everynight there is about 10 people sleeping in our house (my older siblings and step-siblings, a couple come back for the night everynight just to sleep) and i'm expecting twins. My whole primary family is actually 14 people although yeah there are only about 10 people in the house evrynight and my real dads in jail...
I just....i don't think its the kind of place where these kids should be raised. I havn't talked to my mom about it but she would prbably agree... Is it illegal for me to have my own apartment or something. Idk, i think its too...busy for two new babies but on the plus side i'd be with my mom all the time and i really need her help with this...I don't want to stay with strangers either or anything...Can anyone think of something? Or will i have to stay with my family throught this?
2007-07-19 09:19:06 · 32 answers · asked by Kaidra 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
sorry there are a couple of spelling mistakes...
2007-07-19 09:19:37 · update #1
okay
1. the father's gone
2. i considered adoption and abortion but both are a big no-no.
3. my step-dad's on roughly half a million dollars a year and we are really close...oh idk.
2007-07-19 09:31:32 · update #2
ADOPTION IS A BIG NO!! I'm not giving up my little babies. I can care for them. You don't need to be rich to manage. That isn't life is it?
2007-07-19 09:54:29 · update #3
I would stay at home if the dad is not in the picture. The amount of work that twins will require is amazing, and that is not counting the dishes, bills, and day to day running of the household.
If you can't support the children on your own, have you considered putting them up for adoption? I know there are lots of good people out there who would love to have a child.
2007-07-19 09:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by mel s 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
It's time to sit down with Mom and have a talk with her about the living arrangements for everyone. It appears your mom is a sweetheart and doesn't have the heart to put some deserving people out. Here's the thing though, it's YOUR house too. You have a right to a peaceful household, not just anyone coming and going as they please. You're 15 and pregnant??? That's a heavy load. It's time to get one of those family meetings you spoke about earlier and clean up that house. You don't say how many beds are in the house, if you share a room with anyone. I'm sorry but that type of environment is unsafe to bring children into. You're going to have your hands full with twins and having your IMMEDIATE family there to help you is going to be great but you don't need to expose the babies to all of the others. If they're grown then they need to find another place to sleep...and live!!!
2007-07-19 09:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by MamaB 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't live on your own until your 16 and then you have to go through several court proceedings to prove that you can care for yourself and your children efficiently. You may be able to live in a foster home, but the chances are probably low on that as well. Staying in a house with a lot of people doesn't meet the "criteria" of a child abuse situation they look for when placing someone in foster care. Looks like you are stuck with your family unless you have a close family friend or relative some where else who would be willing to take you in with your family's consent.
2007-07-19 09:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are 15 and expecting twins, I think that finding an apartment is the least of your worries. Honey, find a crisis pregnancy center that can help you to understand the responsibilities you are soon going to encounter. There are lots of people out there who can give you and your new babies the emotional support you will need. Your first priority is to keep yourself and them away from harmful people. You are way too young to have your own apartment, as that comes with rent, and all the other necessities of life. God bless you, and your new babies. Perhaps consider adoption, as there are many couples who have no natural children and would consider them an absolute gift from God.
2007-07-19 09:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by do justly walk humbly love mercy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well you could move in with the father of the babies, if he is willing, but if not, then stick it out with your family, if you don't like it, leave and go with somebody else, like a grandmother or aunt. Give it sometime, you can rent an apartment until you are 16 yrs. old, and by the way those twins are going to be expensive, so try to go back to school and get a furher education because you are going to need it to get a good career in order to make good money and support those babies. Good luck and I hope you find a solution to your problem.
2007-07-19 09:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by D J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can be emancipated at 15 with good reason and that sounds like a good enough reason to me. You'd be able to get an apartment, but can you afford that? You have two bundles of joy to take care of and my 9 month old drives my husband broke as it is.
A busy house may be hard for infants to sleep, but in the first few months they barely sleep at night anyway. Think about it this way "You have all the help you may need." Plus your mother is right there when you need her. I wish my mother lived with me sometimes, but most of the time I'm glad she doesn't. Comes with being an adult and married.
2007-07-19 09:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by Shannon R 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your mom AND your step dad to see what you can sort out for the best. I hope you keep your children. Adoption may sound like a good idea to some but in a couple of years you would torment yourself over what could have been.
All my best wishes with the rest of your pregnancy and the birth of your children. Good luck for the future and have a happy life.
2007-07-19 09:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by jean luc 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
man, 15 with twins, have you ever considered adoption, Im not trying to cut on you, trust me i went thru the same thing. I was 15 and pregnant, I did adoption though, Best thing I could have ever done, There was no possible way I could have had a baby and still led the kid life, You think its easy, but I see a lot of teen parents that still get to do the normal things, but the grandparents are the one with the baby all the time, I would seriously consider adoption. Other then that I have no good adivce for you. Good luck
2007-07-19 09:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jen L 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Should have thought before you placed yourself much less these babies in this situation. This is the problem when babies are giving birth. You are not ready to be a mom. Place them up for adoption. They might have a chance of a loving, stable home then. Look at what you wrote. Your in a home over crowed and you admit you need you mom to help you be a mother. These are things that should be thought of first not after sex. This gets old. Parents aren't supposed to be raising their grandchildren. Too many young people want to perform grownup acts and then pass on the responsibilties
on to either their par nets or get on government help. Grow up yourself before you have sex.
2007-07-19 09:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by Chloe 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
A. You're much too young to even think about moving out of that house.
B. You need to talk to your mother.
...it would be the worst case for you to leave. You're still a baby yourself...you still need your mother there to help you with these babies. If you would move out on your own, who'd pay the bills? Who'd buy the groceries? Who would be there to watch your kids when you're at work?
I'm not trying to be harsh, but you need to stay there, whether or not there are too many people there.
2007-07-19 09:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋