I am a senior in high school and just found out that i am pregnant?

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I am a senior in high school and just found out that i am pregnant?
Hi,I am going to be 18 years old in Novemeber and I just found out that I am pregnant.I am both excited and nervous at the same time! I am nervous because I am afraid that I won't make it to my graduation,or to my own graduation party.
I have a few jobs,I am a lifeguard,an EMT(emergency medical tech),and I work at another store.I
I am planning on moving back to my home in Chicago,and live in an apartment there,however I am planning on going to school to become a RN and a paramedic.I can tell that my adoptive parents don't want much more to do with me so I am not staying I am deffintley leaving.

My biological family are so great to me and I love them to death,I have a feeling that they may support me more now,even though they have 3 other children that currently live with them as well.

How could I go about finishing school,and being a good mom?

And please don't give me crap about being a pregnant teen and

Answer 1

Here's reality babe, your 18, it's possible to raise a child well at your age, but honey good luck with school, it's going to be incredibly hard. You will have to work to support your family, plus go to school be it full time or part time, you will have to pay for day care, you will have to pay utilities, I don't know what your bills are like, but mine are over 2400 a month and I don't have a rent or mortgage payment. (I already own my home) I don't even have to pay utilities, and the reality of it is. I have enough money to put myself thru school, and not have to worry about where my money is coming from and I still haven't finished school. I don't even work and can't find the time to go to school.

I started Med school have 2 years left, haven't gone back.
It's really really hard. It's doable but you my dear have to be totally committed and don't think that you can live off of welfare if you get in a jam. It's not an easy life.

Answer 2

Check into online classes for high school. Not many people know about it because it's a relatively new concept, but chances are your school district has them. This will definitely be something to consider if you're going to be due before the end of your senior year.

I worry about the amount of jobs you have, trying to go to school, and trying to find an apartment. That's a lot to have to take on when you're NOT pregnant. When you ARE pregnant, you'll also be tired and hormonal. Fatigue can cause all sorts of problems when you're pregnant. I personally think you should either cut down on your hours or wait on moving. Surely your adoptive parents won't just kick you out. I'm willing to be they're just shocked and disappointed at this point. Give them some time to take in the big news and continue living there until after you've had the baby and can support yourself without their help. Is your biological family stable enough to be able to help you? Be sure you don't rush into things with them if they're not really willing or prepared to help you.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that you make the best decisions for you and your baby. :)

Answer 3

I found out I was pregnant when I was 17 and still in school but now I'm 18 and have graduated high school. I am 26 weeks pregnant. It will be okay. But things are going to be difficult. Do you know of any charter schools that you can enroll in? I went to a 4 hour a day school, and I got actually a whole credit more than if I went to an 8 hour a day school, which will be perfect for you while you're pregnant and working plus a lot of charter schools have nurseries for your baby while your at school- look into that really. Your plans of going to college can still be achieved if you do night school and you can work during the day. Apply for government assistance. They will help pay for college and child care as well as food for you and your baby. Now where is the father in all this? Is he moving with you to Chicago?

Answer 4

This is coming from personal experience. I am 23 and a single mother. My daughter is 16 months old. Contrary to what anyone may tell you it is very possible to get through school and be a good mom. I am currently working full time and also a full time college student (also going for my Bachelor's Degree in Nursing). My daughter's dad takes her once in a while, but not very often. In Wisconsin I get daycare assistance... the state pays most of the daycare bill every week (I only pay $20 a week). My daughter is in daycare all day Monday thru Friday unfortunately, about 55 hours a week. Her and I have a very close bond even though she is in daycare a lot. I make the best of the time I have with her.
I'm not going to lie though. Being in school, working, and taking care of my daughter is very hard... but I make it work. I keep telling myself that if I can get school done and out of the way now the sooner our lives will be better. And I also feel that if I get school done now, then when she is in school I can be more involved and go to her events.
No matter how hard it gets, it will eventually get better. Go to college and make a better life for you and your child. Keep your head up.... it is possible to go to school and be a great mom!!

Answer 5

There are many alternatives to finishing school and working and being a good mom...Just because you work or finish school does not make you a bad parent...even if you would not see your baby every minute of everyday because in my opinion what u are doing or wanting to do makes you a great mom. There are not many teens out there who want and do all that stuff after they find out they are pregnant...most of em want to quit school and not work because of what people might say about them...I am 2 months shy of being 21 and I have 2 children...I plan on going to Business College and opening my own bakery so I kinda see where you are coming from.
And your options are really wide now because there are daycares you can put your baby in (some make u provide the diapers and formula and wipes). Make sure to research them first tho and pick which one you like best.
If you biological family is willing then you could have one of them watch your child for you while you worked or went to school.
If you have and extremely close friends that you trust and they are up for it you could ask one of them to watch your child for you.
They are hard to find but there are also schools that have daycares that will take care of your child while you attend class
But all in all even if worse comes to worst and you can not do all you wanted you need to know that you are a DAMN good person for wanting and thinking of doing all that to better yourself and the life for your child.
I respect you very much for that cause anymore that is REALLY hard to find...not in just teens but in grown women also so don't let ANYONE tell you any different.

Answer 6

It will be hard, but for what you wrote, it seems that you started with the will to make something of yourself, and that shows that you are mature.
Whatever you set your mind too, you will accomplish. I'm absolutely sure that your biological family will be, at first surprised maybe even shocked, but they will help you out, after all it is their grand-baby and nephew/niece on the way. If you have their support, that's all you need. Maybe even your adoptive family will help you out, you never know, give them a chance. When you have someone behind you, it just gives the strength to accomplish anything.
Try to get government help, there is a lot out there for single mothers, food stamps, financial aid for school, medical insurance, day care assistance, and plenty more. Go to your local department of children and families and get as much information as you can.
I know you will make it. I'm not going to lie, it won't be easy, but if you really want something and work hard at it, you will have a great life, and provide an even better life for your baby.
Contact you school counselor and discuss your options regarding your graduation, don't drop out.
Good luck sweetie! Seems like you'll be a great mom.
Congratulations! Enjoy your blessing, that wonderful baby growing inside of you. Love him/her, take care of care, make her happy, it's a wonderful gift from above.
God bless you!

Answer 7

I won't give you crap about being a pregnant teen, but have you heard of birth control? If you're going to be having sex, and you're not ready to become a parent, I suggest you use it!

I really think you should consider ending the pregnancy. You are not ready to become a parent. You are moving, trying to find a place, trying to go to school and presumably work to support yourself. That's hard enough on your own and adding a kid to the mix, even with enablers--I'm sorry, biological family who you "have a feeling" will support you, although you haven't heard them actually commit to helping you--makes things exponentially harder.

And if you're dead set against ending the pregnancy (by the way, I think having a child you cannot support is worse than ending a pregnancy), then you may want to consider adoption.

Think you'll be a great mom? Good for you. Just wait until you are in a more stable situation before you set about becoming a parent.

Answer 8

You sound like you really have your head on straight for someone so young! I would definitely say you should see about living near the family that will be the most supportive of you. If you just found out a few days ago, I would guess that you're due in late winter, early spring?? You may have a few options...there are high schools that are especially for expectant moms, you can see if there are any in the area you will be in, another option would be to try for your GED, does your HS offer the mid term graduation (where you get your diploma half way through the year), and if so, do you qualify? I'm guessing that you want to go to your graduation and grad party...depending on your due date, and your school, you may be able to arrange to continue your school work while you're recovering from the birth...that way you can return to school (check with your state for child care assistance etc). I hope that everything works out for you and I commend you for having a plan for your future and the future of your child. Many young, single moms manage to meet their goals, and I have a feeling you'll be one!!! Good luck!!

Answer 9

Hey, I had so many friends in high school that were preg, and they all graduated. Just keep motivated about going to school and finishing. It will be hard but if you want to finish then you can. Sometimes your school will work with you and help you out, maybe go half days! Just see what your school can do to help you. There are schools that have day cares in them for you also. Just do some more research about schools and who can help you! Good luck and I hope that you get the chance to graduate!

Answer 10

Wow I am really not trying to be too harsh, but the fact that there are alot of young girls out there who lie about pregnancy, alot of what you say I find hard to believe.

First the fact that you are more worried about the fact that you may for some reason have to miss your party and graduation ceremony, then the fact that you are pregnant. Not to mention since you just found out, assuming your only about a month pregnant, you would be due around march next year, you would make it to your oh so precious graduation.

An EMT, is a paramedic. You first say you are one (which you are too young for and have yet to even graduate high school better yet college), and then later you say you want to be one.

No one is going to give you crap about being pregnant, it's all the rest that is actually hard to believe. It is very very very extremly seldom, that those who are adoptive, care, and care so much that they leave there family and go back to there biological. Not to mention the fact that how many 17 year olds, want to work 3 jobs.

Whatever there is a chance that you could be telling the truth, it's just extremly hard to believe by what you are saying.

Please in the event that you are really telling the truth, do not listen to others, and do not murder your innocent child. It's not there fault. If you must, look into adoption, open if you want.

Millions of women have children and go to school. You can go to college part time even, or take online classes.

Answer 11

Well I got pregnant with my first when I was 17 its no biggie if your ready, but if your not ready then you shouldnt have had sex its got alot of grown up things about it we just dont know, anyways its normal to be scared and to be nervous that just comes along with it and my oldest baby is 2 and im still scared and nervous at times, as far as your partying goes ITS OVER!!!!!! once you are pregnant your not even gonna feel like partying and you need good strength to have a healthy baby and sorry not to be rude but once your old enough to have sex you got to be ready to be old enough to settle down and put all that other non sense behind you, thats just the way of life, your a mommy now settle down and keep your self healthy cause if your not healthy your baby isnt, dont be nervouse though it will all be ok