "Hey look, I'm saving myself and you're not. You're a whore!"

People who engage in sex before marriage may just have strong feelings for each other and want to strengthen their bond. I'm still a virgin, and my friend isn't and I don't really think she's wrong, it was just her decision.

Answer 5

I do not understand why people think that it is such a bad thing to have sex before marriage. I personally have had a longtime boyfriend of 8 years and we have 3 beautiful kids. I think that if you love the person that you are with and you wait until you are ready it is alright to have sex. Also, it is very impotant to have a good sexual relationship in your marriage. If you wait until you are married to have sex whos to say that the sexual relationship is right. You can not be married to someone "forever" if you can not have that intimacy and joy of having sex with that person. I understand that havinf sex at 13 is bad but if you are of age then people do not have the right to judge you.

Answer 6

I don't think that way. I may not know everyone on here but just because they have had sex before marriage doesn;t mean they are a bad person. I have. I am not married. I know alot of people who have and they are not dirty. They are truly good people.

Answer 7

I agree ive had sex before marriage and it doesnt make you a bad person cause you are the same person whether you have had sex or not.. ppl need to stop judging and accept people as they are dont look at what they have done look at who they are from the inside.

Answer 8

Most people giving advice probably have made mistake's themselves. They I pray are only trying to help others not to make the same mistake's they made. Hopefully that is what is being done and no one is judging no one on here. That's not what this is for.

Answer 9

Those who have had sex before marriage have labeled themselves as bad/wrong/dirty and others are just confirming it. We all are sinners but that should not stop us to remind others of their sinning as much as for others to remind us of our sinning.

Answer 10

I can tell you why. One word: hypocrisy.