What is the best marriage advice you can give to make it work?

Answer 1

THE 1ST YEAR OF MARRIAGE SETS THE TONE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE TOGETHER! Do these and most of the great advice in other answers and you'll be fine:
**Notice the small stuff- pay attention to the little things in each other
**Take off your mask-- be honest, real, sincere and open
**Make "we" or "us" the priority-- diminish the "I" part
**Make your partner feel liked and loved-- show and speak affectionately, have a sense of humor, wrestle and play in the mud, eat Oreo cookies and ice cream together
**Create safe spaces- make it safe for your partner to be open and honest, don't judge or be critical unnecessarily
**Support each other- be aware of each others sensitive spots and pains, have his/her back
**Tend to the fire-- need I say more
**Allow for separateness also- give each other space and time alone, especially when requested
**Always fight fair-- screaming/yelling, repeated arguments that go nowhere, picking fights, throwing up old issues, etc., damage goodwill
**never go to sleep angry
**Learn to compromise, forgive and reach out when necessary.... and always, always give 100%, not 50/50
** And remember, "it ain't always about you!" There will be times when your partner is agitated, it may have nothing to do with you, so don't personalize all issues as being your cause or related to you

And finally, the key to a good marriage is much, much more than good communication, this is only the beginning and does not solve all issues. Much of what is listed above is beyond communication.

Answer 2

There are no two marriages that are the same, so this is a hard one to answer. My best advice would be for the both of you to talk to each other and find out whats missing in your relationship. Be open and be honest. Don't take things personally. Just listen then work on a couple things at a time. Don't expect change over night because it will not happen. Just take your time and listen to each other.

Answer 3

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It is a typical enough story: one partner leaves, the other stays. One remains 'in love', the other is uncertain. Whatever it is that has caused a couple to be apart, the one person who remains bears the prospect, fear, doubt, desire, hope of saving his or her marriage' alone.

Answer 4

We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.

2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.

4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.

Answer 5

SET TIME ASIDE FOR JUST THE TWO OF YOU,TURN OFF THE CELL PHONE,HOME PHONE,PAGER,FAX,ANY FORM OF COMMUNICATION THAT WILL INTERFERE WITH YOUR TIME TOGETHER,TALK AND LISTEN TO EACH OTHER WHEN PROBLEMS ARISE,DON'T LET IT FESTER UNTIL YOU BLOW UP. AND WHATEVER YOU DID OR SAID TO CAPTURE YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER CONTINUE TO DO THAT SUCH AS,YOU ALWAYS KEPT A FRESH HAIRCUT,YOUR NAILS DONE,WENT TO THE BEAUTY PARLOR OFTEN,SHOWER HIM OR HER WITH GIFTS,GOOD WITH CHILDREN,OR SAYING THE RIGHT THINGS,ETC...SOME PEOPLE FEEL THAT ONCE YOU ARE WITH THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE YOU NO LONGER HAVE TO DO WHAT YOU DID BEFORE YOU HOOKED UP.BUT WHAT THEY FAIL TO REALIZE IS THAT,THAT IS WHAT ATTRACTED THAT PERSON TO YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE.SO BASICALLY DON'T START SOMETHING YOU CAN'T KEEP UP.AND LAST OF ALL AT LEAST ONCE A DAY LOOK YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER IN THE EYES AND TELL HIM OR HER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM,TOMORROW ISN'T PROMISED TO NOBODY AND THE LAST THING YOU WOULD WANT IS FOR HIM OR HER TO BE TAKEN AWAY FROM YOU WITHOUT KNOWING HOW MUCH HIM OR HER MEANT TO YOU.

Answer 6

Marriage is a triangle a connection between you and god and then you and your spouse and your spouse and god if one angle is broken the marriage can survive but if two or more is broken then the marriage is broken
Keep connected to your faith and your spouse and everything will work out with even more blessings in the end.

Answer 7

Put your marriage before your friends, other family drama and do not accept advice on your marriage from those who are not married or just got recently divorced. Make sure you show love for each other daily, no matter how you do it snd make time for each other.

Answer 8

Communication is the key to keeping a relationship alive, the best advice is to always find ways to communicate and understand each other better, men and women are very different, we think differently, talk and act differently, so really understanding your partner will bond you for life!

Answer 9

You both have to be willing to talk a lot (communicate) and LISTEN to the other person without judging, interrupting, or criticizing. I learned the hard way. But am lucky to still have my marriage well intact.

Answer 10

Be honest and supportive. Take the time to still be yourself and let them do the same; it will make the time together more satisfying to you both. Mostly, always forgive and understand as much as possible. Noone will hurt you as much as the people that love you...

Answer 11

I second Valentina, and will add 1. It's okay to argue, but don't fight. 2. Accept the other for who they are, not what you want them to be. 3. At least once a year, do something new and different togather.