My bf who is separated from his wife and going thru a divorce to legalize their separation, just found out that his wife is sick and may have cancer. Now I feel like he feels guilty leaving her and he would offer to take care of her (they have a child together). What happens to me now? He said he may take care of her, but it's me he loves. Sounds like a lot of bull, but I do believe he loves me, he just cannot get out of the situation.
2007-07-19 12:31:55 · 12 answers · asked by Jana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you set yourself up to get hurt. How can you call him YOUR boyfriend when he is married?? They have a child together. How do you think he could love you more than the vows he took with her and having a baby together? They have a history!! They have been together along time. You leave that woman's husband alone!! What happens to you now?? You become a better person! You draw some guidelines in your life and tell yourself you will never get involved with another woman's man. Married or not. You are not to used as a transitional item. You are a woman. Respect yourself and a future with a man. How would you like finding out your husband was with another woman while you were home with the baby?
2007-07-19 12:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jeannine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally as a married woman who has been separated and has had her husband see other women I think you should let it go. HE LOVED HER AT ONE TIME TOO. And he may say he loves you but he is committed to his family. I don't think the divorce will happen because if he is taking care of her and still living with her and their child, you will not get the care you need as the other woman. Besides do you really have respect for a man that doesn't have enough respect to separate from his wife before sleeping with you?
2007-07-19 19:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on God's green Earth are you doing dating a married man? After going through a divorce myself, in which my ex wife dated a man and he was married as was she. I have seen what happens. If you think he's going to get out of one marriage just to jump into another, you're sadly mistaken. He'll want to be free for a while, then date, then maybe settle down, Good Luck
2007-07-19 19:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a cheater. This woman may have cancer and all you care about is what happens to YOU??????
They have a CHILD who deserves a mom and dad and you're worried about YOU????????
GET THE HELL AWAY from him. You are screwing up someone else's marriage, someone else's family, and someone else's life. If he wanted to divorce her for you, he would have done it by now.
I wouldn't shock me if a couple of months from now you find out that he just made this whole thing up because you're getting so demanding....
You picked a guy who would cheat on the woman he swore to love and honor.....and someday he'll do it to you.
2007-07-19 19:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should stay with her and take care of her, he married her for better or worse thur sickness and health, and you should be ashamed for even thinking its a lot of bull. He must have loved her he married her and had a child together, so leave them alone and them work out the problems
2007-07-19 19:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by emma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to step out of this relationship. He's married, and he has a child. You're just the girlfriend. This isn't Mr. Right. Move on.
2007-07-19 19:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by twinmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a good one, nice line tell you what call his wife and give your condolences on her situation and see how she is feeling. Will be an eye opener
2007-07-19 19:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact he is not divorcing and is "separating" is already fishy..
..see my opinion on "people separate so they can sleep with other people" from a previous post.
2007-07-19 19:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he might take care of her, he will. Tragedy will mend broken hearts. That is what is happening here. Wouldn't you want him to do the same for you. You know where his heart is and it's not with you.
2007-07-19 19:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mekia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still loves his wife. It's a connection that will never go away. If you started dating him while he was married(obviously) it will never work out.
2007-07-19 19:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by mahdiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋