My neighbor plays soccer every day for at least 2 hours. He broke his wrist yesterday, and I sent him a funny card and a $25 gift card to Game Stop. He isn't exactly my friend, but I see him a lot and I feel really bad for him. When I got back today I found a note and the gift card that I gave him. The note said "Steph, Thanks for the gift card, but the great card was more than enough!"
His parents made him send it back, and I know he wants it, but I REALLY want him to have it! Should I insist on giving it to him, or just leave it alone?
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2007-07-19 08:47:08 · 40 answers · asked by Steph 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If his parents wont let him have it, then just keep it for now. Later on, you could use it as a birthday gift or something like that for him , or a different person.
2007-07-19 08:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you know if the parents have a problem with video games?
If not, you could approach them and tell them how much it means to you to make this gesture. If they do have an issue, you can still tell them that, but also that you will find something that they would prefer. Then just keep the game card for yourself or save it for a gift for someone else. Don't feel uncomfortable approaching one of the parents. You can only make a good impression as to what a gracious young lady you are, even if they still won't relent about the gift.
Added detail: Please don't try to go behind his parent's back. Do you want him to feel like he is sneaking around-and over a gift card? You'll only make him feel uncomfortable. And what about his new games? Many parents make it a point to know what their kids bring into the house. One way or another, whether they're looking or not, parents always come across these things eventually. They'll put 2 and 2 together. And even if they don't, like I said, do you want him to have to lie to his parents?
2007-07-19 09:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by mel1026 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all that is a REALLY cool thing to do. I am sure he was surprised & felt very good inside.
Personally I think you should leave the matter alone. This is just one of those things that you don't push. Sometimes people get really offended by lavish gifts & such. And honestly the card was a really sweet suggestion. The gift card was awesome, but if they didn't want him to have it, then you should just leave well enough alone. Besides, you got your point across & proabably already made his day w/ a the card. Sometimes actions speak louder than words : )
2007-07-19 08:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by *Fickle Pickle* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it alone because it seems like you did go a little overboard. The card would have been enough but the $25.00 gift seems to come with an attachment or invitation. His parents are right to be concerned especially in these trying times about your motives for sending such a gift. So, I would not pursue it, I would let it go. Let go and Let live.
2007-07-19 08:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by justaboutpeace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know that his parents made him send it back or is that how he really feels? Maybe he took the idea of the gift the wrong way. I would talk to him again and try to give him back the gift card. If he really insists on returning it, there's not much you can do (except maybe use the gift card yourself!).
2007-07-19 08:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Forceof1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably shouldn't go against what his parents tell him to do. Some people are really strange like that. Why can't they accept a nice gift and a very friendly gesture? It's not like you can return it! The neighbor kid could have offered to cut your grass or helped out around the house if the parents thought it was inappropriate to accept the gift. I think it's rude of the parents to make him give it back.
2007-07-19 08:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Not quite perfect 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send a note back to him with the gift card saying this...
"I cant return it, and have no use for it. I didn't buy it in terms of looking for anything, I bought it because I sympathize with you. Please accept my gift and get better soon"
Or you can go talk to him and pretty much say the same thing. Perhaps he or his parents feel your looking for some thing from it, such as a relationship, or something else they cant get at the moment, so proving that your looking for nothing would most likely be the way to go.
2007-07-19 08:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should give it back to him and say nicely that it was a gift. If he feels it was too much then he can show his gratitude in some other way, but returning a gift is an insult, not a gesture of gratitude.
But if it's his parents who don't want him to have it, then you may have to respect their wishes as you don't know the reasons behind their actions and they might be warranted.
2007-07-19 08:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by I, Sapient 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a good person and its obvious you kind of like this guy. Take the gift card to the store and buy him something with it. The next time,. give it to him in person letting him know there are no strings attached and you just want him to have something to do while nursing his wound. I am sure he will take it and make sure because of his nice comment about the card, you give him a peck on the cheek and tell him his note made you smile.
2007-07-19 08:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how old is he? if he's really young and has no choice but to give it back to you because his mom said so then there isn't much you can do. However, if this guy is in his late teens or older or something then I don't see why you shouldn't ask him to take it back and explain that you really want him to have it. If he really insists on not having it then just take it and use it for someone else. I don't think its really cool to give back gifts that someone thoughtfully gives you but that's just my opinion
2007-07-19 08:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his parents don't want him to have it that is for them to decide. They may have a really good reason for denying him the gift. You should just shrug it off. It is really the thought that counts anyhow, isn't it? The card and the gift card were a very nice gesture and I'm sure he will remember it. Leave it alone.
2007-07-19 08:51:37 · answer #11 · answered by PRS 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋