so why should i stay in the relationship? i love her she loves me but we argue and for that reason she said no. but she doesn't want to break up. now i want to break up because she said no. i'm going to take my time to think about it but that will just colm me down and i will get over it. i shouldn't get over it. i need to move on. what did you do and are you happy with your the chose you made?
2007-07-19 07:36:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she is unwilling to move to the next step in the relationship (marriage), then break up and move on. If you're ready for that, and she isn't, you'll both be miserable if you stay together.
Since you love each other, maybe try a trial separation (not seeing each other, dating other people), and see if that changes either of your minds.
Or just tell her, marry me or hit the road! Good luck.
2007-07-19 07:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your a single girl's dream. How many girls are dying to get married and there guys want to hear nothing about it?
If you are looking for marriage and a family and she is not then, why stay in a relationship? A relationship is like a flower it either grows or dies. Your flower is dead, sorry to say. I dated a guy for 9 years wanted to get married. He always had and excuse finally I broke up with him. (After not wanting to start over again because I had so much time invested) Needless to say the ex got married after dating a woman for 1 yr. I do not regret breaking up with him as the truth was he did want marriage but, not with me. So I am happy to say I found some one Else with no drama or baggage and have been married for a while now.
The right person will not be in your life if the wrong person is around. It will be hard but later down the road you will be glad. Marriage is hard work when both have the same goals, you don't want to start off with that kind of struggle or wake up 9 years from now saying where did the time go. Good Luck and stay strong.
2007-07-19 14:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can be a scary thing for a lot of people. Don't take it as she doesn't love you or doesn't want to further the relationship. She may just need a little more time.
You left out how long you guys have been together, but that is an important part of the equation too.
You can drop her because she bruised your ego, or you could wait it out a little while longer and see if there are any new developments.
2007-07-19 14:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by KV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If marriage is important to you, you need to find a person who feels the same way. When you ask someone to marry you and they say "no", you have to decide for yourself whether or not you are ok with the situation as is. If you stay in this relationship, don't stay because you're hoping she will change her mind - stay because you want to be with her regardless of her views on marriage.
However, if you get the feeling that she is with you to pass the time and is holding out for something bigger and better, you need to run and not look back.
2007-07-19 14:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My besy girlfriend is in the same situation, he said yes to them getting married but then changes his mind so the wedding is off...i dont know what the issue really is I think sometimes the other person due to past bad experiences just chicken out...this is so not fair to the other person...if it is truly real love then why not get married...maybe is you just give her a little space she may come around but I would set a time frame in my mind and if it does not happen then has my mom used to say there are plenty more fish in the sea!
2007-07-19 14:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by sunnygirl67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just doesnt want 2 get married rite now its not she doesnt love u or nuthing like d@ she is just not ready 2 make that big change in her life yet BUT if u truly love her u wud give her sumtime until she is ready but just talk 2 her abt how u feel and stuff work things out so yall relationship wont fall apart
2007-07-19 14:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by lil bit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself if this is really the woman you want. Since she isn't interested in marriage, you are better off seeking out someone who IS interested in marriage. Sorry it didn't work out.
I've had it happen one time where I wanted us to be on the path to marriage, as it were.... but she wasn't interested in moving forward... so I walked. It was better to have it hurt then and there, rather than waiting for a chance that she MIGHT change her mind. Do I regret it? Not in the least. I am now engaged to a woman that I am more compatible with... and it reminded me that there really is a plan for you in this world, you just gotta be open to it.
2007-07-19 14:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she no longer has a choice. She made the decision to refuse your proposal. The reason you date is to find out if a person is right for you to marry and she obviously is not so it is time to move on. Tell her since marriage is not a goal that you need to find someone with whom that might be the goal. Don't let her try to keep you around. It's not right.
2007-07-19 14:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually my husband and I argued about getting married and backed out twice. The third time I just made up my mind to marry him even if I had doubts and am so glad I did. We are very happy...
2007-07-19 14:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone for now. if the relationship is a good thing then there is no sense in breaking up. so what if she doesn't want to get married does it really mean that much to you? either find out why she doesn't want to get married and try to help her come around that. or just tough it out.
2007-07-19 14:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by asguard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋