Quick and simple......
Someone from my past has been on my mind lately and I would like to write them a letter just to see how they are doing. I don't want a relationship, or cause confusion, I'm just curious to see how things are going. The thing is he is married. I don't want anything from him at ALL. I only want to write a letter! Should I or should I not?
2007-07-19 07:30:19 · 42 answers · asked by W.O.W. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you should. If you are like 90% of the female population, then you are protective and slightly (or majorly) jealous when it comes to your man.
Would you want some random girl from your guys past writing him a letter? Think about it.
Wouldn't you be thinking what her intentions are, and why all of a sudden she is wondering how MY hubby is doing?
You don't want to break up a happy home. Everyone thinks about friends and people from their past once in awhile, it's human nature of course.
But sometimes due to current situations (i.e. him being a married man now) some things and people just have to stay both in the past and only in our memories.
I'm sure it's not going to kill you to not write him, and i'm sure you'll save his wife a lot worrying, and him a lot less bruises and no broken ear drums!
I mean think about this too, If you do write him, and things go bad, I don't think he'll take it out on you, but do you really think that with the grief he'll be recieving, he's gonna be thrilled that he heard from you? Who knows....but just think if it's really that important to you or not.
Good Luck!
2007-07-19 07:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
No No No don't do it. Especially if he's an ex. If my husband got a hi and hello letter from his ex, I'd be pissed. You know why? Cause she should not be thinking about my husband and should be thinking about other things. You guys broke up for a reason and now that theres a past between the two of you, just stay away. There will be confusion if you try to contact him even if you don't want a relationship. So if you don't want anything, why are you so compelled to write a letter? Just know that he's married and rememeber the good times you shared.
2007-07-19 07:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by sun day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Morning W.O.W......I wouldn't, since he is married and it might cause friction between him and his wife. Some wives can't except "old gf friends" and the innocent intentions from a phone call or letter from the past so do speak. Now if you had met him at a social function or a school reunion that would be different since this is the reasoning behind reunions to meet with old friends and school mates but unfortunately this isn't the case here. So to avoid a conflict between him and his wife, I don't believe I would write him a letter. Hope this has helped. Take care and have a good day!
2007-07-20 02:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write the letter, then put it in a drawer for a month. Then take it out and consider WHY you want to contact this person. Are you just feeling lonely and nostalgic? Nothing wrong with that, but it isn't a signal to reach back into your past.
2007-07-19 07:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully by now, you two have moved on and matured enough that a simple friendly letter should mean nothing. As long as you don't put anything in there about your past or any feelings you still have, I think it is a good idea. However, since he is married be wary that the Mrs. might not be so thrilled.
2007-07-19 07:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by kmputman 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, I would not lower myself into sending a letter to ask how my ex is doing. You will make yourself look desperate. Also, I would not be going to all this trouble of asking on yahoo and putting so much thought about someone I was just curious about and wanted nothing from.
2007-07-19 07:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO, Let it go even if you want to be friends just let it go, i did the same thing and wrote a letter to an old married friend just to ask how he was and all hell broke loose. I really regret ever contacting him .
2007-07-19 07:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have felt the same way, wanting to know about an ex-boyfriend, from years ago, that I almost married. I wanted to contact him, and return his baby pictures he gave me way back when. He is also married. It's a hard question. I would love to know how his life is and has been, but I can't bring myself to write him. One day I plan on just mailing back his pictures, with a note saying something like "I've had these for years, and they belong to you...take care"... I wish you luck in your decision.
2007-07-19 07:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this: Would you want your husband getting a letter from someone in his past? Think of how you'd react and then you'll have your answer!! It may be innocent to you but his wife might think otherwise. Let it go!!
2007-07-19 07:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop lying to yourself. When someone from the past comes to my mind I pray for them and move on. How would you feel if someone wrote your husband a "letter"? Move on.
I agree with Shorty 22
2007-07-19 07:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by crystalonyx3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋