He lately doen't want to work very hard, he rather be lazy when it comes to his job. When he comes home he rather sit on the couch all night or hang out with his friends than spend time with his girls.
2007-07-19 09:40:00 · 16 answers · asked by Carol R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I assume by girls you mean your daughters. Cause I have to agree with the lady who answered above me that he is a jerk if it is not your daughters.
In any case....meet him at the door one night naked but wrapped up in seran wrap or any clear plastic..."I'm a left over."
2007-07-19 09:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by mikeae 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is discuss with him to why he is feeling the way he does. Also, listen to him first and don't criticize or interrupt, but support him.
You need to understand that when husbands come home from a long day at work, they just want to relax a bit first before getting involved with other things. He is already working a job, but he needs to make time for you and the girls too. He should be spending time with you and your girls before spending time with his friends. This is what you call having his priorities in the wrong order.
Do you help him relax when he comes home or are you too busy complaining about what the girls did or what have you?
Ask yourself this question. "Would I want to come home to me?" If you say no, then maybe he doesn't even want to be home because of your behavior. Something to think about.
You need to NOT complain, help him to relax when he gets home by giving him a good neck and shoulder massage. Offer him something cold to drink with ice. Let him relax and you do the work!
Also, like in the evening after dinner, try going for a walk with the girls or just sit outside in the back while the sun goes down and just sit and hold eachother, but include the girls too. Your girls need to see two parents that love eachother, not two parents who are unhappy. They will learn the behavior from the parents.
I can only offer these books to read for you and your husband called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage." I challenge both of you to read them, together before bedtime or when you get a chance.
What husbands want from their wives: Appreciation, Love, and Respect.
Show him that you love him by your own actions!
2007-07-19 09:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest talking with him and let him know what you are thinking. However I think he definitely has depression or he is going through a mid life crisis. Either way you need to talk to him and tell him you want to help and that your there for him but he needs to see a therapist and work through this. If its depression it is not going to just go away. I feel bad for all involved because everyone is hurting. Hope this helps and things are able to turn around.
2007-07-19 09:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could he maybe be suffering from depression? Does he maybe not enjoy his job? Are there family problems?
All of these can lead to men being in a rut.
You need to talk to him and figure out what's going on so you can help him fix it before it gets worse.
2007-07-19 09:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do,
DO NOT let it go on.
if he is depressed, it should be dealt with
bring it up, not to nag him, but let him know you are there for him and encourage him to open up if you can.
i let my husband go on in that manner for oh, about 5 years and now we are getting a divorce.
dont make the same mistake i did and think that he just needs time or needs space, and dam stinky
dont become co-dependent. it is a vicious cycle
2007-07-19 10:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Shake-Zula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this out of character.? How Long has this change gone on?Is he depress?You didn't give his age could it be mid-life crisis or some other crisis? In any case you should seek professinal help before its too late!!!!Act now, for both of your sake!
2007-07-19 10:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by turtle3fish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to help him find a new job and tell him hes better than what he thinks. Tell him his daughters miss him and they need their daddy. pull some of those heart strings of his so he can find some strength b/c it seems this guy is depressed.
2007-07-19 09:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mergler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May be he is going through some sort of depression or something is bothering him, talk to him, have some full on sex and see what you can find out.
2007-07-19 09:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ari 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very possible that he is depressed. he is bored with the way his life has turned out. only counseling and/ or medicine would help this situation.
2007-07-19 09:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him read stories to them on the sofa if theyre small....my grandbabies love that...see if you can get to go out to eat sometime soon...
2007-07-19 09:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋