this is starting to irritate me in a way, im not the type of guy who would talk back to someone and tell them to mind there own business but how can i tell them in a good way. i usually just laugh and say soon. most of the time its the women telling me .."soooo when are you guysss havinggg kidsssss" blah
2007-07-19 10:41:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this happened to my uncle and aunty a few years ago.. after putting up with it all they can she finally said, "well i am unable to have kids, so thanks for bringing it up" they never asked them again.
When they finally decided to have kids everyone thought these kids were miracle babies.. however a few years later my aunty and uncle let it slip to me that it was all a lie so people wouldn't ask them anymore
2007-07-19 10:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation with my husband's family. They keep wanting to know why I'm not pregnant yet. I've found that the best answer to this question is "We'll have kids when, and if, we are ready." The only trick is both of you have to be on board. Talk to your wife, or else you might end up with a fight at home, especially if she wants kids sooner than you do.
2007-07-19 17:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by Looking for Something New 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that there's no way to tackle this situation alone. Talk to your wife and mention that this bothers you a little. See if you AND her can address the issue together. If she does it by herself, you look like a sissy who's avoiding a fight, if you do it by yourself, the family might think you're an asshole. Just remember, bringing a new life into this world isn't something that should ever be taken lightly, and I want to commend you for trying to be responsible about it.
Best of luck.
2007-07-19 17:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by matcoach2382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them why they are so eager for you to have kids and I would say: Why are you asking, do you intend on spending the night to take care of the midnight feedings?? She will probably laugh a little and just tell her that your life is fine the way it is and you and your wife will have kids when you're ready not to please other people...
They can be so darn annoying aren't they.
Take care and believe me until you are really ready, don't even think about it.
2007-07-19 17:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by johanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is between you and your wife. Do not let anyone pressure you to have children until you are ready. Tell them that you want to make sure that you are financially ready before having children because it is expensive. If you are financially ready tell them that you want to spend alot more time with your wife before having children. Because once you have children you will not have that alone time anymore. I have 4 children so I know what I am talking about. Good Luck!!!
2007-07-19 17:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is a hormonal thing, and one of the strongest instincts to reproduce. So, probably not a lot you can do, except what you are doing. You might try just sitting down, and telling her how you feel about this.
As far as the "busy bodies" asking you every time they see you "when you are going to have kids?". They are morons. Tell them, it is not of their business, and to go find something to do, besides sticking their noses in someone elses business.
2007-07-19 17:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by madcat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just explain to them that when you're ready to have children they would be the first to know. But, they're not the one's who will be raising the children so I won't let them push you both into anything. I would just take it easy on your own time...the both of you know what's right for your life. I would kindly expain to them what your plans are...but, remember that you have to deal with these folks for a very long time.
2007-07-19 17:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by BabiGurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you just havent gotten the mechanics right, and follow it up with aquestion as to if they have any advice on the subject....Most of the time they blush and walk away, or ya get good advice:)
ps it doesnt stop, we adopted two, and now are getting asked if we are gonna adopt any more, and yes, we are infertile.
2007-07-19 17:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth,tell them we are not ready to bring a child into this world yet,when we decide we are ready the family will be the first to know.And that's that.
2007-07-19 17:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Julius C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, sadly, this kind of thing is hard to avoid. i was with my girlfriend for 6 years before we decided to get married, so i heard a lot of it. now, they talk about kids.
the best thing i can say is "there's no hurry." maybe act a little annoyed with it, and hopefully they will take a hint. but all in all, it's a compliment. just try your best to ignore it, and enjoy life before they come :D
good luck!~
2007-07-19 17:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by HW-7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋