In life when you are being unappreciated and disrespected you have to stand up & make a change right?

Question

it could anything life a career, a job that has to pay the bills, a relationship that is not going right! What has pushed you to make serious changes in your own life & to make you fight for your selfworth??

Answer 1

I seriously doubt that there is one cut and dried answer to your very real question. I suspect that since we are different from one another that there are different steps to take to put things right again.

The main area that has to be attacked is within. Clearly one has to develop appreciation and respect for one's own self. How can we expect others to have these for us when we don't have them for ourselves? Yet what is the proper approach?

I detect, and I have also been wrong before, that the words " to stand up" indicate a fighting attitude. Further on you say " fight for your selfworth". kinda confirms this. Now it could be that you really are a fighter or it could be that you are merely reflecting what your society advocates. This info would be helpful for making a decision here. "What has pushed you" indicates to me an active type, so I would lean towards your being a fighter, a martial type, but this is only a guess.

Suddenly the name of the movie " Bridges of Madison County" comes to mind. This is from my instinctive brain. Maybe it is meaningful. Check it or the book out.

If I am correct so far, you like myself tend to say "No!" to suggestions. If this is the case on the job, it is possibly not conducive to receiving much appreciation. That can certainly lead to inequality pay-wise and make one feel unappreciated especially as you start to compare yourself to workmates. I have always found that the worker is his own worst enemy which isn't a very promising sign.

So since it looks like you need to work on appreciation and respect, here is my advise for your homework. Get a special new notebook, inscribe on the front of it, " My Book of Positive Aspects". At the top of the first page write the name or a brief description of someone or something that you always feel good about. Then ask yourself these questions. " What do I like about you? Why do I love you so much? What are your positive aspects?" Then gently and easily start writing down your thoughts. Spend at least 20 minutes on this each day, when you will write a new name or description on the next page and repeat the previous step.

If on the first or second day you attract to your mind more names or titles, add them right away to the tops of other pages and if you have the time, ask yourself the three questions right away also.

Once the notebook is full, email me for further instructions.
Your friend,

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Answer 2

If you are in a bad relationship, yes get out, but would you want to cause trouble at a job because things aren't going your way? no because even if you fix the problem and someday leave the job, when you go to another job the company will not give you a good reference, they will look at you as a trouble maker for standing up for your self.

I have also noticed most people in the work force that stand up for them selves just are selfish. They just don't want to follow the rules. And they don't last anyways.

You have to make sure you are really being unappreciated and disrespected before you do something about it, other wise you will just look like a spoiled selfish brat.

I have been in jobs where I didn't like the way I was treated for the little pay I got, so I got an education and a better paying job. end of story, yes it took some time, going to school all day and work all night. but it can be done.

I have also been in bad relationships, I got out of them, one was so bad I had to go into hiding and make my self homeless to get away from the psycho. I had to have a restraining order, and have all my friends and family write letters to the judge, but I did it. I fixed my own life.

Now I live life my own way, I make my own money, I'm not rich but I don't need to take any crap from anyone. I can do my own thing.

Also if I find my self in another bad position I will get out of it, regardless if it a job or relationship.

Answer 3

What's better than "resisting the world?"

Change your mind or you will always have to fight for your selfworth. Seek the origin of the error, become fully conscious of its physical effects because it is stored chemically in body fears and reactions, reframe it in the light of reason until the physical symptoms dissipate and the disrespect no longer exists in experience.

Answer 4

I think you should figure out who is disrespecting you and why and maybe if this is a general situation that happens all the time their is something you need to change. If this is just a certain person who is doing the disrespecting than you need to remove that person from your life. You are right you do need to stand up for yourself sometime if you dont no one else will, only you can take care of you. Make the change and keep having faith in yourself to do what is right for you!

Answer 5

My boyfriend helped me realise that I need to stand up for myself.

This friend I had thought myself and her were married and would push me around..finally I said nuffs a nuff and told her where to go more or less :)

I fought for my selfworth, people think i'm a b*tch now haha, but at least I know in my own heart, I did what I did to make myself a stronger person!!

Answer 6

If you are unappreciated and disrespected it will do no good to stand up because you opinion has no value. In that circumstance you must distance your self from the people who have that opinion and establish your self on your own terms. When you've done that. The dis-believers will come back on your terms.

If you can't make it on your own they may have been right. But your strength is in your own self. If you do not believe in your self how can you expect another to.

Answer 7

The opinions and responses of others have never driven me to do anything. Perhaps I got too strong a sense of self-worth from my upbringing - although without hubris. So I either changed whatever I was surrounded by, if I wanted to stay, or shifted to whatever new adventure beckoned (and I usually had several of those on the back burner anyway). Maybe I was lucky in always being able to command appreciation and respect from those whose opinions I valued - and a certain amount of nervous restraint from those whose opinions I didn't. Except from my wife. The kids and I left her in our wake to stew in half the money and her own juice. What fun.

Answer 8

Yes sometimes you have to remove yourself from a difficult situation but remember: wherever you go, there you are.

Respect always starts with self-respect. Love always starts with self-love. A friend is someone who you know all about, but like anyway. And who do you know better than yourself?

Its not always that simple but there is certainly some wisdom to the saying: 'You attract what you expect.'

The world certainly needs some changes but the best changes always start with changing yourself.

Answer 9

It can be a hard lesson to learn when feelings get involved, but couldn't agree more. If you can't value yourself, then either you are not worthy of much value or you're being taken advantage of.

If you're be unappreciated and disrespected for a reason, hopefully you care about yourself enough to to change your ways.
If you're being taken advantage of, then hopefully you can see through any illusions and stand up for the one person you MUST care about first... yourself.

Peace

Answer 10

Yes, in life you have to stand up for yourself and make a change for the better because you deserve it. If anyone is unappreciating or disrespecting you have to stand up to them and tell them how you are feeling because of what they are doing to you. My fiance has pushed me to make serious changes in my life but he does it because he is part of my life. Sometimes he makes me feel worthless but I know he loves me and he is doing things for my best interest. His mother always disrespects me and makes me feel very unworthy. I try to stand up to her but then I am told that I am a nasty and bad person for doing that. Go figure. I do stand up to fight for myself and I know that I am worth it.