Okay, so I recently went out with a guy, and we were the typical teenage couple that lasted a month. He confessed that he had feelings for me, but I had absolutley no connection with him- WHATSOEVER. When we kissed or made out, I felt no connection, it was just touching and lips, nothing more, even though he got horney from it, and I began to start hating him because he would always get horney around me. When I broke up with him, it was a relief.
But the main thing is... I don't think I can be in love with guys. The only two people I love... are girls. And not sexually at all, just this romantic love, and I know they'll never love me back how I love them.
I'm pretty sure I'm straight, because yes, a guy with a d*** turns me on, and I don't feel any sexual lust for women. I just feel... lust for guys and love for girls, does that make sense? My friend feels the same way about relationship, but doesn't know I love her. Can someone help me? Thank you.
2007-07-19 10:47:58 · 15 answers · asked by Snow White Queen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are still a teenager and luckily not distracted too much by boys. You are suppose to love your girlfriends. They are your true friends. You will find that when you are ready....you will love a guy (not just lust). You are so a better position than these teenagers who think they are in love with every male they lust after. Maturity comes from knowing the difference between lust and love and waiting for real love. And it is okay to love your gfs in a non sexual way. I am closer to my gfs than my family.
2007-07-19 10:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is really common. It changed for me when I finally met the right guy for me. It was crazy because I felt so comfortable around him. Usually you think love it knots in your stomach, and being nervous on a first date.
But the biggest thing is I had inately, had this feeling that said you can trust this guy, and I did. He never tried to do anything that I wasn't ready for, and I did feel a strong attraction for him.
So I think it depends on the person you are with, guy or girl, and you have to trust them, and be ready.
You seem pretty smart, that you were not ready and had no attraction to him.
Also, everyone is so different, there was a guy i was attracted to physically, but he did not smell right, not to say he smelled bad, but that has a lot to do with physiology, and good mates, we could even read each others thoughts, but I could not date him, because if we made out, he smelled wrong. PS never tell a guy if this is the case. Just tell him, it doesn't feel right, but you can be friends.
Good luck.
2007-07-19 10:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally think U are Normal, going through what U s/b going through...as we grow up we learn from experiences and this is definitely something that U have well thought out and understand....As for Ur friend that feels the same way that U do...see if U can find a time that U can bring up the subject and clue her in on what U have been feeling...once U get it out there maybe U will be able to relax a bit...
I say just keep doing what U are doing and enjoy LifE as it comes at U!!
Peace OUT!!
2007-07-19 10:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by SuasGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone, even boys your age that won't admit it have those curious feelings. You are young and your hormones are out of control. On top of that, you are now developing your own personality and opinions, not just what you are told by your parents and teachers. You love your girlfriends because you have a strong and intimate connection with them. It may be that you need those deep feelings in order to feel a spark with someone and the last guy just didn't do it for you. That doesn't make you gay or even bi-sexual, even if you "experiment" to find out exactly what you want and need. Just have pacients and you will figure out your desires.
2007-07-19 10:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by piphop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can relate to your story. I have a lot of trouble opening up to guys. Especially when they are my boyfriend. i tend to think alot too, and that makes it because i dont really feel anything when we kiss or whatever.
I also have a very strong relationship with my best friend. We say i love you and we mean it. And no we are not in anyway gay. We just have a very strong bond. Like family.
I dont know if this is how you feel but it seems close to me. I tell myself that i will find a guy who will make me be able to open up more and be able to say "i love you" and mean it.
I dont have any advise for you. All i can say is that i feel the same so you are not alone.
hope i helped
rae
2007-07-19 10:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Females sexually peak much later than men do, so it is only natural that your body isn't responding physically yet. in our society girls are pressured into being sex objects at younger and younger ages, often years before they are emotionally ready. Don't worry, it doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you. It just means that you need more time before you have physical relationships.
As far as having love for your friend, this is also very common and it doesn't mean that you are a lesbian. Girls can connect very strongly with their friends. Don't worry.
best wishes
2007-07-19 10:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by TelulahB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder how old you are.... it certianly sounds like you are confused. I believe that our sexuality and love interests are usually the same. But if I was going to listen to one more that the other... it would be love. Physically, humans can perform sexually or get "turned on" by many things, but love is what I think determines a person's true orientation.
Just my thoughts... it's your road to go down, grow, and explore as you make your choices and follow your own heart.
2007-07-19 10:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very normal and going through the very normal part of finding a mate. It is also very normal to be attracted to other girls. females need females. Guys really don't needs guys the same way. We need to create bonds and friendships with girls as part of our human cycle. The right boy will come along when you least expect it. just now is not the right time for you, so enjoy your girlfriends while you can. :-)
2007-07-19 10:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by just me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are probably a very bright girl who sees how shallow many teenage boys are. I hope someday, when you are a little older, you meet a caring and compassionate man and can love him. There are two or three ou there.
2007-07-19 10:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by crct2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have not found the right guy yet. Sooner or later you will meet someone with "electricity". Don't worry about it. Meanwhile, I would not make out with someone if there is no chemistry. Bad habit.
2007-07-19 10:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋