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Question

Since I married my husband 5 yrs ago my sis-in-law hated me for no reason. My mother-in-law said it was jealousy and she would get over it. Well, she never even looked at me not to mention didn't even talk to me. We then found out she was preggo by another man (left her 1st hubby) and then she started talking to me (little girl is now 2). Now I'm the one that can't even stand her, I mean I never have hated someone so much. Now my mother-in-law tells me that it bothers her that we don't get along. I told her she has treated me so bad for about 3 years and I can't just become buddy buddy with her from one day to the next. I told her I was hurt. I don't feel bad about my feelings towards her, cause I never did anything do her but marry her brother. And then I started to think, How come it never bothered her when it was her daughter that gave me the silent treatment.

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The worst part is that my mother and father-in-law live with me and she sometimes stays over. It drives me insane. I just have this hate for her, and I don't even feel bad about it, is it cause my concious (spelled right?) is clear?

Now that I think about it could it be cause I was the one that confirmed she was having an affair. I found the other mans debit card in my mother-in-laws house in the restroom. Even if it was she was the one that **** the stick not me

Answer 1

I think your mother-in-law is just doing all she can to keep the peace between you and your sister-in-law. No one says it's right for you not to be her best friend after she ignored you so much and treated you like dirt. But sometimes a simple nod of hello can make all the difference in the world. You can't be her best friend after she treated you so cruelly. Does your mother-in-law expect that you two should get along or does she just not want all that awkwardness in the home?

I would explain to mom-in-law that it's not so simple for you to suppress your feelings about the past. If you feel comfortable with it, talk to your sister-in-law personally just to explain your position. Tell her you're not bitter about the treatment she gave you, but it's just not humanly possible right now for you to act like everything's fine because you're not a fake person.

Answer 2

Maybe the reason she was jealous and hated you was because she saw how happy you and her brother were and she wasn't. People sometimes change when they are in then get out of a bad relationship. If she wan't s to make ammends I'd let her, nobody ever complains of having too many friends. Besides, you are family and you should be bigger than that. As for the mother in law, she will always be truest to her own children, not her children's spouses.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

There is nothing to discuss now. It will come out when the time is right. They are your in-laws. Just play your part and do what you need to do without having to overextend yourself. There are time when you may have to do so for your husband's sake. Talk to her if she says hi etc you dont have to initiate anything. Just respond appropriately. It will work itself out....and in the end you will find out that it was all over something stupid like being used to another girlfriend!

Answer 5

As a mother of course she will be on her side, you haven't done any wrong for resenting her. Everyone need to have some time to adjust between friends and enemies. As for your mum-in-law, her daughter always will be still a child to her no matter how old is she. Accept it as a fact but stand on your ground that you need time to heal from the wound she cause.

Answer 6

You know, usually the mother in law doesn't like her son's husband. The daughter in law is never good enough for her little boy. But in your case, his mom seems to like you. It seems like she actually sees you as her daughter and she just wants everyone to get along. Just be as cordial and polite as you can. People can and do change.

Answer 7

you are in a bad situation... You dont have to be buddy buddy with her but be nice.. she should not stay over seeing how it is your home. She can come and visit her parents but should remeber that it is your home and respect that....

to answer the other question, because now it is her daughter that is not being liked instead of her being the one that dislike's...

Answer 8

I would ask the sister in-law why she didn't speak to you before. Seems you don't want anything to do with her any way it can't hurt and there maybe a reason you don't know about either way you'll both know where you stand

Answer 9

Why didn't you ever talk to your sis-in-law? You should talk to her now. You need to find out why she didn't like you and why the sudden turn about. I have a feeling that when you hear her side you are both going to feel pretty foolish.

Answer 10

who cares what they think. Live your life you have your own family focus on what/who you love. I had problems with my in-laws so I try to stay away it works. People want to treat you like **** but when they need you they always come back..
F her