What is the best way for a person to start developing more belief in themselves.?

Question

I find that most of my thoughts and ideas are very self defeating. so how do you start changing your thoughts and ideas if those are the only ones you have.

Answer 1

Success builds on success as failure feeds on failure. Focus on the positive, be grateful for the good things that happen and take responsibility for being proactive in making positive things happen. There are many things in your life you can be grateful for, be it health, looks, a roof over your head or ability to use this forum to air your issues. Keep these in your thoughts. Find a small thing you would like to make better, write down the things that could make it happen and list the steps along the way. Set a goal for yourself, not a time-line, just levels of achievement. When you attain one level, celebrate it as though it was the achievement of the goal itself. That will help you keep focused and on track. Make sure the people in your life are adding to your goals, not distracting you from achieving them.

Answer 2

start with telling yourself you're not that bad.
i mean i think everyone goes through something like this. ask people that care about you what quality they like the most about you. then sit down one day and really consider what they've said. you'll probably realize that they were right. and you have to realize that the negative thoughts you're producing arent going to help you. think about a time you really got down to business and got your work done well. whether it be for a test at school, or cleaning up your house before guests come over. think about how its true: you really can do what you set your mind to. but DONT feel sorry for yourself for thinking negative thoughts in the first place. think about how you've helped out a friend... all the good deeds... and if u feel you dont have any good deeds, just get out there and help out... volunteer one day, it'll really be satisfying when you see that you've made a real difference... and the one thing about life is that you dont always realize how u influence people. it's like the quote "to the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world". and if you mean the world to someone... then there's DEFINATELY something special about you. and if you're young think about how you have a whole life a head of you, all those years to make a difference. and if you're not so young, think about all you've been through that you can learn from. i know what it's like to be where you are. and you have to realize that the only person that's really stopping you from being amazing is yourself... so with that i'd like to say it's up to you to find yourself and believe that you'll make something of yourself. no deed is too little to not be counted for something.

Answer 3

You have to want to change to change yourself.

Partake in an activity that interests you and become knowledgeable. Once knowledgeable, recognize your ability to teach someone else the activity.

Volunteer. Other's misfortunes will snap you into reality, that your life is probably a lot easier than their's.

Stop saying should, and start saying do. Stop saying can't and start saying can. So once you start saying you can do this and that, then you will start believing in yourself. Once you start doing what you want, then you can stop procrastinating with should.

Get more sleep and hydrate yourself. If you maintain good health, your psychological health will benefit and so will your self-esteem.

Answer 4

True Self-ishness always leads to joy, because it is motivated always by
the desire to feel as good as possible. It is only when we are Self-ish
enough to be, do and act in accordance with our desires (not someone
else’s) that it is possible to stay balanced. Energetically speaking, a
desire is a rush of life force energy, a connection to the divine inner
self, which can never result in actions that are harmful. It is only
when true desires are blocked that they become twisted and ugly. This
statement goes against the common wisdom that human nature is greedy,
violent and primitive. Human nature is precisely the opposite: we are
born knowing ourselves as powerful, eternal, spiritual beings. Petty,
competitive, churlish and violent behavior must be
overcome with suitable practice. Observe your family, friends
and coworkers. Almost all of them are good people, trying to do the best
they can. It would simply not be possible to build a sophisticated
society if human nature was so base. All successful societies are based
upon cooperation, not competition. Competition works not because it is
adversarial, but because it inspires teamwork. Ask two angry guys to get
something constructive done, it is not going to happen. All
success is based upon cooperation. That is because we live in an
attraction based universe.

These natural impulses are supposed to be dangerous because they stem
from a primitive survival instinct. But human being has a bette mind
than animals. Just look around at the mess the world is in! But that is
a delusional assertion, a denial of the basic nature of consciousness
itself. The natural impulses of human nature stem from a connection to
life force, and it is resistance to this divine impulse which causes the
selfish behavior people object to.

If you observe people you will quickly see that those persons who are
most alive are full of desire, and those who look lifeless have little
or no desire. Desire = life force. Shut off desire = selfish behavior.
It's ironic that selfish behavior actually results from self-denial.

Human nature is not a primitive, biological instinct based on survival
of the fittest, it’s a pure connection to source energy. It is divine.
It's only when that connection is closed off that selfish behavior is
demonstrated. Every one of your desires is, in its non-resisted state,
joyful and balanced, because that is an inherent property of
consciousness itself. True selfishness is allowance of desire, without
resistance, and results in the impulse to give freely to others. But it
is first necessary to allow that impulse within yourself.

http://kjmaclean.com/Selfishness.html

Answer 5

Everyday you wake up and look in the mirror and say to yourself I AM A SEXY *****! LOL its positive self affirmations. You retrain your brain to think in a different manner. It's like telling a kid with bad self-esteem how wonderful they are for a continuous amount of time and watching them blossom. You don't even have to believe it at first, eventually you will start to see yourself in a "real" light. How wonderful you are, how valued you are and worthy you are! I hope all works out the best for you!

Answer 6

Know that God loves you. Soul exists because God loves it. YOU exist because God loves you. Self defeating thoughts and ideas are only illusion. You are Divine. Start looking for the best in yourself and others. You will find it, because it is part of who you are.

Answer 7

i used to be like that too. i finally stopped judging myself when i stopped reading magazines and wondering about hollywood life. i learned to look in the mirror and instead of pointing out flaws point out something you like. try it all, it helps!