Or shall i marry someone near to my social, educational level so to understand each other and get a better life together?
Then love comes after??
The point is marry some one to be chosen by my heart or mind?
2007-07-19 09:00:55 · 40 answers · asked by The critic flower. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ideally the person you marry has to appeal to your heart and your mind. Don't settle on someone who doesn't offer both!
2007-07-26 04:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned about love disappearing it's not really love at all. Real love is unconditional and not to be taken lightly.
Marrying someone that you don't love and hoping it comes later is a recipe for disaster. I had a friend who did this and is now middle aged and miserable because the love never materialized.
It's best to do a deep examination of your feelings for someone and ask yourself some tough questions. True love doesn't just go away someday. Unfortunately too many people are getting married because they think they love the other person when in fact it's actually infatuation or lust.
2007-07-19 09:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by m_c_m_a_n 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a balance between the two,you can't go exclusively go with the mind (you would only be unhappy afterwards) or with the heart ( for everyone knows that hearts can change) you have to find a balance between emotions and reason. Find someone you care about and love but with whom you can also have a future (think about the children) that is the way to a healthy marriage
2007-07-19 09:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by ericktravel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is neither necessary nor sufficient to a successful marriage. But it certainly helps! Presuming that you have found someone that you love, it is time to appraise how a long-term relationship might work in practice: are there enough common interests to share, and are there few enough irritations on each side that a thing could work? It does not take long to find out; years ago, it became evident within two days that my main squeeze and I were on the same page on the stuff that counts.
2007-07-19 09:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love should not disappear after marriage. The intense passion fueled by lust will not last, but over time a mature love should evolve out of a relationship. You can't count on love to come later if you marry someone you don't love now. If I were you, I'd follow my heart, but that's something you'll have to figure out for yourself.
2007-07-19 09:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself, why marry anyone for the reasons you mention,) They can also choose to leave you. Love is a strong word with a powerful meaning behind it. Until you know the true meaning of LOVE, stay single.( My take on it is both your mind and heart must LOVE the person you marry.)
2007-07-27 08:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by candy c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard question because while you want to go with you heart, the social and educational level is important especially when it's connected to earning potential. Money is not everything but you want to be with someone who is bringing something to the table or at least has the potential to do more. That's hard, you are going to have to go with your heart. Good Luck to you.
2007-07-19 09:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life would be miserable to marry a man that you do not love.
Can you imagine yourself sleeping and waking up everyday with the person you don't love?
Choose using your heart and mind. True love, for me means accepting a person wholeheartedly. No matter what happens, it will never fade.
2007-07-26 22:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by ayabrea_09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry for love. those other things do not matter, and staying together for convenience will become difficult if you cannot fill that void in your heart. Few people can pull off a marriage of convenience. Good luck!
2007-07-26 17:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by una_dynamita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Merry the person your heart permits, does his breath inspire you does it excite your brainwave- these questions answered than that is the person to merry. After all marriage is the first step of the rest of the life cycle- marriage-children-family-old age-death, think and accept a person who will take your hand and walk with you to the end.
2007-07-26 02:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by akela hu main 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋