My better half is not nearly as much as I am...but she tells me she needs time to 'come around' and I will wait as long as it takes!
However frustrating it may be that she isn't as much into kink as I am, I respect the fact she is not. Is it ok to express my ideas and desires to her anyway?- sofar she hasn't said to stop.
Looking for input on this matter, and ladies, I love her and will wait.
2007-07-19 10:46:07 · 22 answers · asked by Diadem 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have 4 lovely years together sofar!
2007-07-19 10:53:14 · update #1
Bottom line is: I love her with all I have, and would put those thoughts out of mind just so she would be comfy.
2007-07-19 11:10:36 · update #2
Theres VERY few things that I would consider too kinky! She's probably about 5 shots away from doin what you want...LOL!!
2007-07-19 11:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, I'm not a lady, but I do have a comment. I have the same situation. I consider myself more experimental and kinky than my partner. Although she hasn't agreed to play as much as me, she hasn't stopped me from talking about it. And sometimes, that's enough just be able to freely express myself. If you must have a play partner, there are groups you can join just for that kind of play. Make it something outside the relationship.
2007-07-19 10:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to think that not everybody has the same ideas. Just let her come to you and if you really want her to do the things you want her do to, why don't you ask her what it is that she would like to have done to her. Maybe talk about it sometimes after a good dinner and few glasses of wine.
As long as she knows that you are willing to wait and that you love her anyways, you will probably get everything that you want in the end.
Getting there is just as fun as doing it..
Good luck
2007-07-19 10:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by johanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
99.9% yes. There are a few guys who don't. Unless they were raised strictly religious or were abused or some other scenario that makes them feel uncomfortable and guilty about sex then they will like it, guaranteed. Not every guy will like every idea you come up with, but just the fact that you're wanting to or even just willing to try new things makes you a keeper.
2016-05-17 21:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by kelsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question, because you know your partner better than any of us. There are a few issues I have with that question though:
- how important is it for you to adapt this variety into your sex life?
- will you be able to let it go, if your partner never agrees to participate?
- how far would you go to bring her to the same level of sexual adventure as you are?
Waiting around for her to wake up one day so to speak and join in on your quest for sexual adventure, wouldn't be a very fruitful idea at all. You should be looking for some information to share with her. Internet is full of all kinds of helpful ideas. You can start with something mild to begin with, and see how she likes it. Just keep in mind: she might reject it all together, and you would have to live with it. In that case, you might want to discuss her own sexual fantasies. It might be a very exciting idea to play out some of hers to begin with... In any case, it shouldn't be a frustrating time for you at all. Make it into a game between two people who are learning to Cherish each other in more ways than one.
2007-07-19 11:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you know guys always make themselves sound like the knights in shining armor but that's not always the case. Are you stroking her emotionally outside the bed prior to getting in the bed? Do you compliment her and hold her etc,etc, without requiring sex afterwards? Have you made it your life's mission to "break her into freakiness)? She may freeze up every time sex is introduced to her if she knows that it's just another lesson from the so-called kinky sex teacher. Ease up a little and pay attention to her without requiring sexual gratification afterwards. Have some "normal" sexual escapades and gradually introduce the things you like. Most women want to please their man but men can be a little like jerks when it comes to their needs.
2007-07-19 11:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by tweenki48 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should just introduce her slowly to a few things u'd like to do in bed and then let her show u what she likes. it's 50/50, remember? so, if u each communicate openly and do a little of e/o's favorite things, it'll be easier and more comfy for her w/o the overwhelming kink factor. good luck!
2007-07-19 11:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by HoPeFuL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion no, but that's just me. If my husbands wants to try something that he thinks will be fun, he asks me if we can try it first that way there are no unexpected surprises. I think it's a great thing that you want to express your desires and ideas with her, maybe it will get her to open up to her own desires. You will never know if you don't talk about.
2007-07-19 11:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by Lil's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha ha, well I am not sure if you are into putting bunnies in your trousers or what, but I guess there is a limit for all of us....or most of us...
You must continue to communicate with her at ALL costs! It might be that she is mostly lacking in experience and not interest. Keep telling her how much you love her and how much it means to experience these things with her.
GOOD LUCK, you sound very caring!!!!!
2007-07-19 10:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you go way over board. I think a lot of it is that she has not done it and it is kind of uncomfortable since it is all new to her. Take it a little at a time and don't pressure her, if you try something and she hesitates then stop.
2007-07-19 10:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋