Sorry, my younger sister asked me and I didn't have answers. Please help. (I know the girls to avoid, but not men).
2007-07-19 07:40:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is there a good book for her to read?
2007-07-19 07:49:15 · update #1
Angry control freaks, would be a good start. Come on; you've had friends that you know you would not want to date your little sister. Think about why!
2007-07-19 07:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by jrnwy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here is a little formula I used in my dating life (I am now happily married to a wonderful man, yesterday was our 8th anniversary). The first 7 weeks of any relationship set the patterns for the rest of the relationship. For example, if, in the first 7 weeks, the guy is repeatedly late, or doesn't call when he says he will, or flirts with other girls, you can expect that behavior to continue. Do not expect to be able to change his way of treating you, it rarely works.
On the other hand, if he is loving, kind and courteous during the first 7 weeks, that's probably how he will continue to be.
Here's another hint; pay close attention to how he treats and talks about his mother. This is almost always how he will treat a woman in a relationship. Also, how he treats animals such as pets tells how loving he will be with children.
I've had alot of experience with men, and with relationships in general, and you can tell so much from these three things.
Good luck to you and your sis!
2007-07-19 14:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much the very same as for guys. Pay attention to what mint wrote, as she is right on target. There are mooches out there, whore men, abusers who controlling, verbally, mentally, and physcially abuse you, and drug addicts and alcoholics. Also avoid any guy who will not keep a steady job. Look for a guy who has the same religious belief, meaning if you have and he doesn't it can cause problems, and visa versa, and morals. Guys who can't seem to keep their eyes off of other women when with you are also probably not going to be faithful to you. Guys who want to have threesomes or are really into porn usually are not going to make good boyfriends. Guys who have kids and do not keep up with support payments are jerks to avoid at all costs. Guys who want to have sex on the first date, guys who do not want to use protection or not want you too is not looking out for your best interest. Avoid guys who are not as motivated as you are. And the one thing I have found to be true is if they have no car or drive a junker along with any of the other negative things I mentioned, they are probably a loser. If he does drive a junker and goes to school and has a job, you should defintely go out with him because he is a motivated and a hard worker.
2007-07-19 14:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty. The first sign of lies and she should run not walk to the farthest point from him. Watch how he treats others. When I was dating my husband we had to take the city bus to school and as soon as I sat down he made me get up. I was a little pissed, but he rushed to the entrance of the bus and helped and old lady pull her shopping cart inside. He gave her our seats. I'll never forget that. I knew then that he was kind to me because he's a kind person not because he liked me (which could change).There's a huge difference in the two. That was 11 years ago.
2007-07-19 14:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by crystalonyx3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid men that complement other women all the time. Avoid men that look at other women all the time. Avoid men that get hot tempered over nothing. Avoid men that leave your house and don't call you for days. Avoid men that keep tons of pictures of their ex's in their drawers. Avoid men that love porno.
2007-07-19 14:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by taurusgreen_82 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Warning signs: smooth talker, always says the right thing (probably going to get in her pants and take advantage of her) Rude, no manners (lacks self respect and probably doesn't respect women or your sister either.) Mooches money (lazy, no motivation)
2007-07-19 14:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think anyone who is too needy or too pushy I would try to avoid....You need to be able to spend time alone and to be able to enjoy your own company at times...Any guy who doesn't respect your space can be a threat for any problems of control later on in the relationship....
2007-07-19 15:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your sister?
Warning signs as a teenager are a lot different than the warning signs as a grown adult.
Teenager: Bad grades, rebellious attitude, disrespectful to teachers or other adults, smoking, drinking, drugs....etc....
Adult: No job, arrogant, unable to shut his mouth long enough to listen to you, shows ANY signs of extreme anger or potential for violence, lazy....etc.....
2007-07-19 14:52:41 · answer #8 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Avoid guys who...
...have more than 11 tattoos.
...have less than six teeth.
...are dressed in a hospital gown while driving a steamroller.
...have the hots for some of their female relatives.
2007-07-19 14:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the guy has killed small animals or pets
If the guy has been in prison (some girls don't get this one)
If the guy is always asking to borrow money for his "investment"
If the guy claims to be a wealthy prince in his home country
2007-07-19 14:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋