He is jealous of my son and says he don't know why I ever called him. I called him first. I told him my son and I were fine before him and he takes it that way. Am I stupid or am I married to a idiot? He hates my son and makes life miserable for him when possible. Tell me...do I give up this marriage #3 or keep working on it till my son leaves in a few years?
2007-07-19 14:47:56 · 17 answers · asked by lynn d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hell No!!! You better get out of there if he cant respect you or his son. Let him be a bitter as man about it and you my dear move on. I would most definitely feel like **** if my father hated me. Dont let him do this to his own son. He is the piece of **** and how can he be jealous of him? I dont understand. He should be a father role model and teach his son how to be a man. Do you really want your son to carry this over when he has kids? No and move out b/c you are married to an idiot honey. Both of you deserve better.....
2007-07-19 14:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Miss Lis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should leave the house. Or, he could choose to grow up, become the adult, remember the son is a child and quit whining. The adult has to be the adult because the child can still only be just a child. Follow?
I wouldn't keep telling him you'd been fine without him though. To a guy (I'm just guessing here) that sounds exactly like "we don't need you" and that is not good. I don't know how old your son is, but you are a packaged set and he will never not be your son. Your husband should have figured that out first and now he is the one, with your help, who needs to learn how to handle himself with your son.
2007-07-19 19:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by MollyUSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, don't work on your marriage. That is a totally unreasonable thing to do. Cut and run lady. After all it's number 3 right? Third times a charm. You know full well that there are other parts to this story, but want only to make the hubby look like the bad guy. Poor you.
2007-07-19 16:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to get away from this man now, before a few more years go past, and u leave anyway and realize you've wasted more time on a no win situation. he will never like your son, and even when the boy leaves, what than will he find to complain about. get out now, just think what this is doing to your son.
2007-07-19 15:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally believe that if your in a marraige or any relationship and that person doesn't respect the people in your life that you love, especially your son, he is disrespecting you greatly.. If he is directly making his life miserable, you really have to think, shouldn't your children come before anyone else in your life..? i don't want to judge and i know this must be a serious decision to make..Good luck okay!!..and i hope YOU decide what is best for you and your family
2007-07-19 14:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by Niecey B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why, oh why do we bring children into this world only to make them suffer so? Your son comes first, lady. He should have since he came into this world. You being happy is a perk and makes your son happy. But in no way should you have your child around this man that "hates" him, it will scar him for the rest of his life. You need to find someone that loves you for you and your son for being him, you come as a package deal and should be accepted and loved as one.
2007-07-19 14:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by foodieNY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that your son ALWAYS comes first. I know you would like to have a man in your life but first I think you should raise your son then continue with yours. It is never to late.
2007-07-19 15:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by fairy_tinkerbelle_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being fair to your son. Leave him b/c even when your son leaves the house, he will still be a part of your life, right?
2007-07-19 14:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by raininonsunday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the question becomes do you 2 want each other? if you do then state what it takes to stay together obviosly one thing is respect it seems to be missing. Tell your husband if his answer is he wants you then it has to mean respect for you and your son. But it seems like your hubby has made up his mind by saying you have to move out if that's the case then move out.
2007-07-19 14:59:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is a psycho. what kind of man asks a woman to turn her back on her child? and what kind of woman allows a man to make her boy's life "miserable?"
get rid of him NOW. things won't get any better when your son grows up and moves out (thats IF he moves out, considering how your husband's abuse is certain to stunt his emotional growth and render him unable to lead a healthy adult life) because then Mr. Psycho will find something else to b**** about.
do it now.
2007-07-19 15:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋