2007-07-19 08:31:18 · 16 answers · asked by Casey 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
dont worry hun, i discovered this a long time ago, i learnt the only person to trust fully is yourself, yes you trust and love your parents, but you know who you are so can trust yourself fully.
your mates are probably really jealous of you and whisper behind you back (maybe, i dont know whats been done or said), dont let it eat you up, if you have concerns, follow your trusted instinct and ask them/confront them. this will prove your not a shove over, and can stand up for yourself, they'll soon realise that theyve made a huge mistake
2007-07-19 08:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by bibbittybobittyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's one tough question, however the answer may not be so tough. Trust is a big word and when you have had issues with the ability to trust, a person tends to view everyone as the enemy. But, life must go on and living a life where one has to worry constantly about who can be trusted, isn't really living. Simply stand back and look at things from an outsiders perspective, and trust those who have showed that they can be trusted. I know, easier said than done, but this is also kinda like the "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved, (trusted) at all. Soon you will find a true friend, and trust will no longer be an issue. Hope this helps!!
2007-07-19 15:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by Starrdust Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get to really know yourself it becomes obvious who is worthy of your trust. There many degrees of trust. Someone you trust to babysit may not be someone you trust with your honest emotions. If we come from a family who values trust we may have unrealistic ideas of what to expect from others. That can hurt and make us want to trust no one. There is, however, great reward in learning to balance vulnerability and toughness.
My personal M.O. is to allow people the benefit of a doubt. It becomes apparent as time goes by whether they are trustworthy. I have a smile and good will for everyone but have a small circle of people I call friends and that's fine with me. I prefer quality over quantity.
2007-07-19 16:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends are people who you can turn to when you are feeling low. they wont wave a magic wand and make you feel better, they will just listen and not judge. These are the friends you can trust. Why dont you try and speak to an organisation, i.e the Samaritans? Hope this helps.
2007-07-19 15:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yourself first and foremost.
Then with time and observaations certain family members and friends for specific things within their particular capacities.
The danger is that we tend to put our expectations on people, rather than dealing with the reality of who they are and their limitations.
Disappointment is a total waste of time, avoid as much as possible.
2007-07-19 16:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by Shiraz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn that you are the only person you can rely on, once you trust yourself and build the skills of independence, you will be better qualified to determine who is trustworthy, and who is not, and also, to what extent they are trustworthy. It is a very rare gift to find someone that is 100% trustworthy, and in the end, you only have yourself to count on.
2007-07-19 16:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust no one , believe nothing
OK that was Maulder of the X files but it is still not a bad philosophy.
2007-07-19 17:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by David K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is dealing with their own neurosis and bad stuff. you need to rememebr its not always about you. maybe they had other stuff on. maybe they gossiped about you because they wanted to look cool. it doesnt make it okay but most of the time people dont really think about consequences of what they do to you.
Remember its not all about you - were all part of the same bigger picture so if someone hurts you, the bad karma is bound to catch up with them - no acions are without consequences
2007-07-19 15:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by Jolene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ihave found, the real friends are there at difficult times. Ditch the ones that are not.
2007-07-19 15:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by clairejgray1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats to trust .if you tell them things you don't want others to know .ask your self why you told them. if you needed them and they let you down .ask your self did you really need them .friends are people just like you and people do let you down ,are you a good friend always .we all have our faults i do ..(spelling and bad grammer to start with)lol
2007-07-19 15:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by angel x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋