The protective order was by his current wife. She dropped the protective order and they live together again after a short seperation. We have three children and I have sole custody of them all. We have been divorced for 5 years and he has a history of domestic violence as well a bi polar disorder that I do not believe he is getting treatment for. I made an appointment with a counselor for he and I to figure out what needs to be done and I sent him a certified letter saying that he must attend this meeting or he will not be seeing the children until there is some kind of satisfactory result that will give me assurance that my sons will be safe in his home and in his care. He called the counselor's office and refused the meeting. What more can I do to solve the problem? If there are any legal mi8nds or anyone who deals with things like this in a personal or professional manner, please advise me.
2007-07-19 08:28:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
#1. Did a judge order your ex any visitation? If he did, did you get an order saying he had to visit a couselor? You can't tell him he cannot see his kids if he has visitation (sucks).
#2 If he does not have visitation you have every right to do that. Just make sure you document things even your opinions they don't hold up in court but hard to ignore! Make sure to point out your kids safety and that you are trying to be cooperative and helpful with your ex! Good Luck and don't ignore the signs of Bi-polar behavior especially when kids are involved...too many bad stories in the news lately!
2007-07-19 08:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What you did is right. You know the first priority is for your kids safety. If your ex-husband do not want to attend the meeting than you have the right for not letting him to see your kids alone. The best you can do for your kids is to let them see the father in your presence. If your not there, forget about letting the father seeing them alone.
Do not let yourself soften from his word of saying "he won't hurt the kids" because that might be your regret if anything do happen. Especially he have a past history of abusive behavior.
2007-07-19 08:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by jj1102 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the certainty that your ex husband has been following you does look slightly sketchy, yet i would not in simple terms leap forward and document something against him without too lots concept. yet whilst issues do get out of hand, i think of submitting a stalking injunction may be the greater advantageous decision of the suggestions you reported. yet you may probable talk over with a criminal professional first.
2016-10-09 02:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
supervised visitation. go to court they can have supervised visitation for set times and dates. why would you want your kids around a person that could harm them anyway. i wouldn't care if it's the mother or father but i would not allow children to visit with an abusive parent. if he is not making the sacrifice to see the kids why push him? take the support raise your kids and sooner or later they will know who was their for them. don't force the guy to see the kids let it come from his heart if not he will resent the situation and act out.
2007-07-19 08:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by strike_eagle29 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The whole thing is messy, isn't it? Courts are severly limited in altering one's behavior.
If your ex wants to hurt his sons, no court nor medication in the world will stop him, yet he is entitled to see them.
Put your faith in your own spiritual ability to control outcome and just pray for their safety in or out of his presence.
2007-07-19 08:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by Starte Christ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
John K is absolutely right. You can not force him to do anything or prevent him from seeing the children yourself. You have to go back to court.
2007-07-19 08:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by Michael C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he decided to he could actually take you to court and sue you for refusing his visitations with out having a court order.
2007-07-19 08:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by plhudson01 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he has a problem you need to take him back to court for supervised visitation. You cannot unilaterally try to dictate to him what to do.
2007-07-19 08:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Too long to read.
2007-07-19 08:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by Rainman 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋