How older should the husband be than the wife?

Question

My ouncle told me that the husband should be 8 years older than the wife because women get older faster than men. This way, the wife won't look older than her husband on the future. Also because women mature faster than men, this way, when they get marry they will be at the same level of maturity. What do you think should be the age different?

Answer 1

what women get older faster then men? that false.
I do not think age matters.
I know a lot of people who has husband and wife who only few years apart to 7 years to 10 years apart. We mature faster doesn't mean we grow older faster.
I know few people who husband is year younger or few year younger.

It depend on the mature of the guy at his age and woman.
Woman is always maturity then men.
I do not think it matter if the age is far apart or same age as long as they are in love and they happy together.

Answer 2

I had to really think about your question......I had to try to envision ALL people involved... And this is what I think... If I was the father and you tol me my wife couldn't come-- I wouldn't come... It's been 5 years, the dust should of settled by now, and everyone should be well on their way at moving forward...If not already, then one day the mother may find a new husband, if she had a new husband would this be such a dilemma still? I def. can relate to animosity in such a setting but is it possible that the grown-ups could be around each other and not fight-- for the sake of their son and new daughter-in-law? I don't know exactly the right way to approach something like this, considering your own soon to be husband doesn't want this lady there..Maybe you could talk to your soon to be mother in law, since you are so close, maybe she could actually give you insight on how she feels...I'm sorry i just really don't think there is going to be an easy fix for this one....Congrat's on your big day, I do hope it goes beautifully.....:)

Answer 3

Why should age be a factor on who you marry (with the
exception of a minor of course) Women have and in most cases have always been more mature then men - in many aspects - when it comes to money, children, (family in general) etc... Most women have the keen sense of what needs to be done "next" while men just jump in head first and worry about things later - this is where as always a womens "touch" is always at her best - to bail-out, that hard headed no good for nothing fool that you fell in Love with and no matter how stupid he does things - you laugh, cry sigh, get mad, and when "YOU" fix his mess-up and he finally realizes his mistakes - your still there Loving him - if a women "Looks" older then her husband - its only because the women (wife) has taken care of, worried about, Loved, cried and over that Low Down No Good For Nothing - That no matter what, you still Love Him - So, It shouldn't make a difference on age or looks - what matters most - IS LOVE - and the sharing of !

Answer 4

I don't think age should be a fact in the relationship. Even after your married your not always goign to be at the same level of maturity. My husband and I have been together for 4 years married for 2 months. and he still plays his PS2 all the time and acts more like a child by not cleannin gup after himself all the time. However me as the Wife, I clean up everything, do the wash, beg to have children, and keep all the bills organized. I'm at a higher level then he is but we still love eachother. And we do other things like making love and go out to movies and dinner together. and times like those were at the same level.

Answer 5

A wife does NOT have to be younger than her husband at all. Maturity varies from person to person. There are plenty of mature 20 year old men and immature 40 year old women out there. There are also plenty of young looking older women and older looking young guys, not that looks mean a thing. Your uncle sounds like he might be either old-fashioned, or downright sexist. It is 2007 now, not 1957. It really is up to the individual who they marry.

Answer 6

I was 7 years younger than my first husband, and he looks like crap now. I'm 5 years younger than my current husband and holding up quite well... women age at the same rate as men, 24 hours at a time... it's just more societally acceptable for a man to have either scars or wrinkles or grey hair.

Answer 7

Listen to your uncle, but don't believe a thing he says.
as long as no one is "jail bait" age shouldn't be the factor.
It is the level of maturity that the person displays. Some people have led a more involved (harder) life at a much younger age.
This has caused them to mature far beyond their years.

Age is the number of years a person has lived, the experiences of those years often lends itself to a much higher level of maturity, thus be-lying those years, and negating the age factor. aka (age doesn't matter)

Answer 8

this is total nonsense.Ignorance gone to seed!How about the fact men die on the average of 10yrs.before their wives.You should marry someone on the bases on you have in common,not age.
In the old days women married older men because they were to take care of her ,like a second father. Those days are gone for ever.Tell you uncle it's the 21st. century.

Answer 9

Your uncle was right. I married a man that is 1 year older than me. We had a baby when he was cocky and 26. He was not at all ready to become a father. Just this year, when he is 35 things are changing.

So I will encourage my daughter to marry a 32 year old when she is 22. My son, to stay single until he is 32. Simple as that.

Answer 10

The "math" as it was explained to me is as follows; 1/2 his age , plus 7. Him 40 devide by 2=20+7=her 27. Sounds good but then when you throw in the human angle you realize it's just a crap shoot.