What to do? Grandmother insists on calling baby by his initials?

Question

This would be the babys great grandmother, my grandma. She is obsesed about calling my baby by his initals his name is Logan William and she wants to call him LW. I dont like it and I have told her I dont and That I do not want her to call him that, Any other suggestions or am I just stuck lol. He is not even born yet for goodness sakes lol Im 33 weeks. Any one else had a similar problem? I guess its not a hudge deal but I dont like LW and she just says the letters, L and W so its kinda dumb to me and one out there with any advice? lol I dont want to be mean or anything but it drives me crazy. Thanks

Please only serious answers and anyone wanting to be rude can pass up my question. thanks!

Answer 1

you can keep insisting on her calling him by his name and not initials but theres not really anything you can do to force her. Grandparents can get stuck in their ways and its hard to convince them. Seeing as how the baby isn't born yet I wouldnt stress too much about it. She may after seeing him think "well he's not an LW... more of a Logan". Don't stress.

Answer 2

I understand what you mean. And besides - Logan Williams is a very distinguished sounding name. I bet it looks real nice on paper. But, really, grandma means no offense, so we should not take offense. Some people just like to use initials. Using his initials does not change him or who he is. As Logan gets older and finds his identity, he may find that he likes to be called Logan, LW, some other alias, or some other name. And his preference of what he wants to be called is nothing that can be controlled by you. As long as grandma is not calling him anything derogative - dont sweat the small stuff. I am sure that you will be calling him Logan, so he will definitely know what his name is. Ask yourself, what difference does it really make for grandma to call him LW?

Answer 3

She probably just wants to connect with him in a way that's strictly her own. It'll be her pet name for him and hers only. It may bother you a little, but it makes her happy. Does she live close by, how often do you really see/visit her? Additionally, this will be her great-grand baby so I'd assume she's getting up in years, how long will she be around? Maybe, you should bite your tongue and let her have her simple pleasures.
And don't worry about him growing up confused about what his name is, as his parent you're still the dominant figure in his life and whatever you decide to call him will take hold.
If you think LW is bad, just wait until he's in school - he'll come home with the strangest (and sometimes disgusting) nicknames you've ever heard.
On a personal note, my father calls my son by his first and middle name or even just his middle name. It drives me nuts too, so I completely understand how difficult it is to grit your teeth and not shout "that's not his name!" But fighting it really isn't worth it since it's no big deal.
If you're really absolutely against it and you're willing to hurt your grandma's feelings for it, once he's born tell her kindly "Please call him Logan." or something and continue to tell her whenever you hear LW.
Good luck and congrats on the baby.

Answer 4

I have had a similar problem myself. You can tell her all you want that you don't want her to call him that, but sometimes people just won't listen. How I took care of the situation was I refused to acknowledge any questions asked when somebody referred to my daughter by their nickname. Either don't answer or say "I am not sure who you are talking about. I don't know an LW" which forces them to call him by his given name. I hope it works for you...it did for me!

Answer 5

If you've already told her that it bothers you and you don't like it you can try telling her that it might confuse the baby about what his name is by hearing two different names being told to him and you can even tell her the doctor told you that at least till they get older not to do that it might work you know how old lady can be some times they can get stuck in there ways other wise just try and not let it bother you so much.Good luck and congratulations on the baby.

Answer 6

I know this is probably aggravating to you, but look at it this way. His great grandma has a special name for him when he visits her. Perhaps someone in her past had these initials that she cared for very much and she just likes it. If everyone else is calling him Logan, he won't be confused. You only have your grandma for a short time and then they are gone. Is it worth all the fuss?

Answer 7

Hopefully, if everyone is calling him Logan, she will as well. my only suggestion would be to tell her everytime she calls him LW to say his name is Logan, Grandma but in a very nice way.

Answer 8

your Grandma has her own name for the baby she means no disrespect at all,to her it is her bond to your baby.enjoy it many kids don't ever know their grandparents.my moms parents hated my name and in fact most of my moms family insisted on using my middle name.one day i asked my Grandpa why he called me Darlene instead of Robyn like everyone else.he said Darlene i wouldn't call a dog Robyn!i was only 6 but i accepted it even though it didn't make sense to me.i have one grandson and when my daughter said she was naming him John Glen after his dad but not Junior i was not happy.i really wanted his name to be different than his dads but i adjusted and call him by his name.it will all work out don't worry about it! good luck.

Answer 9

Sounds exactly like my husband's family. They all either call them by their initials, or 90% of his family is called by their middle names. I have this fear they will do this with our child too. I told myself that if this happens I will just have to sit down and explain to them that we named our baby his/her name because that is what we wanted him/her to be called, and that we would really appreciate them respecting our wishes and calling our child by the proper name. I never understood why they would give a child a particular first name and then call them by their middle name, why not just name them what you want them to be called in the first place? But the majority of the people in his family are named that way, regardless of gender.

Answer 10

Well, there are worse things she could call him, LOL! Besides, when he's older, it might be endearing to him that great-grandma had a special nickname for him. Maybe you should tell her you're going to name him Ignacious Paul; I bet she'd think twice about saying "I P" a lot, especially in public!