i just got a new dog 3 months ago. and she had an accident. and i didnt clean it up fast enough and my dad stated yelling at me and i was reading somthing and he ripped the paper outta my hand so i yelled at him back and then he hit me 2 times on my leg. it left a red mark. im only 15. would this be considered as child abuse? if i did call the number what would i need? should i call today when my dad is here or tomororw when im not in tears and when hes working? if my dad said i hit him but i didnt would they listen to him or would they listen to me? how does it all work!! help me please im in a bad situation.
2007-07-19 10:33:21 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i live in pennsylvania
2007-07-19 10:52:58 · update #1
Oh honey, that is aweful to hear. Yes it is child abuse! I am not sure what you would tell them, but I think you should talk it over with your mom if she is still in the picture.
If you are going to call you should do it while he is there so they can get both of your stories. Even if you did hit him, it is NOT okay for him to hit you!
I am not saying that calling the law or whatever is the right thing to do, I really dont know what the right thing to do is. Is this the first time he has ever done anything like that? Like I said before, I think you should talk to him first and let him know that he scared you.
So much good luck for you sweetie, I hope everything works out for the best!!
2007-07-19 10:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 8⤋
I do not consider this child abuse . I think you are antagonizing your dad trying to get him to react to you in this manner so you could try to get him in trouble. All you will do is possibly get your self in a very bad situation. Believe me take a good hard look . You have no idea of the repercussions that will take place . You will be lying and you know that. You are so lucky to even have a new puppy. I lost my dad at the age of 13. I have missed him all my life. I do understand that you are 15 and you are going threw lots of different emotions. Please understand that. If I am wrong and the situation is worse than this , Get help. Don't hesitate to get help. You are just 15 and no one has the right to put hands on you . Turn to a teacher, friends, your mom anyone that you feel safe with. Find some serenity in the fact you have your father sweet child . If you ever need help don't hesitate to email me and I will try to help you if I can. I think your father is as frustrated with you as you are with him. His little daughter is growing up. Understand ? You see I felt the same to my mom when I was your age and now she is my very best friend in the world . I regret acting the way I did when I was 15 , but also sweetie this is life. God bless you . Margo322@yahoo.com
2007-07-19 11:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by margo322 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious. That is not child abuse. Its parent abuse. Your dog peed on the floor and instead of cleaning it up you decided to sit on your *** and read a magazine. He hit your leg twice, cause you were yelling back at him. You deserved it. You shouldn't yell at your parents. Don't be such a spolied little brat. Your dad did nothing wrong. You pissed him off, so he hit your leg. When you get punched in the face or thrown into a wall or kicked in the stomach, then you can give someone a call. Not for a tap on the knee ya brat. Tell us, you gonna ask this question every time you get a spanking?
2007-07-19 10:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by mkb2000bkm 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
If it just left a red mark and that red mark went away - in most states it is not considered child abuse. My partner is a child abuse officer. I can tell you if you do call, your father will be investigated in most states. You will also cause your father a lot of heart ache, a lot of money and time. This will also likely go on a permanent record. It will do great harm to your relationship.
P.S.
The other contributors are correct. A spanking is not illegal.
Step back from your anger and see how you feel later. Talk to your father and tell him how angry you are. Tell him you feel like reporting him. Don't be vengeful.
2007-07-19 10:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
it would of been more appropriate to remove the dog until you were mature enough to care to take care of a dog.
lets see put it this way - a friend comes over with their dog - the dog pees in your bedroom on your clothes you ask your friend to clean it up and your friend yells at you -
maybe you would not hit your friend - but you would have to admit that was a real rude thing and pretty tacky - so get real - get honest.
now if you father hits you often - you may have a problem - but going to a foster home could be sooooooo much worse. maybe everyone could benifit from counseling.
2007-07-19 10:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
That is not child abuse honey!!! Your just mad cause you got a spanking! So many kids are so quick to threaten to call the police now days! Be glad you have your father! After all he did get the puppy for you! Do you know how many children are out there really suffering! Stop your crying and do what your told!
2007-07-19 10:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by Brooke M 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes this IS abuse, however I doubt the appropriate authorities will be helpful in this situation. They usually do more harm than good, and that's even if they decide to take action against your dad. All i can say is when you have the chance to live somewhere else i would take it and get as far away from that man as possible. Good luck!
2007-07-19 11:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by 132 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, that is abusive behavior.
Don't worry about what you need when you call. If you feel afraid of your father, you just need to call.
It doesn't matter if you hit him or not, you are a child and there are specific ways that a parent can hit a child and have it not be abusive. The scenerio you described would not qualify as non-abusive. So, call. They will help both you and your father.
2007-07-19 10:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by Pantros 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It's not child abuse, and maybe you bruise easily. Also you need to be careful when calling those numbers. While your dad may not have been right in snatching the paper from your hand, you should not have yelled back at him.
2007-07-19 10:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Tbone64 3 · 10⤊ 1⤋
i think what your Dad did was wrong, but i don't think it reaches the level of physical abuse.
If you call the number, they are likely to lean on your side, but it depends on your state, county, and city exactly how it works.
If they believe you, and agree that this was physical abuse, either you will be moved to a foster home, or your father will be moved away from your home. He might be arrested; you would need to testify.
2007-07-19 10:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you f'ing kidding me? You got smacked on the leg a couple times, deal with it. IT's only abuse if the marks last for more than 24 hours. Quit being a damn baby. They would laugh and send you home.
Also, if you want to know how it works, social services will visit your home, talk to your dad, ask what happened (this is where they will start laughing), and if they thought it was serious, you would go into foster care and your parents would get in trouble. All for what? A couple of smacks on the leg?
2007-07-19 10:37:13 · answer #11 · answered by Yogi 6 · 10⤊ 3⤋