My wife has asked me for a divorce 3 weeks ago.
Part of the reason for the breakup of our marriage was that she had a crush on a co-worker and was considering a realtionship outside of our marriage.
A couple days ago she asked me to pick up our dog from daycare while she went out for drinks with a male co-worker who is a friend.
She does not udertsand why I am mad.
2007-07-19 07:52:01 · 22 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like there is no real respect for you her hubby...yes I would be mad...speak your mind free your worries...
2007-07-19 07:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by sunnygirl67 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sign the divorce papers then have a female friend or family member call her work annonymously and say they are a co-worker that wishes to remain anonymous and they are disturbed at the fact that she witnessed the two of them having sexual relations in one of the offices or closets (you pick which) and then have her threaten to sue the company for sexual harrassment if they don't do anything about it.I promise you both will lose their jobs in no time since they will both be watched very carefuly.paybacks are a *****.
Dude shes trying to p!ss you off to get you to abandon the house.Don't let it happen.she abandoned this marriage and you didn't.don't give in to her demands and favors infact put that dog at a family or friends house until the divorce is over.sounds like she has more affection for it than you.
2007-07-19 08:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Paul,
From the signs, I would say that your mate considers herself divorced now. Therefore, since she has no finer feelings for the relationship that was between you, and for her marriage vows (that are STILL in effect), you need to ask her to behave until she files for divorce and moves out, or kick her out and file for a divorce ASAP. Don't carry her any further.
Staying with this cold woman is just going to cause you more and more emotional pain. Why open yourself up for more? Don't lie down and let her abuse you. She's already managed to insult you beyond redemption. End it and move on with your life. I know it's cold, hon, but it's time to protect yourself. You can recover if you don't take too much damage from this. Hugs, and good luck.
2007-07-19 08:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not mad enough yet I guess. I would have made it very clear that the only thing she needs to call me about picking up is her stuff before I burn it all in the front yard while I am pissing on our marriage license. If she feels okay calling you to pick up the dog, that just tells me she thinks you are a door mat that will do what ever she asks even though she is seeing other guys while she is still legally married to you. You need to crank up the heat.
2007-07-19 08:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is not to understanding , of anyone but herself or so it seems. She just don't give a %&$# ! Mad... Uhh I would be furious. What do's she think you are her little go boy ? I think you should file the divorce papers asap. She most definetly seems to have other prioritys other than her obligation to you and your marriage. Maybe counseling would work but I just don't feel it here for some reason. I think you are being very mistreated. Do yourself a favor and take your dog cut your loss's.
2007-07-19 08:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by margo322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she asked for a divorce 3 weeks ago, then you or her needs to MOVE OUT - NOW. She is making it obvious that she has started her new life without you. So why you are both together still is a mystery. And take the dog with you...
2007-07-19 07:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tonight tell her that it's her turn to watch the dog because you have "someplace" to be. Then go over to a buddies house for a visit. Nothing drastic, just a visit to a friend. Then when you get home, see how she takes it. If she rants then you can tell her that you had the same feelings when she did her little outing (with her friend). If she acts like its no problem, then sorry, I think that you would be fighting an unworthy cause to try and keep her.
2007-07-19 08:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Distance yourself and accept that it's over. You don't have to do favors for her. Tell her she's your wife and her actions have ruined the life you thought the two of you had planned together. Tell her if she thinks she can ask you for anything at this point she's out of her adulteress, Jezebel, two timing,...mind. If she doesn't understand that consider yourself lucky. You dodged a bullet on this one.
2007-07-19 08:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by crystalonyx3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really have a right to be angry. It has been three weeks since you learned her intentions. She is doing what she wants and by you getting mad you are just hurting yourself. If you are living together - maybe its time to leave, if you are separated - maybe you should decide who gets the dog.
2007-07-19 08:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by mamaP 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well she told you she wanted a divorce. I don't see why you'd be mad about her going out then. You should be contacting a lawyer rather than getting mad.
2007-07-19 10:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she doesn't understand...she's wrapped up in her own selfish world right now and can't see how she's hurting you.
Find yourself the best divorce lawyer in your city (the meanest shark in the tank), give her the divorce she deserves, and cut her out of your life. You deserve better.
2007-07-19 07:58:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋