I dont trust my sister in law with my husband..?

Question

For the past few weeks, I have noticed that my sister in law has been talking to my husband a lot. I got the new cell bill and her number was all over it. Mostly calls made by him. She tells him everything and I started to feel uncomfortable with it. I told the both of them that I didnt like it and they both got mad and said that they are "family" and nothing was going on. ANyway, after that incident, everything cooled down., so I assumed.My sister in law recently got her nipples peirced and decided to show it. She was showing to only the girls of the family. Later I was told by my best friend that her ex boyfriend spoke to my husband and he told him that my sister in law showed him her breasts. I asked him about it and he denied it. I mentioned it to her and she did too. My best friend of 22 years, never lies to me about things.. She has my back 100% . Do you think something is going on between them two? What would you do? Am I assuming things? I need some advice..

this is my brothers wife.. not his sister

Answer 1

i wouldn't trust her either!!! if ur friends hasnt' lied to u b4 why would she now but that doesn't mean her sorce didn't lie to her!!! i would definately either be your sister in law or your spouse at most times...and what would it hurt if he couldn't find his cell phone and while he was gone you did and someone just happens to call...and what would it hurt for you to see what that person says??? but if i were u i would keep an eye on them!!!

Answer 2

Don't get angry at me, I'm just going to be honest because you sound just like me when I was younger and I needed someone to be honest with me. It didn't feel good at first but I am thankful for it now because now I see what an immature, selfish idiot I was: What does that say about you if you would still want to leave your child with her if she was as bad as you describe? Sorry, but take it from and idiot who has been in your same shoes. I'm just being honest because when I was younger I was also in denial about my shortcomings and it was easier to crucify someone else than to work on my own personality flaws. I'm not saying your sister in law doesn't have some issues, but come on, do you need her that badly to baby sit and help you with your wedding and shower? She's making excuses not to watch your baby? Hello? She's a drama queen? She's jealous? It sounds like you've been using her and she's tired of it. Someone had to be this honest with me at some point in my life and I finally grew up. I hope you take this advice with grace and understand that sometimes we have to look at ourselves when we start focusing on other peoples flaws too much. It usually turns out that it is your own self with the flaw, not the other person. Good luck.

Answer 3

If your husband and sister are low life's in other areas of their lives........... They can be the same way with regard to marriage.

If you always have had boy friends that cheated on you.... perhaps the problem is with you (meaning you may be imagining what's going on).... or you just don't pick the right men to be with.

Seek some professional assistance. This is a road that anyone would need guidance on.

Answer 4

well... it doesn't sound normal, but until you have hard evidence you won't be able to do much besides throwing them both the evil eye when you are both at the same place. If she is your sister in law is she married to your brother or your husband's brother. Can you trust him well enough to ask him what he thinks?

Tough spot. Hang in... short of piercing your own nipples ( eeeewwwww) bad for breast feeding... I think hanging in as all you can do til something cracks!

good luck!

Answer 5

I wouldn't worry to much she sounds like she has a wild side to her and isn't interested in him as a lover. I think they are have an emotional affair that needs to stop. She is
putting herself right in the middle of your marriage which she has no right to do. The respect in this relationship needs to be questioned. A couple means 2 not 3 hun.

Answer 6

If there is no blood in that relationship, it's time to end it ("family" or not). I would bring your brother in on what's going on. Out of mutual respect I think new boundaries need to be established in the relationship. I know in my relationship I would never spend endless hours talking to any man I wasn't BLOOD related to without my husband being there and vise versa.

Answer 7

Your sister in law is behaving badly. So is your husband. He made a commitment when he married you, and he's got no business fooling with her. I'd be angry with them both. Sit down with your husband and tell him either this stops or he loses you.

Answer 8

Assuming that she is not your husband's sister, she must be your brother's wife. If she is your brother's wife, you should probably talk to your brother and share your concerns. Perhaps he has observed the same behavior, or has an explanation.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Threw experience and all, I would say they both have an sexual attraction between eachother and i would make sure i put a stop to it quick! They will both go behind your back and lie and still be talking to eachother.