My in-laws treat my children(from another marrige) different from their grandchild. I am ready to snap, but afraid since we are staying with them that they will say leave. What I want to say is till you treat your other grandcchild like crap keep away from my kids. I mean my children can be doing the same thing and they will get yelled at but the others wont. What can I do?
2007-07-19 11:53:52 · 6 answers · asked by cupidangelgirl2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask them why they do that.
2007-07-19 12:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by Thing H. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is remember that you're a parent and as such you're obligated to pick your battles carefully. Believe it or not I am familiar with that dynamic all too well. But I also know that the bigger picture requires that you maintain a suitable dwelling for your children, and if you need help with that right now, it would be foolish to damage that arrangement by picking a fight. Look at it this way, nothing will motivate you stronger to hurry up and get out on your own than being uncomfortable with the dynamics you're currently dealing with....I'm sorry it's like that, but maybe it's a blessing in disguise. Just make sure your children are well aware that you love them dearly, and allow God and time to deal with things that are beyond your control. Good luck.
2007-07-19 19:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak your mind! Keeping this inside is causing more damage than the problem itself! First tell them kindly about your feelings and ask them to please consider your children's feelings! These children have to grow up together and the last thing they need is to feel that one is more important than the other! These type of situation has caused so much damage to children's self esteem! We should all try and raise our children as equals and others should do the same! What will happen is that these children will compete against each other and that's not healthy, because they are siblings! They should love and protect each other!
2007-07-19 19:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by toyandapowell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In-laws, step-parent-step bros and sisters - Been there done that - its all very uncool!
The best thing for you is to find yer own place and develop it into your home and make it your home. So that no-one, not even yer in-laws can wreck it!
You have your own children, take them and go live on yer own with them.
If yer in-laws are such the stick in the mud then try to understand their narrow minded-ness and get beyond that. Get out and try to develop that which you so cherish for it is yours and yours alone - it it your strength - don't let it become yer weakness!
Trying to taker care of someone elses kids is fine - though the toughest in the world ! they don't cut corners in such manners - believe yer own stuff and quit the deal asap and get clear of influences such as these - they are un-healthy in a way that you give way to their demands and see nothing in return nor for yer own childs improvement and development.
2007-07-19 19:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by upyerjumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd get out of there. I think it is normal for people to be that way, nut it is totally wrong., especially if they're doing the same thing. It sounds like money is tight for you guys, sp try to work overtime or save up extra money. If you stay there, then it's definetley gonna affect your child. He'll grow up thinking that people get disciplined deifferently bcuz of who they are related to or who they know. It doesn't sound like a good situation, and you need to put your child's emotional well being first right now.Sorry about what your liitle guy is dealing with. i wish you luck.
2007-07-19 19:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jenel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them in front of your husband
2007-07-19 19:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by twiggy_vienna_love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋