We argue daily..i would not want to see her with anyone else and i believe she feels the same..but by the same token i am not arguementive by nature and it is severely disrupting my system. The 'fights' arent 'serious' however, i dont feel we/I should argue as much.
Input please.
2007-07-19 07:03:14 · 9 answers · asked by Quasi 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
1 more thing.. my gf says I am the 'hot head' and that there isnt a problem. I severely disagree.
2007-07-19 07:04:49 · update #1
Well arguing daily isn't healthy for anyone.. Maybe you guys need to take a time out from each other or try talking to each other at night about things that are bothering you.. Also when she does things that really make you mad wait till you calm down before you discuss them... And the same for her.. After calming down it may not bother you anymore.. Sometimes when I'm mad I get even more irritated by the stupid things she does but when I'm not it doesn't bother me at all.. Does that make sense?
Well I hope this helps... Take care..
2007-07-19 07:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by precious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maye some couples counsling is in order here. ALL couples go through random phases where it seems as if every other conversation leads to a fight, serious or not so serious. But if u dont overcome these phases in a timely fashion with as much love amongst eachother as before, or better yet, even MORE love... then it may be time to allow a un-biased 3rd party to observe and analyze the situation.
There could be underlying problems there that only the right questions will bring out. Find an experienced LGBT therapist and give it a try. It couldn't hurt at all.....
95% of 2006 was spent with my girlfriend and I fighting, arguing, yelling, crying, etc...not a pretty sight and not a good feeling personally. BUT we patiently worked through it and are having a really great year (for the most part. lol) So it's very possible to get over this slump. Also, as Tracer stated, maybe some time away ALONE with a few erotic stolen moments will release some of the tension.
Good luck.
2007-07-19 07:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you guys get much time apart? I have found that a lack of personal space makes couples nit-pick at everything the other does. Every day shouldn't involve an argument - regardless of whether or not it's serious. Maybe you guys need some space, maybe find a few different friends (who don't know each other) so you have something new to talk about, or a way to decompress. Sometimes frustration is an underlying issue, and then it snowballs from there. If you can get yourselves out of the routine things should get better. When the 'fighting' starts, maybe you should both go think about what you're fighting over and the relevance it has.
What not to do: point fingers! Laying the blame on one another is a surefire way to keep it going. Even if you don't mean it, going to your partner and apologizing can help ease the tension.
2007-07-19 07:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by jae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to try and make it work, I agree with everyone who said go to counseling. But, sometimes, even with the best intentions- two people are just not right for each other and it can be very hard to come to that conclusion, and to find a gentle way out of the relationship. Either way you both decide, give it your best effort and treat each other with respect and dignity. There are brighter days ahead.
2007-07-19 07:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by quirky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 16:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by evert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguing is not fun, and if you seem to be getting depressed in the relationship, and you have exhausted all possible solutions to end the arguing. I would say that its not healthy for you to stay in the relationship especially if its reaking mental havoc on your body and system.
2007-07-19 07:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
daily arguments are typically a sign of repressed issues. it would be good for both of you to see a therapist so the issues can be uncovered and dealt with.
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2007-07-19 07:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce, kidding. Spice up your sex life, buy some sexy undies and plan a special weekend get away.
2007-07-19 07:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by TRACER ™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 4 years you should be ready to have kids with your spouse.
2007-07-19 07:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋