I'm a transgendered pagan woman, and a friend who I trust is trying to help me move to the same town she lives in but the place she found has one who is not understanding of transgender's nor do I think he would allow me to say there if he knew; now please don't say use a male name as one can see that I have breast and that I can't hide, should I take the offer or not knowing he is as rednack as one gets?
2007-07-19 10:43:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Befur you IM or eMail me about my word & terminology useage I wish to apologize to all who has taken this as an insult; it's not. And yes I know not everyone is the same. That said All I am Asking is Should I make the move, if yes why you think that an if no why you think that ?!?!? Ok?
2007-07-19 13:10:11 · update #1
My dear Lady, the thing that matters first and foremost is your safety. Whether or not your want to be near your friend doesn't mean you should move into a place that you don't feel is safe. (as for rednecks, I know quite a few that would give you the shirts off of their backs' but that's beside the point)
Many people have given you good advice but you alone have to make this decision. Is your friendship enough for you to put your safety aside? If it was me, I would not take this place, but urge the Friend to find me one that I trust a little more. If you are not certain (and being Pagan myself, I know what you mean about trusting that gut feeling)
**don't do it. ** If she's your friend, she'll understand. If you;'re not comforatable, don't put yourself at risk unless you can assure yourself of his safety of your person.
Good luck and Blessings.
2007-07-19 12:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, since the town does not understand transgender people and/or problems, I doubt you would be able to live a happy life...I would go and live in a place where people actually understand and accept transgendered people..is there such a place? Is your friendship with him worth it?
2007-07-19 13:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by starz_crash05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have all the info I need to give you a valid answer. That said, it's clear as you have stated in the past that you reveal what you are because you have a need to educate. I respect that for in order for us all to "get along" education is paramount. Here in lies the problem. You need to understand that most "students" in this world don't want to learn. So, if this person is a "redneck" and you pass well enough, take the housing opportunity and keep your mouth shut. Surviving is not a compromise of one's beliefs.
2007-07-19 11:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Abe E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never assume that all rednecks are transphobic! Some are as nice as can be, but are just a wee bit on the ignorant side. Also, if you know the place is not going to be safe don't move in. A person should not feel worried at their own residence.
2007-07-19 10:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She just still has her baby fur, I have a papillion and it took over a year for the adult fur to grow in, her fur became thicker around her neck and it became long, I wouldn't worry, I love looking at the pics of my wee papillion as a pup, she looks adorable, (she still is, love her to bits).x
2016-05-17 21:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not getting a good feeling about it from either transgendered or pagan aspects. However, she is your friend and you trust her. Speak to her openly about your concerns and fully assess the situation before you make a decision.
2007-07-19 23:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lou C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lisa the pooh has a very good point,but some people don't judge,even though they might be rednecks,you need to get full understanding of the towns people,she needs to be honest, maybe educate him and see where that goes.try to get all the info you can get before jumping in, your safety first
2007-07-19 11:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by drkangelrzng 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not do anything that would make you uncomfortable or someone else uncomfortable even though he or she may not be enlightened. Think about him as well as yourself and understand that you should respect his feelings as well even though he may not understand who you are or the lifestyle you have chosen to live. Remember to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Would you be upset if say a skinhead lived in the apartment next door to you. I am sure you would so be understanding of how he feels and find another place. It will be better for him and for you.
2007-07-19 11:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by Walker 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
do you mean the "mean guy" is in the town,or will be in the same house......i had trouble understanding.
i definitely wouldn't want to live with someone who would make my adjustment hard - but if he is just in the area or apartment complex - whatever the case may be - you will encounter that where-ever you go from someone,that's just life. you can't base decisions on what others may think or say to you - if it would make you happy,i say go. if it isn't what you wanted,you can always find another place.
good luck.
2007-07-20 04:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥livingdeadgirl♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i got to tell you this if this person is as bad as you say i would think long and hard about putting yourself in harms way. cause some people are so closed minded they may not stop at insults .some dumbasses have to go cave man and revert to violence. i`ve kinda gotten to know you a bit and i would worry about you .it wasn`t that long ago that people used to hurt and even kill black people. that was only skin color,hon, think about it . i had some crazy girl named sandy on my *** cause i said it isn`t wrong to be gay.
2007-07-19 14:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by Babe428 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋