Sorry if this is in the wrong section, but I figured more women/girls were here then boys/men, and well sometimes they act more foolish....
In my head I feel like I am fat, because when I look down all I can obviusly see if my stomach becasue of the angle. But when I am really looking in the mirror I feel fine. My mom says I'm fat, and she's drunk a lot. So it throws my mind out of wack. I don't know if it's just her negative remarks that make me feel fat or if I really do have a problem. HELP!
2007-07-19 11:06:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
The most important thing here is how you feel about yourself, from the inside. If you see yourself in the mirror as a beautiful young woman, put that same idea inside your head so that you will "see" it in your head also. Don't let your mom put you down, you can build yourself an invisible shield to her taunts; she is taunting you because she feels bad about herself and should not be taking her illness (alcoholism) out on you.
2007-07-19 11:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by ripsgracie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a young woman who has her head on straight. Of course you're not fat. And it sounds like you know that. I grew up with an alcoholic mother, and they are very angry and take it out on their children. Go to your library and try to study up on alcoholism and what it does to a family. Not just being drunk, but the personality disorder. Maybe you can begin to see where she's coming from and not internalize it all. You are going to internalize a lot anyway, but when she makes you feel guilty, or lashes out at you, you will know that it's the alcohol talking
You got some good advice in the answers. School counselors, therapist, good older friends, if possible. I'm glad you're using these boards, and I agree and understand about boys' comments. They usually are silly! Good luck!
2007-07-19 11:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi.
It is a little hard to give you an objective judgment without a pic but the fact that your mother is drunk a lot does not inspire confidence in her.
Opinions are like *** wholes, everybody has got one!! Maybe you should keep this in mind the next time words of wisdom come out of the mouth of your mother?
The main thing here is your opinion and the opinion of people your trust and respect. Maybe your mother is taking her frustrations out on you.
Just make sure you eat a well balanced diet and exercises and your body will reward you!!
Good luck!
2007-07-19 11:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by F 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well hun, I'm sorry but your mom has no place to talk. if she's always drunk like you say then just ignore her, and i know that's hard to do. My father is a recovered alcoholic but to this day he still give me crap about my weight, but all you can say to them is that you're happy in your own skin and they should be happy with that.
And I'm not just pulling this out of my a*s, i am a heavy set girl too and I'm 18. I've had to deal with this all my life, and you should never have to be degraded by your own mother. You do not have a problem, you just need to keep your head high whenever your mother says something negative to you.
2007-07-19 11:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a good thing to be concerned about your health, but if your mom is calling you fat, that's a form of verbal abuse. Many women struggle with perceiving their bodies in unrealistic ways... it's a good thing that you are wondering whether your perceptions are correct. It sounds like your family has some serious problems. I strongly recommend that you talk to a school counselor, a psychologist, or even the police, who can help you and your mom start to get the help you need.
2007-07-19 11:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're probably not fat, although I don't know what you look like. Mothers are human too and not perfect. Unfortunately some parents are abusive.Your mom seems kinda mean. Even if you are fat, she shouldn't tell you that. Don't listen to her. Sounds like she needs help with her drinking problem and with learning how to be nice and tactful.
2007-07-19 11:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your Mom is really messed up, and an alcoholic. I don't see how anybody can be mean to their own kids on purpose - that's really sad! You deserve better than that especially since you are obviously intelligent and probably very pretty too. (Not every person has to be skinny - that's just a bunch of BS!) Don't let your Mom hating herself and hating her life ruin yours. The best revenge is to be happy, love yourself and don't let it affect you negatively.
2007-07-19 11:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should try talking to your school's pshycologist or a close friend or relative... Preferably a woman. You don't sound overweight and if you keep telling yourself that you're fat you could become anorexic and get really sick... Nobody wants that... Good luck and I hope you make the right decision!
2007-07-19 11:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should ignore what your mum says and try and get her some help with the drinking. I know what it's like living with someone who drinks. Not much fun.
As long as you feel fine don't worry about what anyone says. If you are worried about your weight go and ask a doctor or nurse. they can help you :)
2007-07-19 11:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by carmen1509s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe your mam has a drink problem and she feels guilty dont let her make u feel bad its just the drink talking hold your head up high even if u do have a bit of extra weight so what be proud of it its better than being skin and bone
2007-07-19 11:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by may 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋