i had a miscarriage yesterday.i didn't even know i was pregnant,but it's gone now.do you think it's weird that i want to name it even though it's gone?i think everyone deserves a name,living or dead.
2007-07-19 09:09:20 · 23 answers · asked by sam_girl_13 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
mommy to 2,i know that 6 days ago i was asking about getting pregnant from something i did because i wasn't sure,and it could.and it did and i didn't know it until last night....
2007-07-19 09:18:28 · update #1
Its better not to dwell on it, and get on with your life. To go the other way is to seek out pain without hope of resolution. I knew a woman who insisted on naming the dead unborn, it kept getting more and more emotionally involved, and she never found relief once she started down that road.
2007-07-19 09:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Hi Sam Girl. Not weird at all. That's a healthy part of grieving. Go ahead and name the baby and you may even consider having a service to lay the baby to rest. If you are still dealing with grief symptoms in the next few months, I'd see your doctor as that could mean you are not coping with the loss well.
Good luck!
Spherical
2007-07-19 09:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by spherical1287 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sympathies for your loss. I miscarried when I was 6 months... the doctors said they couldn't tell if it was male or female. We decided that it would have been a girl (I have 3) so we ended up naming the baby "Jocelyn"... and to this day, we remember her on the day I miscarried. We even hang out a little bootie stocking on Xmas. It's a healthy reaction to be sad and want to get some closure to it. Go ahead and give the baby a name (and a gender).. and celebrate that. It happens - we just have to learn to deal with as best we can.
Good luck *hugs*
2007-07-19 09:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by faith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people name their miscarried babies. Some, even purchase a gravestone. You cannot go wrong naming your baby when it feels right to do so in your heart. Always follow your heart and don't listen to negativity from others about the choices you make. It is weird and it may just give you some closure on a very sad occurrence.
2007-07-19 09:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wierd...it was a human even though it didn't get a chance to develop fully. I would most definitely name it. In fact when I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks, I did just that.
2007-07-19 09:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not weird. It will actually help you find closure. I lost a baby at 18 weeks and we buried it and named him Angel. In my mind, he was always my firstborn, and it's nice that he has a name. When our son is old enough to understand, we will tell him that he has a brother in heaven named Angel. Even if you name the baby just for you, it's okay. I really think it will help. Good luck and sorry for your loss.
2007-07-19 09:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by TracyTracer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything that helps you deal with the loss is fine (even a small ceremony if youwant). But you might consider NOT using a name you will want to use for your children in the future.
2007-07-19 09:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Morra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way. I never told anyone what I call that baby to myself, but there is a name I use when I think of it. Since it was so early, I use a name that can be used for either gender.
2007-07-19 09:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by MKC 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No I do not think it is weird if you want to name the baby. This is a life. You are grieving and this is your way to grieve. I do suggest you get some sort of counseling soon. Weather it be professional or peer to peer.
2007-07-19 09:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I think you should do whatever is necessary to get through this grieving process.
BTW, I wish people would stop being so insensitive on here. Didn't their mom's ever teach them if you don't have anything nice, don't say it at all.
Again, I am very sorry.
2007-07-19 09:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Kyler's Mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i named my baby when i had my misscarriage, i named it erin cause i didnt know if it was a girl or boy and that fits either i also put a lil marker at the grave yard where my mom is buried, even if the babies not there, it kinda serves as a site for it to be rememberd, sorry for yor loss
2007-07-19 09:14:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋