Ladies answer only. Also, please add a dollar figure.
2007-07-19 09:44:53 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all....
Sweetheart,
I am sorry that I falsely accused you of infidelity. I am sorry that I wounded you. Will you please forgive me for being insecure. I was feeling unloved or not wanted and I allowed my thoughts to run wild.
****You can't buy forgiveness.....either she forgives you out of love......or hold it against you.......it's her choice but you could take her on vacation just you and her......getting away can bring healing esp.....when you are fully focused on her.
Buying a gift doesn't mean that you are sorry.....YOU have to say the words.......YOU HAVE TO!!!!
2007-07-19 09:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really funny...we can not be bought!
Now, on a more serious level....you need to do a lot of as* kissing. It's very disturbing to be accused of cheating when you haven't done anything. It's more hurt than anything else, really.
She will forgive you in time, but it may be a LONG time. You need to put yourself in her position and think about how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. I am sure that you would be just as hurt and upset as she is.
You need to get her a really nice card and let her know that you still love her and how wonderful she is. You may even cook her a nice dinner and have a conversation as to how you know you were wrong (and stupid) and let her know that you trust her and will never doubt her again.
You need to do whatever it is that she asks of you...the first time she asks. It's going to take a lot for you to make this up to her.
I really hope you CAN make it up to her, but please understand that she is probably really hurt and disappointed. Give her some time.
2007-07-19 09:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a saint.
1. help with housework and errands more (worth way more than money),
2. take her out fun places or on vacation for no particular occassion
3. random gifts (something that has meaning, inside joke? otherwise flowers)
4. send her and a friend on a fun weekend trip. maybe to the spa, shopping, to a sports game. w/e her thing is. and don't call constantly or do the 20Qs about what happened. so she can see that you trust her away.
5. Honestly tell her you are sorry and that you know you were wrong for not trusting her. Sit her down and tell her or write a letter. just make sure its genuine.
2007-07-19 09:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by stephanie l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet 1 million dollars that admitting you were wrong is enough. I'm sure she doesn't want the whole world to know her husband would EVER suspected her of infidelity. This is not the time for diamonds or gift, this is your wife not some trick off the streets.
Just love her and be careful not to do that again. We all make mistakes sometimes.
good luck
2007-07-19 09:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by I am what I am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A dollar figure?? If your solution to marital problems is to buy something, it's no wonder your marriage is in trouble. You need to get some counseling about your trust issues and work on changing your behavior. If my husband accused me of cheating on him and then handed me some cheesy gift, I'd be even more mad than I was before for thinking I was so materialistic that I could be "bought off"
2007-07-19 09:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only take her word for it , right?
IF she is cheating she will deny and deny and deny until you catch her red handed.
Assuming that she is telling the truth and you are wrong. Apologize to her, try to rid yourself of "concerns" but keep your eyes/ears open.
Men get a gut feeling too.
Hopefully she really isn't cheating and you make a mistake. If she wasn't cheating then she should be upset for a few days then "be over it". She may also need to look at some of her behaviors to figure out if she is giving off the wrong "signals" and you need to check your insecurities too.
2007-07-19 09:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by makinitthru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
clearly there is something wrong with your relationship if you would automatically jump to the conclusion that she is cheating on you. Apologize, and tell her that you have trust issues and would really like to go to couples therapy together. It can only make things better and you more secure! Plus, it shows that you are really sorry and making an effort to fix the problem. In the meantime be patient with her because she is undoubtedly upset and try to romance her by showing her how special she is to you and how sorry you are.
2007-07-19 12:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time, time is the only thing that will tel wether or not she will forgive you. No amount of sucking up, begging, or buying gifts is going to matter. Saying you're sorry and truly meaing it will be a step in the right direction, start trusting her and don't question her could help.
2007-07-19 13:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
begging and pleading for forgiveness is a start. And you think you need to add a dollar amount?? Your wife needs to be bought off in order to forgive you?? You have bigger problems than just false accusations going on. If money makes it all go away, or you think it does, you need to reevaluate your personal ethics.
2007-07-19 09:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by madevali 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her you think she is so sexy that it drove you to think there was another man. her beauty makes you insecure and causes you to think crazy thoughts such as this. you are sorry for not trusting her and ask her what she wants you to do to make it up to her. every woman is different and needs different things to make it better. promise to never accuse her again and claim the 5th. make sure you take care of her in the bedroom and give her everything she desires, and she will forget a lot faster.
good luck
2007-07-19 10:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by NATALIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋