I like porn, I like nude photos. I don't care for strip bars. I look at women and think, "Oh my God I'd like to....." When it comes down to my wife of thirteen years, I could care less. Am I wierd? Is there something wrong with me? I know it's all in my head. When I have sex, I like it, but I just don't want to get into it. Once I am into it, I am into it. Any suggestions?
2007-07-19 15:35:58 · 24 answers · asked by richard r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing wrong with you and it's obvious your wife is not into you either. You have to do all the work in bed and herein lies the problem as it is no fun, just her duty. She is tired. Trust me, it doesn't bother her, BUT if you would just take care of your body, tighten it, no beer belly, exercise, eat right, smell good, great clothes to make you appear sexier etc and then do some romantic things for her, without expecting anything in return, you know, help with the housework, the flowers, a short drive, weekend getaway, a bubble bath, etc, her attitude will change and so will yours.
2007-07-19 15:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by hot chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in love with your wife sure you might love her but your not in love big,big difference. If she isn't your best friend then that means you don't enjoy her company or doing anything with her Am I right. When the fire goes out it's so hard to get it lite again.If you don't care about having sex with her then that means you don't want the fire back in your marriage. My God man you care more for the women in the books and in the porn then your own wife. Reading this how does it make you feel about yourself. If you don't want it to work then there isn't anything anyone can tell you that will do you good so I'm not even going to try. I will tell you this, at your wife's age right now she is just starting to reach her sexual peak and she will want to have sex so if i were you you better get on the ball if you know what i mean because there are a lot of horny guys that would love to be in your place.
2007-07-19 16:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking and porn and nude photos those are not helping you in your real life relationship with a wife of 13 years. Those things can kill a marriage. Are you willing to lose that?
Real life sexual relationships will not be ALL the porn is because it is not staged.
2007-07-19 15:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by mbpowell1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if this is a change from your normal feelings. If so then a medical check up might be in order then if thats okay, an experienced therapist. The thing is, if its not causing you any problems (with your marriage or any other part of your life) then it may not be an issue. If it is bothering you then see someone who can help you figure it out. By the way, there are therapists who deal with sexual issues.
2007-07-19 15:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by seemore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are getting a little bored. Have you talked to her about this. You should spice it up a bit. Are you on any medication, that maybe the reason. Are you working hard, it could be that you are just to tired to care. I would talk to your wife about it and see what she says. She should be concerned about it and do what she needs to do to help you in this matter. I know she won't know the answers but maybe you two can talk about it and work something out.
2007-07-19 15:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read a book called For Each Other by Lonnie Barbach, THE sex therapist in the country today, cheap anywhere in paperback, as is lots of her other stuff. Get it my Monday from Amazon.com
2007-07-19 16:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a web search looking for side effects of low testosterone. There are online quizzes available to see if you might have any hormonal issues (regarding testosterone). If so, contact an endocrinologist or an internist to get to the root of the problem.
2007-07-19 15:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by I beat cancer! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my. Maybe you should spice it up. Have your wife take nude photos maybe that'll do it for you. Try other positions. My hubby and I always to different and fun things in bed it never gets old.
2007-07-19 15:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by fairy_tinkerbelle_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a man, your libido will naturally decrease the older you get.
but your statement "when it comes down to my wife of 13 yrs i could care less"-- sounds like you guys are in a rut. there must be underlyining issues there.
are you and your spouse distant? perhaps you should go into couples therapy to work on those issues.
2007-07-19 15:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by act_won 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question... You are living in a fantasy world. GET REAL!!! your life isnt porn, or nudies. If you keep going it can become a very big part of your life, as you spend it behind bars. Get some help, tell your wife what is going on, if she loves you she will go with you .... if she doesn't , then you still need to go by yourself...GET HELP Please!!!!
2007-07-19 15:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋