There are two kinds of pretending. There is the bad kind, as when a person falsely promises to be your friend. But there is also a good kind, where the pretense eventually turns into the real thing. For example, when you are not feeling particularly friendly, the best thing you can do, very often, is to act in a friendly manner. In a few minutes, you may freally be feeling friendlier.
Can deception - pretending something is true when it is not - sometimes have good results?
explain your thought
2007-07-19 11:34:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
No, I can't say I agree with that. Yes, it is better to not spread a bad mood, but pretending to be happy when you are not is how bad situations stay bad. It's a fine line to walk, but showing displeasure without wallowing or spreading it is, in my opinion, far superior than acting like Marge Simpson.
2007-07-19 11:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by juicy_wishun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, pretending to be happy can actually make you happy. When you walk down the street on your worst day, and put a fake smile on your face, the greetings of all the other people you see can make you happy.
Whatever made you think you were unhappy hasn't changed, but your attitude has. This is because you are actually in charge of your own feelings, and when you pretend to be happy, it comes true.
It also works with learning to play an instrument, or learning to paint. First you pretend you know how, and then the more you pretend, the more it becomes true. Watch a little child pretending to read. It works.
2007-07-19 18:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by Yarnlady_needsyarn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acting friendly to be polite is not the same as deception because you are not lying for self-gain, and like you said acting in a friendly manner can change your mood.
My interpretation of deception is lying to manipulate.
Sometimes I'm not in the mood for sex but I go along with my husbands request because he needs sex, and what started off as a grudging agreement on my part often ends up with both of us having great sex, a good result all around.
2007-07-19 18:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...thats a really good question, for I actually DO that. But my view point is different...I don't dislike anyone, nor do I 'hate' the person. I can HATE thier action...but forgive them later on or if they explain themselves.
Hmm, I only got positive feed back. But doing so, your going to have to accept thier bad habits, things, and actions. Like this one girl, don't know her very well, don't really talk to her...but I share my food every now, just to be friendly and then and when I got myself in quit of a pickle...she helps bail me out of it by offering me to tell him off. Which she does. That got me see her in a different light.
I say, it SOMETIMES a good thing...you just have to becareful on whom you try to pick as friends but don't be picky!
A dimond can be buried underneath all that rock. You just have to give it a chance to let it shine.
2007-07-19 20:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kero-chan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think...whether or not deceit is bad or good depends on circumstance, and your own perception of bad and good. If your perception of good is keeping others happy at your expense if necessary, and you feel like crap, to you, pretending to be happy to prevent dampening their mood is good. You're pleased at the fact that they're not depressed too. It's good. But if you live by making yourself feel happy even at other people's expenses, if you're feelin' crappy then pretending to be happy doesn't really help you, and may even hurt you if pretending puts you in the "what're they so happy about?" mindset. So, it's all based on circumstance.
2007-07-20 00:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deception is deception. this type of thinking is a justification. We tend to justify when we do something that we believe is wrong, but hope to alleviate our experience of guilt.
"Ends justifying the means" is a very dangerous approach to the world. if you believe that deception is wrong, then I would suggest avoiding all together. A relationship built with deception violates trust.
2007-07-19 20:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think this can be a good thing sometimes. I think the same thing can be said about doing the right thing even when you don't feel like it. Soon after doing the right thing time after time, pretty soon your feelings change to actually like doing the right things, just for example.
2007-07-19 18:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sorry, I think you are wrong, pretending that I am getting what I want by doing this is never going to make it so, it is only getting my mind off of what I really want and can't maybe have or do is that bad or what?
2007-07-19 18:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by Friend 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋